what do i do when my wife of 12 years says im tired of our relationship but i love you?

Answer 1

Well the love comes from the fond memories shes had with you.Now if shes tired of your relatioship then ask her if theres anything you can do to better it, maybe you need to spice things up, keep her guessing surprise her,theres a lot of things you can do. or seek counseling.

Answer 2

Maybe you both need to have a talk about why she feels this way. Maybe she just feels her life has become a routine and needs some change. You should try to take a vacation with her somewhere that she always wanted to go. Try to bring the romance back in your life like cooking her dinner or breakfast. Giving her a massage, or helping her with house work or looking after kids, etc. Try to do this on a weekly basis if not daily so that she feels stressfree and has days to relax.
I dont think divorce is a good idea if thats what she's thinking of. Try your best to make things work for each other.
Good luck!

Answer 3

Take a vacation....just you and her. No kids, no work, no cell phones. Go somewhere romantic, but don't run all over the place trying to see all the sites. That will just make you tired and cranky. If you can't afford to travel, try to find a place that isn't too far away. Is there somewhere you have both wanted to see or do? I hope this doesn't sound corny, but rediscover why you fell in love with one another.

Don't talk about work or anything like that. Remember when you were younger? What kind of stuff did you talk about? Talk about what you liked (or still do like) about one another.

Answer 4

Talk with her and find out if she has any ideas as to what she wants to do. Has she moved on and just hasn't filled you in until now? Does she want to do more things together? Does she want to go back to school? Does she want to take a hobby class together (stained glass is fun for both)? Fencing is great too - great way to 'fight' sometimes - plus it looks so damn cool.

This is occurring because growth in the relationship is not satifactory for both partners - people are different so you may not ever had known. This could be somewhat of a mid-life crisis for your marriage. You may be in a place to make some constructive changes that not only add longevity to your marriage but happiness and excitement as well.

Answer 5

i am a wife and i recently start to feel the same as ur wife. we are married for 6 yrs.. i still love him dearly.. we have 2 beautiful kids and evrything is good..but i just feel that everything seems to be the same froever...like everyday i woke up, i like a zombie doing the same thing.. maybe i need a surprise or sudden changes in my routine.. or just a short break from my everyday routine.. maybe ur wife need the same thing as i..

Answer 6

Get her to expain exactly what she wants. What she says may hurt, but it will help her realize that being tired of the relationship and still loving you are not compatible...

"So what you're saying is..." then re-word what she said so that it sounds as lame as possible.

"So what you're saying is that even though you love me, you don't want to do anything about it?"

"So what you're saying is that you want out of this marriage... even though you still love me?"

Answer 7

Talk to her and see what she wants to do at this point. Stay together as companions or move on and find someone else.

Answer 8

ask her if she wants to work on the relationship or want to move on...NOW is the time to really LISTEN to her and DO something if she wants to work things out...counseling is where you START.

Answer 9

she wants more! and she is willing to try with you. but if you don`t you might find yourself with only half your stuff. and a very large lawyer bill.

Answer 10

what shes saying is shes bored,and no longer in love with you.loves you but not in love with you. big difference.