God never gives something you can't handle?

Question

I have always had lust problem and recently it started to feel unbearable. I became extremely depressed and frustrated about the fact that my life is being controlled by the lust problem no matter how hard I try.
I have prayed so many times to God to help me be free of this problem but I keep struggling. I am 24 now. I have had it for 8 yrs. At this point, it seems like I am dealing with something beyond my power.The temptation of lust is very STRONG for me for some reason. It is not something I can just control at will.
And I am saying this after countless efforts and tries. I am truly fed up with my lust problem and I just wish it would go away. If any Christians could give me any insights or advice, i would appreciate it.

Answer 1

Many people have this problem. Maybe he is testing you. No one knows for sure. Just keep praying, try to control it, and it will get better. God often answers prayers in ways we never expected.

God Bless

Matt

Answer 2

That is true, God never gives you more than you can bear.

If it's a lust problem, try to not put yourself in situations where you would compromise your integrity, like do not be alone with someone of the opposite sex, stay away from anything even mildly pornographic (if there is such a thing) - books, movies, music and try avoiding everything ... EVERYTHING that would lead you into lustful situations.... even if it's a particular group of friends.

When you are in a situation that you lead you to do wrong, try to keep remembering your Lord and pray.

Find things that would occupy your time, so you would have less time to find yourself in lustful situations.

But, the best advice I could offer you to deal with lust, try to get married. You are 24 afterall. Once it's an option, please do so as soon as possible.

I am not a Christian, but I am a Muslim and chastity is very a important part of being a Muslim, as Muslims only believe that desires are only to be fulfilled within marriage bonds.

Remember also that there are many many others struggling with the same problem. You are not alone, so please, please, do not give up. Keep struggling ... in the end it would be worth it.

Answer 3

I believe prayer and lust cannot exist together. If you are lusting more then you need to pray more. If you are Catholic then I suggest praying the rosary and eucharistic adoration everyday if you can. Be relentless because if you stop praying for even one day it gives the devil room to work! Pray when you get up in the morning and pray when you go to bed and offer this trial and hardship to God. Avoid occasions of sin that trigger your lustful thoughts. This might be certain TV channels, magazines, newspapers or web sites. Fill your heart and mind with all things that are good in God's eyes. Many people will tell you that it is fine and it's only natural but remember that lusting after someone and finding someone attractive are two different things because lust is seeing the person as just a body that you can use for your own self gratification. Remember too, you are not alone in your struggle. I'll be praying for you. God Bless.

Answer 4

Keep praying. You hit it right on the head God does not give us anymore than we can handle. as far as advice goes, I really cannot give any, maybe you should talk to someone about this problem you have. There are people out there that can help you with those thoughts. We are all tempted throughout our lives and if I am to the point where the temptation is overwhelming I just pray harder to get that temptation behind me. Good luck and may God bless you.

Answer 5

Sometimes it feels that way, but no.
God always gives us a way out!

Part of the problem is possibly revealed in your answer --you are trying to control it. This has to be something you give up on and give it to God.

Have you tried Christian counseling?

I will pray for you. This is not an uncomomon problem for men and women, but it is something God can handle. Hang in there!

Answer 6

Get with a Promise Keeper or other mens group. You will find that many others have struggled with the same problem and when you have others to help and you to help them your problem can be controlled. Remember Paul had a thorn in his flesh that God wouldn't remove as a reminder of who he (Paul) was. Through group prayer and accountability you can overcome. God bless.

Answer 7

There is some other emotional issue behind your lust--some emotional void you are trying to fill, or something.

Have you tried talking to a counselor?

You are human, and need to understand that the key to changing is wanting to change. On some level, (subconscious, perhaps) you don't want to change, or don't think you can change.

Why we perpetuate behavior that is not what we want is hard to determine. don't give up on yourself.

There is one book, Every Man's Battle, by Steven Arterburn.

our society is saturated with signals that at the very least confuse, at worst can consume.

The one thing I would guess is that you are stronger that you are giving yourself credit for.

Answer 8

I would suggest sitting down and confessing to a pastor or spiritual advisor. If that is not possible, try just a couselor. You may have an addiction, try going to a support group. Keep trusting God through all this, and remember that he loves you no matter what.

Answer 9

There is no problem that is bigger than our God. He wants us to be "more than conquerors through Him that loved us and gave His life for us." I ask God to surround you with "true hearted" Christians who can love you when you cannot love yourself in the name of Jesus, Amen
Seek counseling and support groups. There is a Christian support group for everything today. You are not alone. Keep asking God to direct your steps. Tell Him you can't and you are powerless over these sins. And be ready to give Him the glory. Because it is true . . you can't do it by yourself. Let God and others help you. And someday you will be able to give your testimony to someone struggling as you are now.
We are saved by "the blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony."
Peace be with you,
Cathy

Answer 10

I think sometimes the old man upstairs is unfair, but I do believe it is for a reason. I had similar problems before I was married, my husband called me a nympho. but when he went to iraq, I just had to focus on how much I love him, and I have been more loyal than any of the other army wives I know. choose something else to focus on, I started projects like knitting and crocheting. goofy as it was, it helped me through the deployment, and strengthened our marriage.