The husband/father is abusing his wife and child. Counseling doesn't help as he sees the problem is his wife and son. Is it wrong in God's eyes for the woman to divorce her husband for the child's sake? Or does God say stay in the marriage and let the abuse continue?
2006-08-13 14:04:03 · 52 answers · asked by Patience 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There is nothing in the bible for divorce for this situation but they had other punishments at the time such as stoning and counseling by the elders. This is why one ought to be careful of whom one marries and not take the marriage vows lightly. You can tell if a person is abusive before you marry them if you take the time to get to know them. I cannot speak for God but if I were in that situation I would get out, you can always leave without a divorce. Only God knows the intent of your heart and he is very forgiving.
2006-08-20 18:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by # one 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Malachi 2:13-16 (NIV Bible)
When you always hear people saying "God hates divorce" well, just take a look at these verses and find out what God says about abuse. And by the way it is right after he says he hates divorce that he says he hates abuse. I had a friend whose husband put her in the hospital with broken bones and beat up face. Later she went for counseling at church and they asked her what she did to make him mad, This is crazy. There is NEVER a justification for a husband abusing his wife. And in the country I live in it is illegal to abuse a spouse or child.
Leave and find some peace of mind and heart. God bless you!!
2006-08-21 13:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by godsgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a perfect example that shows morality has nothing to do with religion.
Scripture is not the answer to moral questions.
Moralily will show the answer to moral questions.
Lets look at the abuse, and then the act of divorce.
Abuse
Is an innocent person being hurt? Yes
Are there any mitigating factors? No
Is an innocent person's life being adversely affected? Yes
Is the net consequence of the man's action negative? Yes
Now the divorce
Is an innocent person being hurt? No
Are there any mitigating factors? Yes
Is an innocent person's life being adversely affected? No
Is the net consequence of the woman's action negative? No, because it will free her and her son from abuse, and although there are negative effects on the man, it is far outweighed by the improvement in life, safety, and situation of the woman and her child.
Therefore, the abuse is wrong, and the divorce is right.
Put your bible on the shelf, and have faith in your brain, and put your love and trust in people!!!!
This is madness.
2006-08-21 05:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by Jeremy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortuatlly there is no Scripture about abuse in marriages. Most people leave the marriage because it is encouraged by counseling. God does not intend for abuse to be intended in the marriage. That's where the person can leave. I Corintians talks about marriage. Most of the time abuse accures is because the person is not a believer of there was abuse done in their homes as a child. They see the abuse and thinks it's OK. It's not. If you or someone is being abused by a spouse or loved one GET HELP NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-21 06:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by deb2rule 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible speaks of a few things that make it ok to leave a marriage. 1.If they are un believers and are unwilling to let you attend services and live the life of the Bible. 2. Adultry in any form. and 3. If one of the people in the marriage is abusive mentally or physically. You have a right to defend yourself and your children from abuse and if leaving is the way to keep them from harm then its better to leave then have a childs blood on your hands because you stayed. I hope I helped. I know where your coming from I myself have been in an abusive relationship. I will look during my Bible study to see if I can find the actual scripture that states this and I will email them to you. But I know for a fact there in there I have read them before.
2006-08-20 07:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the phrases that could possibly help you were removed by the woman haters hundreds of years ago. Marriage, like religion, is a manmade institution. If you stay with an abusive man, your son is likely to turn out the same or at least very troubled. Make up your own mind. If you don't look out for your kid who will? The bible does say that having children is a woman's salvation and brings us closer to god. Are you honouring your child by letting him see you be abused? Think for yourself.
2006-08-13 14:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by R. F 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I fully agree with both scripture quoted. Husbands love you wives as Christ loved the Church, Jesus sacrifice his life for his Church, the husband talked about is sacrificing nothing. Clearly disobedient to the Bible. Even in the places where the Bible talks about the man being a leader, this is not the world's definition of a leader i.e. boss or master. But the example of Jesus who did the job of a servant by washing the disciples feet. Also their is a point of view I gained from Dr. Laura. If she stays with the abusive husband then she is modeling for her son the wrong picture of both what is a correct marriage and in spiritual terms the relationship between Jesus and His church (often referred to as bride and bridegroom in scripture.) No man should ever be honored if doing so dishonors God.
2006-08-19 20:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by danhowell_diana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Colossians 3:19 says you husbands keep on loving your wivesand do not be bitterly angry with them While God hates a divircing he also dislikes abuse and if you're in physical or spiritual danger then God understands that, you need to protect your child too as well as yourself physicallly and spiritually, the Bible in Ephesians6:4also tells fathers not to be irritating theirr children these scriptures show that God has compassion for the lowly onesand expects husbands treating their wives with respect just like he expects the wives to treat their husbands with respect I would not dare to advise you to leave your husband because I have not seen your situation but you know and have seen it so you can and will decide what to do about ityou have the right to protect your child and yourself
2006-08-21 04:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by I speak Truth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't found it in the Bible either, but it does say to turn away from bad people, and that Jesus came with a sword to turn good against bad. In my humble opinion I do not think God wanted us to stay in an abusive marriage. If a person stayed in that marriage knowing the dangers, i.e., that the husband/father could end up killing the wife and son, then isn't the wife encouraging him to commit murder? Isn't it the parents responsibility to protect their child and bring them up correctly? If only one parent is willing to do that, then so be it - that is what God wants her to do. God wants us to do what is right.
The Bible does talk about holding people accountable for their actions, and if that person does not own up to it and does not change, they are not a part of God's flock and he will turn his back on that man - therefore God would have no problems about the wife turning her back on him.
2006-08-13 14:20:52 · answer #9 · answered by arvecar 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God is a God of Love no abuser even knows God, and the Bible says not to be unequally yoked with a nonbeliever. as a Christian you also have a right to ask God to deliver you from his abuse. if a divorce is the way God provides he is being merciful to the Man because God can end his life any time.
The Bible Says a Man is to Adore his wife, abuse is not obedience to God, you are free to do what you will. " Go with God all will be well."
2006-08-13 14:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by kritikos43 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋