How do you keep your sanity when you are in the house all the time cleaning and watching the kid(s)? do you ever feel like you have lost a part of yourself? Like you are now just 'MOM'?
2006-08-13 10:49:54 · 16 answers · asked by Bride2Be 8/30/08 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
all the time! it's great to have a person you can rely on to watch your kid/kids for you so you can take a break! or even just tote them along with you while you visit some friends. i do that with my son, we visit my friend who has a daughter his age(he is 2) and they play while i chat. also, take the children out to the park, beach, library, or even for a stroll through the mall. it's difficult staying home all the time, but if you can break it up with other activities, it isn't so bad. my hubby is deployed right now, so i've got total responsibility over our son. it really does suck, but at least i know i'm not totally alone. :-)
2006-08-13 10:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by curious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I enjoy my kids during the day, and clean at night. That way I'm not just mom, I'm the fun mom. We go out and play, go to the park, go to the beach, paint, color, play dress up, have tea parties, have picnics on the living room floor. That kind of stuff, plus if you keep them busy, they don't make a mess in the house. But I try at least once a month to go out with some girlfriends and have some "me" time. I sometimes wonder what type of person I would be now if I wasn't a mom. But then I think of all the things I wouldn't have if I wasn't. Hearing my daughters say I love you is worth it.
2006-08-13 21:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't feel that way. Being a mom is the most important job you will ever have. I was a stay at home mom when my daughter was a baby, and I remember feeling the same way. Just keep in mind that they grow up so fast and then you'll wonder where that little person went. Try to set aside some time for yourself, maybe get a sitter once in a while. Take care of yourself, and you'll be a better person and a better mom for it! Take care! :-)
2006-08-13 18:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by Starscape 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! I felt like that, I stayed at home for 2 years with my 3. I felt just like that, but I started working again almost 5 months ago, and I feel like I have come alive again!
I hated not having any adult conversation, not having time to dress up pretty and go out, yelling and cleaning up after ungrateful little ones all day, then in the evening it doesn't stop when hubby gets home. Feed everyone, bathe everyone, then clean the kitchen again and get ready for tomorrow. It's tough. I had to go to work again. I didn't want to stay at home with them anymore.
2006-08-13 18:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah pretty much, but at the same time I love getting to spend unbelievable amounts of time with my kids, the way I see it is, even if I went to work, I would still be the one cleaning and cooking so I would be even more irritable and exhausted. Next year when both of my kids are in school I plan on going to school myself...I haven't worked in 3 years and am feeling a bit sluggish!
2006-08-13 17:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I joined an online mom's group in my area and made a lot of friends. We do things without the kids which helps a lot!
When it gets really bad I tell my hubby after he gets home from work i just need to go for a bit and I wander around the mall or something.
I also put my kids to bed at 7pm and I don't go to bed till past midnight most nights so I get time to myself and with my hubby too!
2006-08-13 18:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by turtle43761 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I am not in the house all the time. There are a lot of activities to do on the outside to keep the sanity.
2006-08-13 17:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
been a stay home mom for 21 yrs now...4 kids.. Take up a hobby or go take a class. Get a babysitter....if its costs that stop you from getting a sister....swap time with a friend to watch each others kids. I did that with a friend. She had 3 kids and i had 4. she would watch mine all day while i xmas shopped and in return I would watch hers.......
2006-08-13 17:57:47 · answer #8 · answered by ......... . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhh I use my "spare" time to play online, but even that is mostly talking on message boards about kids etc. arrghh..
sometimes I get so stressed out I just cry at night when I get them all asleep. A nice bath seems to help, and I play music I like and use some lavendar bath products. I also once in a while get my babysitter to come over so my husband and I can go to a movie.
2006-08-13 17:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn on your favorite music and dance around alittle with the little ones. They will enjoy the dancing and you will enjoy your music. make them take a nap. Naps are good, cause it makes them have more energy and feel better during the day. Then you could curl up with a book and read for a bit. Being a stay at home mom can make you feel like you are just mom, but it doesn't have to. Doing little things with your little ones that you also enjoy, like coloring, and reading to them, these are things that really don't make me feel like I am just mom.
2006-08-13 19:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋