My husband had a heart attack last week and it was the scariest time in my life. He is home now and still weak not able to do much. Today I tried all day to talk to him as I knew he was down but he wouldn't say a word, then his mother called, only three weeks ago she told him to stay out of her life, and he was all smiles chatting away with her then as soon as she hangs up he is all quiet again. This really bugs me. I am trying to tell myself it doesn't mean anything but it still hurts that he is shutting me out and the ones that hurt him are the only ones he is letting in. Am I just being to sensitive.
2006-08-13 14:27:18 · 6 answers · asked by Martha S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow, I'm sorry you have been through that. It must have been quite a scare. I'm sure your emotions are still really intense and you are still in a bit of shock from it. It makes you really think about what life would be like w/out him...you realize how precious life is and how quickly it can change.
Yes, you are being a little overly sensitve, but don't get down on yourself for it.
If I were you, I would just try to put that concern on hold until your husband is MUCH better...like in about a month. You could bring it up nicely and just tell him that you felt hurt and ask him why he thinks he was so quiet with you, but not with his mother.
Remember, he is NOT himself yet.
If this is the first time you have felt this way, then I definitely wouldn't read a lot into it.
If this is just the most recent time, and he does stuff like this often, then when he is past the recovery phase, talk to him about seeing a therapist together.
Good luck.
ps. plus, you probably haven't gotten much attention or help in dealing with this since everyone, even you, has been focusing on him since this happened. you probably just need someone to talk to or an outlet for your feelings, and you will feel much better. I can understand how this would be hard to talk to others about, and easier to talk about in a forum like this one)
Hope this helps.
2006-08-13 14:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by lorgurus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband will talk with you when he is ready. He probably didn't want to make his mom think he was as bad as he is because he wants her to stay out of his business. He is letting you see his real feelings, and he is probably as worried as you are. He just faced his own mortality, after all. Remember, too, most women like to talk out their problems and many men do not. Don't take it personally. Just be patient and try to be cheerful. He'll come around.
2006-08-13 21:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way, sounds like his parents have him wrapped around their finger. Just take good care of him and ignore the others. You will win in the end but hopefully your husband will be back on his feet soon.
2006-08-13 21:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's really hard for you right now, don't forget it's got to be even harder for him.
Hang in there.
2006-08-13 21:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by squirellywrath 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre gonna act in your personal life, according to yahoo answerers responses? i wont do that if im in situation..
2006-08-13 21:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just let him empty his mind a little while
2006-08-13 21:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by Frozen_hrt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋