i lived in the same area most my life, i've tryed moving to usa 2 times and come back, 4 of my family members have died, one who was my mum, spit with my x off 4 years and lost alot of my friends, i tryed really hard to stay level headed, and i'm not doing to bad, lost it for a will but i try to hide it, i've meet a new girl, who i really like but my head feels a bit messed up been feeling really low, i've told her about my past and she understands i think, but i think she finds it hard work because, i never go out or go anywhere i just work and thats it, i keep myself to myself. if i move i loss her, if i dont then i feel like i go to stay.
2006-08-13 11:38:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Life has forced you to grow up faster than you wanted but because of this you've become a man .
You had the courage to face the worst now have the courage to enjoy the rest .
The most common problem people have following the loss of loved ones is a fear that if they allow themselves to care for anything they will lose it , thus they push people and therefore opportunity away .
If you can't conquer this fear then live each day as though it might be your last and before you realise it a routine will develop that doesn't give you time to ask why .
You can't run from yourself .
Good Luck
2006-08-13 11:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like the country song says;"If youre going thru hell,keep on moving. If youre scared dont show it, if youre facing the fire walk thru it, maybe you get out before the devil even knows youre there." Life is what we make of it. Life is full of options. If we dont like it we can change it only if we want to. No one says you have to stay where you are nor that you cant change things for the better. If you want something bad you are willing to take a risk, if you want something bad enough,then youll risk everything. Learn from your past and move on vowing never to repeat it yourself. It sounds to me that the only way you have left to go is up out of hell. Im sorry to hear about your mother, but the best thing you can do for her now is to make her realproud of you and make something of yourself. It wont be easy but it definitely wont be as hard as what you came from. Time has come to quit feeling sorry for yourself,pick up the pieces and get moving. Good luck and may God be with you
2006-08-13 19:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself away for a couple of weeks or longer if work allows. See how you feel about your situation and the girls while away. Try one of the arranged holiday packages for lone travellers and enjoy yourself, you may make some friends and then start a social life. When you come back your head will be clearer to make important decisions.
2006-08-14 02:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by A Good Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you can't outrun your problems, but it seems to me that this girl is the only thing holding you to the area where you live. If your heart and gut are telling you to go, then do it as quickly as possible. If she is meant to be your next mate, it will happen. People have long distance relationships all the time. They aren't all that bad! It gives you time to clear the head and get your life straightened out. You have no business going into another relationship, until you unpack and unload the baggage! Get it? Good. Best of Luck to you. Nana
2006-08-13 18:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if last 6 years have been crap, then obviously nothing youve been doing is working and if it has been that long then i dont think you will sort it out where you are! Move away, make a fresh start, ask that girl to come with you if you really are serious about her!! best of luck to you, i hope everything works out great for you in the end! x
2006-08-13 19:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to get away from it all you've had a hard time of it and obv the place were u are holds lots of bad memories for you. if this girl really is the one then keep in touch with her maybe one day wen u get ur head sorted u will have a future but i think rite now u need time for you and not worry about sum1 else. best of luck.
2006-08-13 19:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by Caz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you leave to start again you have to do so for the right reasons and after having sorted out any probs where you are. You cannot run away from problems, you cannot run away from yourself. We all chose who we are and who we want to be and for most of us none of this changes when we move.
2006-08-13 18:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a professional opinion. This is something you can overcome but I don't think you can do it on you own and it's not fair to lean on the new girl you met. You need to see a psychologist or a psychiatrist to talk it out and find a viable solution.
2006-08-13 18:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by daca_moracca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean, i'm consantly feeling likie i gotta get away, i think the right thing would be so stay and face things head on with your new gf, however moving away sounds good, sevvering all ties, starting all over again in a place where you don't know anyone and no one knows you. its a hard decision. i think the latter sounds more appealing to me. good luck!
2006-08-13 18:47:27 · answer #9 · answered by joanne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the last 6 years have been hell, do you really want the next 6 to be the same. do something, take a clean break have a reality check, life is what you make it, so get out there, and make it fuckin brilliant, whats stopping you? stay friends with the new girl, and see wat life has to offer
2006-08-13 18:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by roundtree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋