My son is 4 and a half months. Today was my cracking point. My boyfriend is basically a good guy, but if we get in an argument he up and leaves for days at a time. i need help with raising my son and he doesnt help me by leaving. I started a really bad period. Ive been bleeding a lot. More than usual and i am anemic. I have no groceries and havent eaten in two days. My boyfriend keeps sendine me letters on the internet about how he loves me but i have to treat him better. He's 22 yrs older than me. I have lost it. I have cried for the past two days. My son cries and all i want to do is cry and make him be quiet. Id never hurt my son. Id hurt myself though. Im scared. I want him to come home so i can leave for a day. Just for a break. I dont know what to do. I havent had friends for a whole year either. I have to go to the store. My sons almost out of formula, yet i cant even leave my room without bleeding a lot. What should i do.
2006-08-13 11:23:02 · 5 answers · asked by dncr62104 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Come cry on my shoulder if you need. I have a 5 month old and PPD myself. My husband is a good guy but he's never home. When my baby cries it makes me cringe, I just want to run away and hide. I've had three breakdowns since having my baby. I also have 4 older kids.
I too was bleeding heavily and didn't know what the cause was, but I had had a c-section. I bled for 5 weeks before it stopped. My doctor thinks i had an adhesion on the inside.
I wish so much I could comfort you right now because I so know what you are going through.
I don't have any friends either, I've been on my own and it sucks.
I actually found being outside helps tons. Just sit out back and try to relax and get some air.
Breath, don't forget to breath.
Get yourself together, get the baby ready and go to the store so you can get the two of you situated for food. Not eating isn't gong to help matters.
It took a lot for you to ask this I'm proud you are trying to keep it together. If you ever need someone e-mail me okay? screensiren1@msn.com
Good luck and best wishes for you and your little one.
2006-08-13 11:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your mom or a friend to come over and help. At this point, you are a single parent whether you wanted to be one or not. If you are soaking more than two pads in an hour, call your doctor right away. If you don't have a doctor call the ER and ask to speak with a nurse. Otherwise, take an over the counter pain medicine for the cramping and take a warm bath. Put your son in his crib (on his back) and tell yourself that hurting yourself WOULD hurt your baby. That's a fact! Join a support group for mom's - call the hospital where you delivered and they can help set you up with one. Tell your doctor how you are feeling. Postpartum depression can vary from mild symptoms to severe - take support wherever you can find it! Best of luck!
2006-08-13 11:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by Pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not have family to call upon? I'm sorry you're struggling, but you MUST take care of your baby. If it means taking him with you to the local ER to find out why you are having health problems, then just do it. The medical personnel will at least be able to check him over as well. You are a mother now and your son must come first. Get a lawyer and file for child support. A man who is 22 years older than you should be helping out! Be strong... be a mother!
2006-08-13 13:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you any family you can turn to? Knock on a neighbors' door? Take your child & go to the Emergency room. Social services should be able to help you, too. Tell the father to come home right away because you have to go to the hospital. Initiate child support proceedings. Call an old friend. Just do something to help yourself!
2006-08-13 11:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by Da Bomb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what about your parents ? what about friends? if you have either go stay with them they can help with your son and buy grocery's and i know your going to hate hearing this but dump that boyfriend you deserve better i can see getting mad and leaving a few hours but a few days at a time that is called a loser who can't face realty and he needs to start taking care of his son if he was going to leave he should have at least made sure your child had food well if you need someone to talk to email me anytime i had ppd and i know how you feel good luck and congrats with the baby
2006-08-13 12:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋