He's going to get lonely. He's going to go to the bars and hang out with friends. He's very good looking and very funny and out-going. I know he loves me, but will his lonelyness get the best of him? I'll be gone for at least 4 months. I've been in the Air Force for over a year. We got married before I joined, and he moved to TX while I was at tech school to be with me. He's left his family and awsome job to be with me. I trust him, but there is still that thing in the back of my head saying I should worry. I know he'll be worried that I'll cheat on him while away from him because I'm very attractive too. I wont because I love him, so why do I still worry. It's the same thing with him?
Are there any military folks out there who has an oppinion or been through deployments from either the dependent side or military side?
2006-08-13 13:03:56 · 23 answers · asked by chica123 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
As a soldier in the army we deploy for a year at a time and i have deployed twice. The ones who cheat Men and women are the ones who are not trusted. The idea is always in your head but if you trust him it shouldn't be a big deal. If someone is going to cheat worrying about it wont help if anything worry will cause you to say stuff and badger him and that will only make it worse. Trust him cause you love him and be safe overseas. Good luck
Cpl Rush
US Army Combat Medic
2006-08-13 13:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by Militarywiccan110 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Why would you marry him if you don't trust him? Secondly men that cheat are gonna cheat period whether their wife is 1000's of miles away or if she is just gone shopping. Why does he need to go hang out at bars? Why can't he invite guys over for a drink and BBQ? Why does he need to go where there will be temptation? Just because someone is "very good looking" doesn't mean they are a cheater. If you can't trust him for 4 months than how can you spend the rest of your life with him? Why would you join the Air Force when you knew this time would come and you are so insecure? You need to trust your husband. Otherwise, what do you have?
2006-08-13 14:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in the military for quite some time now as a security police and i have seen it go both ways. I have been deployed 7 times, and i have seen deployed married members cheat on their spouse who was faithfully waiting on them and vise versa. I think the problem is that perhaps you were too young to get married and it depends on how mature he is, and if he comes from a military family ( cause then he will know what to expect). Another thing; The shortest amount of time i have ever deployed was 7 months, so if he cant wait and keep his thing in his pants for 4 lousy months then get rid of him. I am happily married to a military brat, and i manage to keep my solider in his DFP for every deployment. Good Luck i think you may need it???
2006-08-14 08:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by kram_7777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my honest opinion, without knowing either of you personally on a level that I would be able to accurately judge the stregth of your relationship....
I think you shouldn't worry too much about it. If you trust your husband now, you should trust him always. It's only natural for a person to question the loyality of our loved ones when we are not in their presence, but to worry to a point that we make ourselves sick over it is not really necessary.
I know it would truly be a heartbreaking experience if you found out that your husband did cheat on you while you were away, but you have to take something from that experience and learn from it.
Just do your best to stay in touch, talk openly with each other and voice your concerns to him before you leave for your deployment. Honesty is always the best policy! And letting him know your concerns may make it easier for both of you.
Good luck dear!
2006-08-13 14:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by Gi-Gi Roxx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The test of the strength of love and Marriage is the hard times. Even when faced with indiscretions I will forgive all of the one i love. Being alone in a far away place can not be easy for our service men and women. In Nam it was very hard when you were thinking about how you would stay alive just one more day. When I would wake up I would first thank God I was alive one more day, then know that this day could very well be the last. Good Luck and GB
2006-08-13 13:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by jl_jack09 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not you are deployed, you should worry about your husband cheating.
But it all depends on your husband. I have a friend who was away from her husband when she joined the Navy and she will be again for 6 months. If you trust your man then trust him. There's little you can do but I say discuss it with him.
Even if you are gone, he still has NO RIGHT to cheat or be unfaithful.
2006-08-13 13:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ang_Bluestones 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting worried over 4 months...
If yall got married before you enlisted then he knows what its like to be away from you.
I just finished a year away from my family in Korea and never cheated. Its all in the relationship yall have...
If anything he should be worrying about you cheating. You are going to be like 1 of maybe 50 females on base. Dont know if you have ever heard of a desert queen....
2006-08-13 14:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by JB 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only ones who can answer that are you and your husband. I know husbands and wives who can't be apart for a two week deployment with the Air Guard without both cheating. I also know husbands and wives who have been apart for a year or more, and who didn't cheat. The deployment has nothing to do with that. If you and he are cheaters, then you will cheat. If you and he are loyal to each other, then you won't
2006-08-13 13:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about that kind of stuff... this will only eat you while you are away. I know what is like, but you have to trust isnt it what a relationship is all about? My guy said he loved me so much he was scared I would cheat on him while he was gonna be in Iraq, so he dump me because he didnt want to come back and know I cheated on him and I am still here waiting for him to come back and take back where we left off. Thoughts go in your mind and is normal, but you have to trust him!
2006-08-13 13:12:32 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats on you now, he'll cheat on you then, leopards don't change their spots. When I was in the Marines , I was single but there were to married guys that made friends and never left the base. They said they didn't want to be tempted in town and that was in Okinawa.
Just write often and remind him of your love and your loneliness.
When men cheat , opportunity is not the reason. Men justify cheating. Don't give him any reasons and don't accuse him.
Gung ho
2006-08-13 13:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋