my son is 22 and lazy?

Question

he doesn't want to study, he doesn't want to work
he does nothing
i know its my fault , i love him to much , and i spoiled him
i am thinking about : kicking him out of the house, maybe than he will start thinking and acting
am i right? talking to him doesn't work

Answer 1

yeah kick him out, so he know to work for his own. his old enough to survive in his own.

Answer 2

Well, I would quit thinking about kicking him out of the house, and just do it. If he's not going to school full time, and isn't holding down a job, sounds like it's time for a little tough love in the arena called "real life." Maybe after spending a few months experiencing what people who are uneducated make in this world, he'll be more inclined to study.

By the way, I don't think you can love your children too much, you can spoil them, but not by loving them too much.

Answer 3

Best thing is get him out on his own 2 feet.He will always sponge off you.Yes you spoiled him ,but you are not alone.This whole new generation is spoiled beyond belief.Get him to join the service and become a man.I went into the Navy at 18 and it was one of the best times of my life.He can learn a trade and become independent and most of all he can serve his country,like thousands of other brave GIs.

Answer 4

I have the same problem but I told my 23 year old son that if he wasn't going to go to school he had to work or get out. He believed me when I was handing him his bags and showing him the door. Now he works because he knows it takes money to live. I also made him start paying rent. He is an adult and it was time for him to take responsibility. You may love him but loving him also means making him grow up. It's hard but you can do it.

Answer 5

Isn't it funny how it's all women who are saying "kick him out"? Aren't females supposed to be the more compassionate gender?

Finding an entry-level job these days is hard, even for college graduates. I graduated with a four-year degree, have applied to dozens of jobs (soon to be "hundreds of jobs" by year's end), and have yet to be called in for a single INTERVIEW. Is your son TRYING to find work, like I am? If he isn't, then there is a problem. But if he's giving an honest effort and can't find work, then try finding leads for him through friends, co-workers (if you work), etc.

Answer 6

Don't kick him out, but don't give him any money. And make him do chores around the house, and wake him up early, so that he can go job hunting. 22 isn't too late for college, if he doesn't have a degree he should be in school

Answer 7

I think u are right. You should give him a date that he has to be out of the house by. I have a brother who is very lazy and he is my moms boyfriends son. We are giving him like a week to get his things ready to go. Maybe you should try to do that. i hope everything will work out for you, and good luck!!!

Answer 8

simply take him out to breakfast, tell him what your issues are,then tell him he has one week to take action on them. Then you tell him he has one week to action on these issues. If he doesn't take action, within one week, then you take him out for breakfast again and tell him the you would appreciate his forwarding address being as only one of you will be returning home this time. I had to do this with my son and by the end of the week, things started to come into shape because he knew that I always do what I say so he knew his time was short. That was 10 years ago and he is a most productive member of society today.

Answer 9

it's easy to say kick him out when it isn't your child, and no matter how old they are, they are still our children.

I WOULD give him an ultimatum though, tell him that he either gets a job, or he will have to leave your house in lets say 2 months or whatever.

I don't think I could ever throw my child out of the house, but eh..it's worth a try lol

GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

YES ! Quit spoiling him! When I was 22 I was married, owned my own home, went to college full time and held down a stressful full time professional job. Kick his butt out! There is no reason he shouldn't be doing SOMETHING with himself. It amazes me to see how 20 somethings want to act like teenagers still. They need to grow up and deal with being an adult. All of life isn't fun fun fun. Good luck, I'm sure it won't be easy!

Answer 11

You get no sympathy here, women have trouble of not pushing there kids at a young age. Your son will remain a bum for the rest of his life. At 22 years old he should have been in college or the military .