What whould you do differently if you could do it all over again? Looking back, any big mistakes you made with your parenting choices?
2006-08-13 15:02:45 · 10 answers · asked by Peace 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Absolutely, and lots of them. My kids are still young, 8 and 11, but I yelled too much, because I didn't take the time to learn about effective parenting. As a result, our relationship, especially with my son, can never be as strong and trusting as I'd like, because he always fears my temper.
The biggest thing I tell new parents, is that the art and science of parenting has been studied to death, and there are lots of good guides out there for every stage and age. Go to the bookstore and library and spend some cash - it's the most important investment you'll ever make.
2006-08-13 15:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have only been in this role 8 years, and I already have regrets. I knew one thing going into this...You can damage a child Psyche very easily..So I thought i was doing everything pretty good. Being careful to communicate clearly at their level.. The other day my 8 year old says .."do you remember that song you used to sing to me when I was little?" I said "the goodnight sweetheart one"". He said yeah, and busted down crying. I was all "baby what is wrong" He said " I thought you were telling me that you were going to leave me, every time you sang that song." People he was like 2 1/2 -3. It crushed me. For years he thought i was going to leave bc of a song. The song was from three men and a baby...goodnight sweetheart, well it's time to go... I don't think you can be a parent and not have regrets..Children are delicate...and sometimes you mess them up without even realizing it. But hopefully when they are grown and have families, they will judge with a little more understanding.
2006-08-13 15:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by adrein_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could do it all over again..... I would've demanded my husband to quit smoking!!
But no regrets, at least not yet. My daughter will be 14 ( YIKES!) tomorrow,my son 10 next Monday (21st).
I've been told numerous times that I'm doing a great job raising them alone.My husband passed away from lung cancer when our daughter was 11, son was 7. I often told him he was the "better" parent. He always had more patience and was a bit more strict with certain things. In his last days he told me " I know you'll do a good job and I will always be right here (pointing to my right shoulder),to help you along."
I find myself asking " What would Larry do/say?" when it comes to certain issues. I really have been told how great my kids are so I must be doing something right. They are well mannered / behaved and I see my husband in them every so often ( which is good).....and I do have more patience....but LORD help me with the teenage years though! LOL
2006-08-13 15:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by iamjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would kick his father to the curb before we got married (we were engaged when I got pregnant), and sue him for child support. It would have been a much happier home.
His father would have had to get off his a s s and do something, too; now he's 40, never had a real job, and out of money. (He was a trust-fund baby). Our son is 12 and has been living, happily, without his father for 7 1/2 years; his father did his best to tear me down for all of the six years we were together. I would have been a better parent without him.
2006-08-13 15:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by grinningleaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing i regret about the way i raised my boy is that i would talk more with him, and i think about this now that he is 11 yo, and he is starting to grow up and to change, and i´m not sure that he will be comfortable talking to me about his problems, and i am really scared that theres noone else for him.
2006-08-13 15:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by Popocatepetl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I wish I could change was not having enough money to be able to take my kids on trips.
Other than that I don't there is anything I would change.
2006-08-13 15:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by tigergirl301 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there isn't a book on parenting the only thing you can do is do whats best for you and your family. i have a 19 year old, a17 year old and 12year old. i wouldn't trade them for nothing in the world but sometimes they really work my nerves.
2006-08-13 15:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by sweet sexy san 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have regrets. I would have hugged her more, and loved her more. I would have put her first more, and not myself, I would have instilled in her more self confidence. I would have been a better example for her, I would have been more stable.
2006-08-13 15:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not have gone back to work for my first born's early months. it's so cruel to babies.
2006-08-13 15:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO REGRETS..MY BOYS ARE VERY GOOD AND HUSBAND IS VERY GOOD TO US!
I AM SATISFIED HOW OUR BOYS ARE TURNING OUT.
2006-08-13 16:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by +++++ SPOOK ++++ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋