How do you handle anger?

Question

I don't mean crazy psyco anger....but like the kind from flying off the handle, short fuses, tempers..and stuff. And how do you prevent yourself from saying hurtful and mean things when you are really ticked?

PS...I guess the only good thing I can say about it, is that I don't hold grudges because I get it ALL out, right then and there!

Answer 1

Same way you get to carnegie hall - practice my boy,practice, and from finding out the hard way what not to do- and earning yourself an anger management course.Or my girl.

Answer 2

Counting to ten works better for men than for women. If you notice you're really ticked, say so and ask for a break: "I'm about to fly off the handle, so I'm going to go for a walk (go in the other room, hand up, etc.) and when I come back we can talk". You can say that angrily if that's how you're feeling: notice no hurtful words but the message that you're angry is given loud and clear. While on the walk or whatever you choose to do to get some space (don't drive when angry!), don't ruminate about how wronged you are or how wrong the other person is. Instead, focus on telling yourself that there is likely a misunderstanding and that you are going to try to find what is going on with the other person, take a deep breath, and return with the honest intention of understanding the other person's perspective. If the other person really has intentionally wronged you, though, then go ahead and yell if warranted. Good luck.

Answer 3

Well, you can't bottle it up inside. Personally, I try to direct it into some constructive fashion. If someone at work makes me angry, I usually will start working much harder and faster, and soon I find that I'm just hyper and not angry at all anymore. Direct it into something constructive, don't deny the fact that it's there. Anger has a purpose, it's there to try and fix things that are going wrong. Always try to do what is right though, despite what your feelings might be telling you to do. Just don't bottle it up inside, whatever you do. You'll end up exploding on somebody and they won't have even seen it coming. (If someone in particular is causing the problem, maybe it would be a good idea to cool off and talk to them in a rational manner about why you are unhappy with their actions...)

Answer 4

I look at them remember how much I like them if it is friends or love them if it is family and then walk away saying I am coming back later to talk. With strangers I try to ot say anything because I believe you never know when you are going to need someone for something.

Answer 5

I usually go to the beach an hour before sunset sit in my car, listen to some jazz, and just chill out looking at the ocean and sunset.

Answer 6

Try understanding things from the other's point of view... That helps... Also, forgive them... That REALLY helps... Wait until you calm down and can give a controlled response...

Answer 7

Try to stay away from what makes you have these anger fuses.

Answer 8

Taking a few deep breaths and trying to empty my mind.

Answer 9

if im not at home i usually get into a frame of mind like "dont talk to me dont look at me and i'll bite ur head off if you get too close" ... but i keep it inside... then usually someone will be nice to me and it snaps me right out of it ...at home i will workout or beatup my punching bag to relieve it ...when im pooped i dont get mad.

Answer 10

i handle it by taking a few deep breaths and then i go to my room to read a book