Hwere stds and pregnancies can be dealth with by good sex ed and mutli layer effective contraception... ie injection And condoms
Why is absience seen as good?
the reality is , its the cause of relgious extreamisim and terrorisim as look at how sexaully frustration turns to violence and single mindedness in terms of rigid morality and the need to dominate...
Look at all the kiddie abusing and teenage girl abusing nuns and priests with whole fully organised abuse such as magdelen laundries... See links below...
It makes guys needy and inexperienced so no girl would ever want them leading to extream hurt , pain and lonliness trapping people in vicious circles they cannot escape...
Lonliness and lack of human affection and contact leaving to suicides, suicdal thoughts, self hatin and anorexia, slashin and burning and other forms of self harm.
it gets in the way oh human emotional development often vital during those teenage years dening relationship skills training
2006-08-13 09:59:51 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
essential for office politics, management and selling skills tied up in relationship skills and flirting...
It denies the best experiences of you life and waht about thos etho dont get to meet their soul mate age 16, 18, 20, 25, 35, 45?
how long should they wait and miss out on life...
Especailly when its only easy to find someon surrounded by those you age and experience ie school or uni...
when your parents can support you emotionally
All absteinance does is hurt and harm
As for precious gift to married partner
rubbish
I would want someone who likes making love not doing her duty that she hates...
2006-08-13 10:02:39 · update #1
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Actually seen what absteinance does first hand devastating lives in hurt... and how old were those who talk about giving themselves to their partner? 17 20 not much wait...
Why waste the best years of your life?
2006-08-13 11:57:36 · update #2
Usless in a sexual relationship you are just a friend...
NO WARMTH
NO CLOSENESS
NO LOVE
NO FEELING
NO COMFORT
NOTHING
JUST COLD DEAD INSIDE
And as lonly its like people kick you when down so people only go fo the expereinced
2006-08-13 11:59:37 · update #3
CAN SPELL ONLY TYPE LOOKING DOWN FROM SCREEN
NO hugs NO affection
You can't hug someone elses girl GET IT!!!!!!!!!!!...
No sexual relationship.
No body wants you unless you are confident that only comes through rescent or current sexaul activity
Absteinsnce makes you needy, if needy no relationship = no marrage.
NO NOTHING
JUST GOOD AS DEAD
2006-08-13 12:08:27 · update #4
****************]]NO manny not stupid
everything is based in direct experience
observation of others or proof and evidence never belief or whats told
2006-08-13 12:10:29 · update #5
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WITHOUT SEX YOU CAN NEVER HAVE A RELATIONSHIP OR DEVELOP EMOTIONALLY...
WHY?
As if you are nto seen be the other to be a sexaul partner you are their buddy like a footbally baddy or the same sex.
And they will have an boyor girlfriend who will be upset if you get close to her, hug her, share feeling with her etc... and a girl who sees you as a buddy wants to share no feeling with you...
So its like learning o drive without a car...
And only hurts... i have seen the damage it does to people with zero self esteem, no confidence, seeing themselves as worthless, suicidal, self harming wishing they were dead as absenance was put against them...they also have trouble finding work, as can't ahandle interviews or work relationships as a result
Whilst those who got to sleep with folk and have boy/girl friends did well got the car, job etc
2006-08-21 01:24:10 · update #6
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Oh an kacho ever heard of condoms?
2006-08-21 01:30:45 · update #7
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You are reducing something that God designed to be within a marriage down to an animal act. We are not jungle creatures
Actualy we are animals and sex is how we bond emotionally, no sex no emotions
2006-08-21 07:17:14 · update #8
are you really as stupid as you sound?
2006-08-13 10:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by Country 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
your spelling is crap, but that's not the point.
No, abstinence is not some conservative or religious agenda. there is no coorelation between rape in churches and abstinence, it's idiotic to say that because if it were true every single priest would have raped children so what are you talking about?
you don't need sex to be a good conversationalist and non-suicidal. If you need sex to give you a boost of self-esteem then you're alot worse off then the child molestors.
You don't need sex to define you. Sex is not all that I am. I am not some body anyone can use and throw away. Besides you think i want herpes and things like that, stuff you get from touch? that condoms don't prevent? Don't act like you know it all because you don't.
Condoms aren't magic. they won't make you cool. Guys who get shut down by girls are looking for the wrong girls and they are not trying hard enough, they need to toughen up, not get hard.
If sexual release is vital to development then one word: masturbation
Office Politics?? you can not have sex and talk about unless you mean sexual harassment!
It might not be the best experiences in someone's life! Sometimes the little things count, Sometimes sex just ruins things! Maybe they won't meet their soulmate young but when they do then sex won't matter.
It's a choice, people don't need to be told what they're missing if it's against their principles or if they just want to wait. Is herpes and AIDS a words "missing out on life?"
If you can't find someone it's your fault, you should get out there, people won't come to you, you can't b*tch about not finding someone and not looking
Yes, your parents can support you, mind they can also harm you. also mind you, sex can hurt and harm too. emotionally, physically, mentally. it can be great but it could be terrible
and sometimes waiting doesn't hurt, sometimes waiting feels great once you finally get it, because you're giving someone all of you and they may be giving it back
No one Said abstinence had to be a duty either, i would rather have someone who loves and respects her body than the trash i'm sure you'll end up with
2006-08-13 10:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by Michael J with wings 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In Judaism the concerns that began the taboo were clearly that children be born with familial support and not become wards of the tribe as orphans and widows were. STD became a concern as did line sof inheritance since paternity couldn't be proven in those days. Once Judaism collided with Greek metaphysics you had a strong influence in Greek culture that very much looked down on women. In some states, like Sparta, women were just there for reproduction and the men had sex for pleasure with each other. The major Greek teachers saw the physical body as being rough and common and that engaging in it's natural functionsindicated being closer to beasts than Gods. These infuences combined to make very strange attitudes about sex.
2006-08-21 09:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. With all those additional details, I thought there'd be 20 or so responses. Aren't you being just a teensy bit defensive? Abstenence does no harm. It only gives you breathing room while you GROW UP. Sex is not a game, it is an activity with serious consequences. If you are not ready for those, you have NO business engaging in it, any more than a 5 year old has any business driving a car. Your arguments are specious at best. Stop and clear your mind, then try again.
2006-08-13 10:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am celibate and have been for all but a few months since 1978 (I had thought I had found my life partner, but was mistaken). Even with contraception, sex creates an emotional bond between people. If it does not, then what is the point? People that find sex recreational are not healthy, because they do not want the commitment that goes with the act.
I do not find celibacy hard or painful. I find it natural. It also allows me closer relationships with women in general than if they thought I was "only thinking of one thing."
2006-08-13 10:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by waycyber 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband was a virgin when he married me. And I was a virgin when I married him.
We have no problems in bed. Our sex life is incredible :)
We learned and grew and explored each other as each other's first. And it was a beautiful thing.
We had no children, or abortions, or scarred memories of previous sexual partners to hinder our new life together. We have each given ourselves fully and completely to the other.
Contrary to what you are thinking we have never abused any children or raped anyone due to our abstinence.
Did you know that 400 times as many children are abused in the public school system as in the Catholic church? So why is it that the priests always make the headlines? Because it's more scandalous, but it's not true that being a priest makes you a pedophile. Pedophiles seek out jobs where they will have the most contact with the most children - that is why they become school teachers (and much more rarely, priests)
2006-08-13 10:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its rather strange that you many of the examples you cite for the ills of abstinence actually involve the lack of abstinence. granted, God certainly intended all of us to have sex but at the proper time and place. The power to procreate is not to be used lightly. If we allow ourselves to become obsessed with sex we are just as much a slave to addiction as someone on heroine or other drugs. You say abstinecne crushes emotional development but I say it encourages emotional strength. Being able to curb our passions is an important part of our emotional development and one sadly lacking in many. The most important attributes we can develop during our teenage years is the ability to love, care and empathise with others. These are the attributes that build strong relationships and build relationships of trust with members of the opposite sex. You will never have a truly fulfilling relationship with someone else if it is built soely on sex. Sex should augment a committed relationship between a man and a woman who are bound to each other by something more than just lust.
2006-08-20 20:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by uselessadvice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hugs are the best when the need to respond sexually is removed. It is very possible, and amazingly wonderful, to touch someone in a way that doesn't induce expectations of sexual response.
Within the bounds of the loving relationship called marriage, sex is the most amazing, wonderful experience. There is no pressure, no on-lookers, no "performance anxiety"...just two people tucked safely in the arms of each other, protected by God in their relationship, touching each other in ways that make each other feel good, removed from the expectations of society.
I do pray for you, that God will reveal to you the true nature of love and sex, and, most importantly, the difference between the two. American media and society doesn't do a good job of differentiating the two, but God is able to do this...let Him.
2006-08-13 10:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by stronzo5785 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What??? you jumped all around with your statements and I was not clear on anything except you wanted to know why abstinence is seen as being good. Your supporting statments did not transistion smoothly. But to answer your question is best to wait until you are married to have sex or you have the choice of contracting different diseases condoms are not 100% effective. Of course everyone that has experienced sex and good sex at that likes the feeling. but for those few moments of pleasure could lead to very devastating events to occur.
2006-08-13 10:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by krsone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is actually a good thing we all need if u are of the appropriate age and of course protection i advice protection and birth control...intercourse is the greatest gift that god has givin or one of them....i believe that we all need to have that realese only a partner no no gay or lesbian i do not believe is all that good although i am not god to judge anybody else ...when we do this we are realesing all the hormones that get built up and if people dont have sex then we would just go crazy yelling and screaming full of hate no id rather make love or f@#! or whatever u want to call it abstinence if she wants to save it for marriage then if u really feel this is your partner then do what u have to do ..anyways abstinence if u feel that close to god that u dont want to have sex then do what u feel i know i feel i have to have sex or somethin or i feel like i have been beatin up or somethin and i get frustrated to be quite honest....abstinence id say this is not a way to live ....if of the appropriate age.get protection check nike JUST DO IT! ......
2006-08-21 08:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u know who's free to have sex the way u want it to be? Animals! Even animals have dating seasons & don't do it all the time.
If it didn't work out with u , it doesn't mean its wrong. Don't blame all your self esteem problems & other things on it.
Abstinence is a sign of a real man, if a man can control his sexual desires almost the rest of his feelings r under his control too. And that's called maturity.
2006-08-13 10:27:10 · answer #11 · answered by Lola j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋