Not because its not possible but just because they don't want to or so that they can have some "privacy".
2006-08-13 14:05:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think they are very selfish and ungrateful. They quickly forget the long hours their parent/s worked to provide them with food, shelter, clothing and other basic necessities. They might have their own kids but yet fail to see the time, responsibility and sacrifice it takes to raise children and how much their parents had to give up for them. It's even worse when it's a large family where one of the children could have took them in.
I don't agree with this attitude I need my own life, I don't want to be burden with them, well they were burden with you for years and they did it out of love. Interesting they might dump them in a home and not even vist, but they will show interest when they die and they get their hands on the estate.
It's like when they grow old, they have out lived their usefulness to their selfish ungreatful kids.
2006-08-13 14:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by xanadu88 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Putting elderly parents in a nursing home or other assisted living facility is the hardest decision many people make in their entire lives. It doesn't prove your love to take care of an ailing parent who needs a lot of help in daily life if you can't do it all by yourself. This is true even for people who don't want to take on this responsibility or who simply value the quality of their own lives. Those are valid, legitimate reasons all by themselves. Of course, I am referring to people who also have just as much of a concern for the quality of their parent's care and living situation. For the vast majority of people who choose the option of using a "home" for a loved one in this situation, this is without a doubt the case.
2006-08-13 14:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by juniperflux32 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably best for the parent in that kind of situation. If the children don't want to take care of them, then it's obvious that the parent isn't taking care of themself & is in need of the help of the nursing home.'
2006-08-13 14:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad because our parents took care of us all their lives and now when it's our turn to return the favour we put them on someone else.
I think our parents also gave up their privacy when they had kids. And yet they brought us up with love and kindness, not to mention patience. So, why can't we do the same?
2006-08-13 14:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by white_falcon21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people were not blessed with the patience it takes to take care of a person who needs "round the clock care". They are not monsters, but are actually giving their parents what they need... a safe place to live.
From what I have heard, sometimes it is really drainging emotionally and physically to take care of anyone, old or not, 24 hours a day. Sometimes, it's just better to have people who are trained for that to take care of them.
2006-08-13 14:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
me,mom and hubby tried to care for my grandma when she suffered an aneurysm in her head well we took care of her for about 4 or so years but none of us could keep up on the demands
now she is in a home and she loves it, they have activities, including bingo,bands, b-day parties, BBQ's etc.. she even has a b/f now ..
so not all nursing homes are bad, just do some research before hand
2006-08-13 14:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Lisa♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should they take care of them if they don't want to? I wouldn't want my child to take care of me. I'd hope they had their own life to lead and their own children to look after. Any parent who guilts their kids into caring for them is pretty selfish. Lots of old people actually like living in homes - they get to be with people their own age and sometimes they even get laid. Good on 'em.
2006-08-13 14:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by JoeBones 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think they are rude sons or daughters, we owe our lives to our parents and putting them in a nursing home when they get old is a no no, and it's painful for the parents to live away from their children. they should pray that their children won't do that to them when their time comes
2006-08-13 14:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's a little less than honoring ones parents; but every situation and relationship between child and parents/inlaws is different. I want to becareful not to judge anyone lest I be judged.
2006-08-13 14:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by Waterboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents were nasty when the kids were growing up and sometimes the kids get together, cause lets face nobody wants them now so they pool their money and all pay for it. Somepoeple are really nasty when they are old as well.
2006-08-13 14:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by X's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋