if they get you drunk and take you home...and when you passed out had sex with you. but your already having sex on a daily basis..its not liike its something new to you. how would you feel about this?
2006-08-13 14:45:59 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it didnt happen to mee..i just thought bout type of situation and wondered how different ppl would react to this..dont start giving me love advice lol..just curiouss
2006-08-13 14:56:29 · update #1
I'm a guy... personally I wouldn't really care past the fact that I wasn't conscious enough to get off.
However... It is technically Date-Rape in that situation since the person passed out can't actually give consent for that sexual act. It depends entirely on the person that is having this done to them and how they percieve the event. Whether it was a blatant disreguard for the unconsious person's feelings. It would aslo have to do with whether or not your bf/gf/husband/wife treats you with enough respect normally. It is possible for the incident to have been a misunderstanding. However, it is more likely that it was a date-rape situation.
I don't really think that being raped would make anyone feel too good about themselves. Though, personally. I've given my wife permission to jump my bones anytime she chooses, whether I'm conscious or not.
2006-08-13 14:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thought that comes to mind is, "Why would he choose an opportunity when you're highly inebriated to rape you?" Essentially, that's what rape is. At that point of intoxication, you were incapable of verbalizing "yes" or "no." I would seriously sit down with him and question him. Also, this probably isn't the first time he's done this. Just because you are married to someone, doesn't mean that they have privileged rights to your body... notice that I wrote YOUR BODY. Also, since you felt the need to question this in a public forum, I would say that the situation obviously gave you some food for thought. Go with your feelings. Don't be concerned if your feelings may be unpopular with him or with anyone else. I'm sorry that this happened to you. I hope that you are soon able to find peace.
2006-08-13 14:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, dont know about the rest of you, but I've been there. Me and My ex took turns being the designated driver on wold nights and many time I woke up hung over and she had had fun, didnt bother me a lick, I would have done the same back cept I hate women that just lay there.
2006-08-13 15:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh it is so impressive that you nevertheless experience that way. i have been with my husband for 3 years next week and that i think an same way. there is not any human being else contained in the international. I used to have a shopper that one and all the different women in place of work went stupid for and that i did not particularly care, he wasn't my hubby. it is a impressive feeling once you discover someone who you experience that way about. i desire you and your husband continually experience that way.
2016-12-06 11:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is healthy and happy I would be o.k. with it.
I once dated a girl and we had talked about that. She actually initiated the conversation, she said, if the situation ever came up she is comfortable with it.
This is obviously a very personal issue and each individual has to go by what is right for them.
2006-08-13 14:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by JFC I No 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would not like that at all but that is me so i would feel like it was a violated even though I was married to them they should have never have done that but then again that is me some people may like that but to me I this would be rape because you did not know and you may have not wanted to at that point in time .If they loved you they would have not done it.But then again that is up to the person on how she or he feels if they felt betrayed.
2006-08-13 14:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by kutiepye28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that they are sick. Sex shouldn't be done without the other person's participation, no matter how many times you have done it before. They should both be actively participating. Personally, I couldn't do that, I have to know that she is enjoying it. I don't like women that just lay there. So, for me, even if I was that horny, I wouldn't be able to do it anyway (not that I ever want to).
2006-08-13 14:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by socomgoat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would feel violated because I didn't have a say in what happened. Doesn't matter if we were having sex on a daily basis...it's wrong.
2006-08-13 14:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by be_ez_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if you're married it's still rape by definition. I'm in the military and we get hours and hours and hours of lectures through basic training through tech school and in regular military life on rape, sexual harrasment and sexual abuse. It's weird that you can still be raped if you're married, but it's true.
It would feel weird, I've had my husband make me do sexual things to him when I didn't want to at the time, but you get over it.
If it's a b/f or g/f I think it would be different. I wouldn't be ok with it. I'd be mad at them, but then again, you'll get over it.
Did this happen to you?
2006-08-13 14:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by chica123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Myself, I would feel very disrespected. I would also relay this to my mate. I am married and if my wife did that, I would be pretty upset. I mean, it's nice to be woken up by your mate caressing you or some other things, but if I didn't respond within like 5 min or so, then I would expect her to wait.
2006-08-13 14:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by bones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋