I came home today from the hospital, had the baby on August 12. I presently have my 2 yr old daughter with me, and my husband can't afford to take off of work. My 4 1/2 yr old step son is comming home sometime this week(from his mother in TX). My husband is going to try and take vacation time next week. His work seems to always have an excuse as to why HE can't take off but other people that work there can actually have their vacation. I was just wondering how do I keep myself sane with 2 kids for now and then 3 when my step-son gets back? Luckily he starts school on the 28th, but thats still only for 4 hours a day(pre-k). My daughter is at a very demanding time right now and I just don't feel I can give her the attention she use to have and needs with baby around, and I can see a reaction from her. Seen it since she met baby. Please help especially if you have multiple children!
2006-08-13 12:53:42 · 7 answers · asked by lillady 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
in clued you daughter in the care and play time with the baby make it a game for her when you do things when the baby is napping try to do something special to her like playing with something she don't get to often or make it story time for her when the little boy comes him in clued him also when something bothers you like toys everywhere or dishes not done right after supper just remember next year you won't remember the mess but you will remember the time you spent with the kids all of them your husband may be in a postion of trying to make enough money or a promotion or just don't know how to handle the kids somepeople can't handle a house full of kids but just remember if he can't or don't want to be there he would be a pain in the butt if he was there and he amirers you that you can handle it. If you find yourself losing grip please call someone to come and relieve you tell your husband you need a break and hirer someone to relieve you alest a couple times a month Remember these kids didn't ask to be there so keep cool try to set up a schdule and stick as close to it as possible the kids will learn to follow it pretty good set some time for you girl you have a very important job
2006-08-13 13:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something has to go and its the house work. you can catch up some time in the years to come. I had 4 pre schoolers and I can tell that in the morning I hit the floor a running. Never stopped. Now is the only time you will have where you can spend time with you children and not short change any of them, not even the step son. Plan fast meals, crock pot or oven baked. Do activities where you can hold the baby and do thing with the other children. Its a job but looking back those years when the children were little passed by too fast.
2006-08-13 20:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by M. W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister has 5. 7mo, 5yrold, 9yr, 10yr. and 12yr old. she wenrt to work when baby was 2mo. and to school. where there is a will there is a way. you need someone to come and help you while you get used to the newborn. your husband should be able to take family leave off. it is the law. they get that time too. and then he can help with the older ones. when your newborn goes for a nap, rest. try to have the 2 1/2 help out by getting the bottles if bottle feeding, or stuff to help clean baby up. then the four yr old have help take care of 2 1/2. make that one feel the big bro/sis role. as well as the 2 1/2. they want to feel wanted and want your attention also. let them know that they will all get the attention, you just have to familiarize the new one with the houise rules. so give mommy time, but she needs you guys help till daddy get home. then get as much rest as possible. you will not function right if you are exhausted and tired. you will drive yourself and the kids crazy
2006-08-13 20:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad you have a husband. I had a 3 year old, and 8 month old and when I got pregnant again my husband decided he didn't want to have a wife and three kids. So I had a 4 yr-old, 17 mo-old, and newborn by myself. I went back to college when the baby was 2 weeks old and back to a full time job at burger king when she was 4 weeks old. Hemorrhaged. Not fun. The advice I have is to be stern. Too many parents today let their kid get away with murder because they feel that they owe them something. Be a parent, be in charge. Call your oldest living ( and coherent) living female relative and ask them what they and their children went through back in the day. Then lay down some rules.
2006-08-13 20:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sabrina the Adult Witch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can think of is if you have family near you, ask them for help. Or a neighbor, perhaps.
I am so very glad that my children are grown now. I applaud all you mom's. I know how hard it is. I was a single mom for most of my children's (I have two) childhood years. It's tough, but you can do it.
2006-08-13 19:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im good wit kids, mostly even if you're nice, there comes a time when you have to get mean, yell at em, show em who's da master of the house, dont let them get an advantage of you, if you do all of these steps exactly, you only have a 85% chance of succeding
2006-08-13 19:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by -*B*-Radicalll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i have one and that is tough..maybe u can find some family to help..you got ur hands full......good luck
2006-08-13 20:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Deshawn & Keshawn's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋