Obviously, at first my guy was very sweet, & all that jazz. Lately, he's been a bit meanier, doesn't watch what he says much anymore, & just talks to me differently. Not a huge difference, but it's big enough to notice. Alot of times, he seems to have the 'whatever, ugh..yep' attitude toward me. I've spoken to him about this. But he doesn't know why it's happening. i'm thinking it's because me may feel more comfy around me, but more comfy to be an asshole? *shrug* i'd just like some opinions on this. & please don't say 'dump him, he's ****' though I don't blame anyone who has that opinion, but I'm not asking if I should do that or not. If anyone has an idea of why he started doing this, that'd be great. (we've been dating for 8 months..if that would help)
2006-08-13 12:35:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him!
Ask him whats on his mind, and if somethings wrong that you are there for him. If he's not willing to communicate tell him that it's not fair for you to be left in the dark from this. If he's still not willing to talk to you, take a break from him. That doesn't mean either of you can see other people. Just giving eachother space, and still, if he doesn't agree to talk than that's when you break it off and know it's not worth it. If he is done with you, and that happens to be the problem, accept it. But don't just let go, if you truely care about him. Have a talk and the decision will come soon after.
Just be understanding.
Oh and I left out, that he may be treating you like a friend now. I believe the comfy idea could be true, but if that's how he's going to act then you two aren't compatible at this time. He may need to grow up a little with how to be with you.
2006-08-13 12:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Seinfeld 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. I've been guilty of doing the same thing to my last girlfriend for no good reason. I don't know enough about your situation to spit out the correct answer for you on the spot, but I can tell you what would've helped MY situation. My ex was the best girlfriend in the world in so many ways, but she had no interests of her own and no life outside of me and, well, I got bored with her. Maybe you should go out more on your own and put a little distance between the two of you. You might be getting too comfortable as a couple-unit and, in turn, losing your individuality and independence in the process. The only way someone can miss you is if you're not around all the time. Hope that helps or at least gives you food for thought. Good luck!
2006-08-13 19:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by embryoyo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well with out all the details very hard to answer. Definitely do not dump him, especially since you 2 do have communication. Not sure on how much you two are hanging out every day, or if you chat every day or not. Try just giving him some space, and try to just enjoy the company. If you think he is being to mean the way he is talking to you, head home or just basically take some time away. Best thing I could tell you is to read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Very good read and some parts are pretty funny. That is just some thoughts from a male aspect. I am far from being good at relationships.
2006-08-13 19:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jungle R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will find that a guy will taste you and determine your greatness and your personality will compass that and your integrity to boot. Your character is also a playright in the role of compassion. If any one of these fail in reaching top priority so will will your relationship because a male not only wants greatness in his mate, but he wants the full package as well.
Example......If a girl is great in bed, but has a poor attitude during dissagreements,,, the relationship fails.
Example......If a girl is sweet and kind with a very good body to boot, but her character is loose, the relationship will fail.
She must be rated highly as an indivudal, a person, and her well being with trust. She must compose herself in every fashionable trend to be pleasing to the opposite sex...if one of these fail, so will will the land slide fall. You can be the prettiest girl waliing on two feet that make guys look at you twice and probably excellent in bed making love, but if your well being is off, it will make a Man refrain from having sex again or he will not repxect you as much later down the road and it will show. When that happens, you have to pout yourself in check and regroup so that it never happens again. bed is one thing, reltionships is another.
2006-08-13 19:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well....my hubby was the sweetest man in the world until he started using crack. He had that "I don't give a ****" attitude. When I would tell him he was being an asss, he of course said it was all in my head. Anyway, I caught him and he got help and cleaned up. He is my hubby again...been clean almost 3 years. Anyway, if you wanna talk or have questions just IM me Froggiemamaof3 on yahoo. Goodluck!
2006-08-13 19:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by Froggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it, He is comfortable with you.....This must be the way he treats him other friends or even family. Sounds like this is his true personality. Can you live with who is really is? Maybe talking to him the same way he speaks to you might open his eyes to how you feel. More than likely it won't because face it men are not the most intelligent creatures on earth. If you can live with it the enjoy him as he is or you know what you heart is telling you...
lol
2006-08-13 19:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by faith m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's taking you for granted and maybe testing the waters to see how much he can get away with in the way of disrespectful, insensitive behavior. If you've only been dating for 8 months though and he's like this now, its likely to get worse than better. His true colors are coming out now.
2006-08-13 19:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really matter WHY your boyfriend has started treating you this way (poorly). The important thing is that he has, and you don't enjoy this treatment. It's a sign that he doesn't care about you, don't you get that?
2006-08-13 19:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like his dating mask is off and you are getting to know the real guy.
If you like the real guy, fine. If you don't, then leave.
2006-08-13 19:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is for sure that you no more excite him. He is going to dumb you in a few weeks at the latest. That is what I do when ı want to dumb a silly girl.
2006-08-13 19:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋