If someone tells you they don't have a long time to live, but they've done nothing to change it, despite a great number of people's persuasion.. is it ok to feel more angry than sad?
2006-08-13 14:53:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes I feel you have every right to be angry. You care about them and would not want them to die. On the other hand you have the right to be sad. This is a person that you want to be around. What are they thinking, all the questions come to mind when dealing with this. Either way maybe this is the way they are dealing with this knowing they don't have enough time to spend. Depression hits people hard.
2006-08-13 15:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by Allen the Cat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Somebody is going to die, no matter what. It's a fact that you and I, no matter what we do, are someday, going to die. It is just a matter of when. We have no control over it. Sure, we can prolong life. Sure we can take medicines, we can get on machines that will help us live longer, but these are only temporary man made things. No matter what we do, it isn't going to stop us from dying. Why should we try to prolong life and feel miserable, when we can accept the fact that we are going to die, and just keep on doing what we have done and enjoy what we have as long as we can.
I just read the other day, of a fellow who got an artificial heart. It cost $120,000. He lived 6 more months, and then he died. His family had to declare bankruptcy. Shucks, I would rather have died, and known that the family spent $2,000 and had a good party to see me off.
Live your life to the fullest, and accomplish at least one of your goals. Then you can go out satisfied.
2006-08-13 15:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by rb_cubed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone is dying allot of emotions come out, from the family, friends and even the person dying. Sadness, hurt, and yes anger. My mother was terminal with cancer, treatments could have prolonged her life a little longer but dying was ultimate. She chose not to take the treatments and to live what days she had remaining to the fullest, with her family and friends. I'm not sure of your situation, but if the person is going to ultimately die they should make that decision, it alright to not understand and feel anger. When the time comes, the anger will go and hopefully the good memories that you have with that person will help you to understand their decision.
2006-08-13 15:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by tigerpaws 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They have accepted what is to come,and you should be suportive of that. You should talk to the person and tell them that you have to get it off you chest. Then get it out and over with. And celebrate life with them in the remaining time you have left! I know that I have a shorter time left with my family than I really want. We have decided to live every day as a party. We laugh lots, and I am getting things in order for them. I don't want a funeral, why the hell waste the money, have a party! Celebrate our life.
2006-08-13 15:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by suequek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone believes they have lived their life and are OK with dying, no one will change their mind. Enjoy what time you have left with them. It will be easier for both of you. Being angry will only be hard on them. Being sad about it is perfectly normal.
2006-08-13 15:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mimiat41 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Death will come to us all sooner or later, some accept that if it is gods will then let it be some will fight on. Its their life its their choice. We can all fight on as long as we want but the end result is still going to be the same and by fighting will it effect their quality of life there are many sides to look at before you stand in judgement of someone decision about their life
2006-08-13 15:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by stephen c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
each persons life is their own, although it would hurt you if it were a loved one. it is still their life and their decision, deal with it and be supportive. Unless it is a child then use the authority as a parent and make the decision for them.
2006-08-13 15:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone you know dies you always have mixed feelings of sadness and anger. Knowing they can prevent their death and was doing nothing would make me so mad I would give them a piece of my mind.
2006-08-13 15:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's normal to feel that way but try to be there with the person so they enjoy their last days. Share God with them too.
2006-08-13 14:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by scrdudie7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously they are content with what they are facing and can deal with it, you should learn to do the same.
2006-08-13 14:59:47 · answer #10 · answered by larechiga26 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋