my b/f gets mad at every little thing I do, but when I get mad "I need to chill out" he always flips arguments if he does somethin wrong and im upset hell hang up on me or tell me that I nag...when just the other day he could have been nagging about the same issue...he makes me seem like the nagging crazy g/f but yet doesnt mind that hes the crazy controllin b/f...and when I do say how come u can do it but i cant he switches it by sayin Im childish...I can never win
the other day like usual he doesnt hear a word i say on the phone which is frustrating when I have to repeat myself, but when I do it to him Im wrong...whenever i talk to him on the phone and began to talk he always cuts me of and says hold on im watchin somethin or hell just rudely have a convo with someone in the background... should i chill out and hope for the best b/c i love him? (cuz wat i have been doin which is doin wat he does so he can see his wrongs only backfires?)
2006-08-13 15:40:36 · 19 answers · asked by kym b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey chick, we have a problem here, you cannot control him but you can control you. if you try to chill out and hope for the best you will instead be hurting your self. you will end up liking him more and the more you like him the more you hope for the best,
then you start giving up important things in your life, just to change him into something he is not and maybe was never, just a figment of your imagination. even though it will be hard, be a woman and make the right choice, tell him how you feel and go away. if he really cares about you he will be back, if he doesn't come back, well heck you saved your self from a lot of trouble, be confident and find someone else.
2006-08-13 16:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dieudonne' 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an interuption in his life. He wants you when he wants you. I have been that kind of B/F myself before. It is not right but the girl just could not get the hint that I was not as intrested in her as she was in me. And I hate to talk on the phone and I do like to watch my tv shows.
So you need to just quit calling and just go do your own thing. You will find out he will miss you after a few days and come checking up on you. Tell him you are busy at the minute but You will call him later. You don't have to tell him anything because if he was intrested in you he would already know where you are going and what you are doing. Because he would be with you. Right?
So he can eithe be the guy you want or you really need to find a new guy.
But watch him come running and begging. lol .
2006-08-13 15:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was impressed until that last line. Girl, dump him. You can't love someone that doesn't respect you. He is that stupid. Smarten him up. If he really loves you, he will see how ignorant he is being. Or maybe not, but, you can't live like that. It is true that women mature faster than men. I think if you go after an older man, he could match your maturity level. Congrats on seeing things for what they are.
2006-08-13 15:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's stupid and you should look for someone who is going to give you the kind of respect and attention that you deserve. Obviously, he doesn't care about you enough to make the changes neccesary to make the relationship work, so why bother? Too many guys out there to obsess over one. Trust me girl, I had the same issues. You need to let it go...for your sanity.
2006-08-13 15:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him! He obviously is an immature, selfish, self-centered jacka$$ who does not respect you. You can do better. Treating him how he treats you will not do any good...he's a loser who just won't get it 'cause he is so self-centered and selfish he can only think about himself and how everything affects HIM. You think you love him but why? He so doesn't care enough about you and your feelings to put a little effort into your relationship. Believe me.
2006-08-13 15:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your boyfriend. Like it or not. Make a decision based on what you want out of life. Is this really what you want? Try making a list of the pros and cons of both staying with him and leaving him. Good luck to you.
2006-08-13 15:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by Cherie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away from him,you deserve better,that's what is wrong you take abuse and still love,neither one of you can be happy.Get away now find someone who really cares and treat you the way you should be.Most likely you are young and will take it,but that doesn't matter someone is out there for you.
2006-08-13 15:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go find i better man hun, one that will love and respect you..this guy sounds like a hypocrite and a jerk (sorry to say it)..either you break it off or you have to have a long serious talk with him about it..you dont deserve the crap that hes dishing out
2006-08-13 15:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by hahtnamas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do yourself a favor .....get rid of him...love? that doesnt sound like love at all....why are you wasting your time on a person who cant even hear you out..its a one sided relationship..and you could be gettin taken for a ride(meaning...what i just said...one sided him him him and where is the you...its suppose to be a you and him thing( US) you should tell him and all i hear is you you you its that selfish self bull s...t!!!id have to get rid of him...
2006-08-13 15:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by BLUEEYES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should look into getting a different more loving boyfriend.
Agression isn't a fun thing to deal with.
2006-08-13 15:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋