Be honest, can you really see yourself marrying someone outside of your race?

Question

I think tht most people go through a stage wher they experiment with dating people from different cultures, but ultimately want to settle down within their own race. I think that it is so awful to play with one's emotions like that!! If you can't see yourself settleing down outside of your race, then please do not date someone because it's the "in" thing to do...People do have feelings too you know!!! I don't care who I marry just as long as they are a good person, I just wish some people would take a good look in the mirror before they start a relationship!!

So both Ladies and Germs, can you marry someone of another race or ethnic background???

Answer 1

I don't think that I would have any kind of an exclusive relationship with any man that I wouldn’t consider marrying (at this point in my life.)
If the person I was dating was of any race other than white (the race I am) I think that yes, there could be more challenges in life and yes, you do have to consider how the relationship is perceived by other people, but really, who I love is about me and them. If I was totally in love with someone, I would in no way let someone else or social perception interfere with that.
To me... this question is almost like would you not marry someone that you'd never get over because someone didn't want you to? Or, would you consider marrying someone you didn't love because your culture was the same?
Honestly, I agree with you to a certain extent, some people go through "phases" where they feel a need to experiment with other cultures in a romantic way, but if both people are growing in the relationship (not just culturally, but also spiritually, and emotionally) and the relationship DOES come to an end, can you blame the differences of culture? I can't say that that is to blame ALWAYS.
Sometimes cultural differences are enough to keep some people apart in the world of love, but not everyone can be put in that box.
One of the main flaws in your question is the coupling of culture and race. Race is not culturally bound, and culture is not racially bound.
One of the most difficult cultural barriers for many people is that which is based in religion and although that sometimes also is rooted in racial differences, i.e. Islam (often peoples of Arabic decent) or Judaism (people of Israeli or Safardic decent) people compromise and God knows, fall in love all the time.
As much as I would love to be color blind... I'd love for this question to be properly phrased. Color and culture are different, ask my mixed-race child raised by Caucasian people and see what she has to say.

Answer 2

Yeah. My first wife was American of Russian-Polish-Irish extraction. My second was Czech and my third was Russian, as my fourth is soon to be. I myself am a Taino Indian-Puerto Rican-American. My step mother was 2nd generation German-American. What's the big deal? For me it has never been a problem dealing with people from different races. I guess I see people as people, maybe that's why I hate racists so much. I've had black, Chinese, and Mexican girlfriends too. I will tell you one thing, the Russians are the least racially conscious out of all. They do find blacks unusual mainly because there are so few of them in Russia, but I personally have never experienced the racism I lived with everyday back home. Widen your horizons, open your minds, and try to see people as people, we are all the same, each and everyone of us. The differences make us all richer.
Good luck all...

As for you buddy it sounds like someone played around with you. Maybe you are looking in the wrong place, or live in the wrong place. It doesn't sound to me like you really buy that "experimenting" stuff. Sounds like an excuse, not even yours.

Answer 3

I will be honest here. I was raised in the late 40's, early 50's. This was something that was not heard of very much back then and I was taught that dating outside of my race is something we did not do. It's pretty hard at my age to have different views on this subject for my personal self. However, I will agree with you 100% that this is becoming more common place and all races are human. It is pretty selfish to date outside of your race, become involved, and then decide it was a mistake to date someone not of your race.

Answer 4

Yes, there is no doubt in my mind that I would. It would be nice to ultimately marry someone with the same background as I and culture, but if the love was strong with someone of a different race and what not, I wouldn't think twice.

Answer 5

I could and i thought I was going to but i ended up marrying someone from my own race and we grew up the same way ( I don't think i have a culture unless it's poor white trash) I actually went through a stage where I only dated black men and i couldn't imagine being with anyone else. The only problem i had with relationships with men from other races is the other women in their lives MOMS SISTERS AUNTIES and what not I did everything I was respectfull, helpfull, I even washed dishes and she came over and said my water was too cold and started boiling water and pouring bleach in my dish water. The man in my life then thought that was normal because that's what he was used to and i was just crazy . The females would also say things to me that let me know I was not who they wanted with their strong man. Stuff he didn't hear. Also if you are always bringing up the differences " we had to go through this we had to go through that we got bad service because their racist " it wont work Also if your really close to your family no matter how much you guys love one another if you family is all Hispanic or African American or Chinese and your girlfriend boyfriend or whatever isn't. Your casual Sunday dinner isn't casual they have to worry not only oh is this shirt OK but hmmmmm is his /her family really OK with this???
Hey but true love conquers all

Answer 6

I married outside of both my race and religion.

I disagree that most people experiment and then settle down with their own. The truth is that only a few experiment and some of them settle down. Dating is hard and finding someone you want to spend the rest of your life with is even harder. Try not to be so judgemental. If it's meant to be it will happen for you.

Answer 7

I sure could. I have been out with women of different races. The only thing that makes me mad is when people have children and they get picked on for it. But who cares someone is always going to say something about you. I agree with you on this because people do have feelings. Make sure there is love there. I think age and color has nothing to do with it. I see us all as humans and do not look at skin color.

Answer 8

I definatly would marry someone of the other race and NOT be casue it is the in thing. I didn't even know there was an in thing.

There is a man in my life that I care deely for and it is't because of his color but it is becasue he is who he is. And his black skin is beautiful to me. Not because it is the "in thing" but because of who he is.

When I married long ago I married a guy who was identically like me racally and in all ways. It was NOT a good marriage.

Do you really think I would be with a man because of his color?
I was raised as a kids to see beauty in everyone. It is pure and simple for me. The rest of the world needs to work up to that sort of thought.

Can you tell me what has motivated you to ask this question?

Answer 9

I can honestly say yes since I am married already and my beloved wife is outside of my race and religion. This planet is getting much smaller and we are better off learning how to live together. We might even fall in love and get married and it is a lot of fun indeed. I know it is.

Answer 10

yeah you can and I did. my husband is white. Race doesn't matter so long as the person loves you and treats you right. But unfortunately there are those out there who care too much about what others think to marry someone or even seriously date someone whose not the same color as they are.