what does a father have to do out side of court to get costudy of his son?

Question

so i my ex left me 2 months ago for a guy with a LONG criminal recod of abuse, with our kids this is the link to the ? i asked allready

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/;_ylt=Ag9bRBrQWAKfIXZesjIp.hxIzKIX?qid=20060813112743AAa2nmf

i just need to know what i have to do out side of court to get my son back. i am allready in a better situation then her, i have a drivers liesence, and a car a stable job and place to live, proof that i was never abusive or neglectful to her or our kids. but i know that vt is a " mother" state, that likes to favor the mother, how can i look better to the courts, she allso needs a shrink but refuses to go. just so you know.

Answer 1

I answered this question before (yep, I want to know how it turns out) and wanted to add that the log is especially important....as well as recording your phone conversations. In NY it is legal to tape your phone calls as long as one of the parties is aware of the taping (that would be you). It is strong evidence your lawyer can use even if it isn't admissable in court it makes you more credible to your lawyer. That's a very real thing, sometimes lawyers don't believe their client. Be very picky about your lawyer and ask him this question (your yahoo answers question) as well. Everyone who answered this question seems to offer little tidbits of good advice...like get a copy of the boyfriends criminal record (you can purchase court documents) and the log is an especially useful tool....good luck...if you're really for the kids, then I'm on your side.

Answer 2

Basically all states now favor the mother for your info. Theres nothing outside the court you can do legally. Now you can petition the court for a hearing to remodify the custody/support portion of your divorce decree ( these are the 2 only things that can be modified after the divorce is final). Go on the grounds of an unsafe and hostile environment and explain the above. What you said above is hearsay so you will need any and all evidence you have of the above, especially any child or drug abuse. What you described about yourself wont do it, sorry. You dont need to prove yourself but need to prove her as an unfit mother who shouldnt have custody. If when the kids are with you watch for signs of abuse but dont force the kids to make up things as again you need solid proof in court. You will get one chance at this and if you screw it up in court,the judge will always look unfavorably against you. Dont make accusations against the mother in court and definitely not in front of the kids as this will definitely backfire against you. Unless you are a doctor, refrain against giving medical advice on what she needs. This isnt going to be easy but use the court to your advantage if you have the evidence. Also,be prepared that there may be nothing you can do legally til your son turns 18 and leaves her. I apoligize deeply for my answer but its the law. Good luck

Answer 3

Investigat the Judges. Find a judge that will go for the best interest of your children. Keep a journal of everything that happens, dates, times, names...keep it and keep all your stuff together. If she makes nasty phone calls or threats or is doesn't want to let you have your kids when you are supposed to get them, write it in your "log". This will help tremendously. Go in there with lots of evidence of her being more concerned about herself than your kid. Don't fall behind on payments on anything. Sounds like you have everything else going for you. I wish the best for you and your son. YAY for you by the way. There aren't very many daddies out there that give a hoot. God bless you. Good luck.

Answer 4

Really touchy situation,You are going to have tobe like the father of the year type .be in touch,send cartoon cards,e-mails, call1-2
times a week and never. never talk against the mom or her partner,because the child will feel at fault or talking against him.
(the child).If the child is really young(up to age 5) your presence is impt. you might have tomove close by,if not then the above will
work and sorry to say you are going to have tobe friendly with the boyfriend for the sake of your child to always know where he.s at.

Answer 5

take all of that plus letters from associates, ur business enterprise and of her associates and relatives individuals u can get. college records, scientific institution comments. and if u can because neither has custody as of yet flow record for finished custody of ur toddler. additionally set up counciling for the youngster (so u can tutor the court docket u are helpin him manage the divorce if the youngster is 5 or older) additionally tutor what u can furnish the youngster. if in any way with the info u have u can tutor she is undeserving then which will help u out. stable success greater fathers could step up

Answer 6

You need proof and witnesses to her bad parenting. Keep a video camera and a stillframe camera with you.

I think it's so good that you want to get your kids. I give you two thumbs up. I guess there still are a few good men.