I have a troubled teen in CA?

Question

i need information on how to correct my son because i've tried every method even family counseling. He ditches school, lies to me constantly, grades are dropping, he lies about his own health he has diabetes type 1 and he nearly died because he didn't measure his glucose and inject the right dosage of insulin. PLEASE HELP ME!!! I need to find a way to correct my son I'm out of solutions.

Answer 1

Hello,
i am sorry for the situation that you are facing with your son.The first thing that comes to mind is that if he is ditching school, he is avoiding something that he is non comfortable with. I know that when i was growiing up, school was a miserable experience, because i could not keep up, and did not understand much of what i was being taught, I had a learning disability, and did not know that, nor did anyone know or care, therefore i would do anything to get out of appearing at school, which only makes things worse.
In fact, i remember my grades were very poor .. C'S AND D'S D- Were the best i could get , I believe some of the teachers felt sorry for me and passed me, just out of kindness,,
I did not mean to go on about me, i just remember that i wanted to be a part of school, be liked, and get good grades, and choose a career,etc, but i did not have an easy time, self conscience,and feeling not as good as the rest (well i wasn't ) AS I was insecure, and thought it was useless to pursue more school, college, etc,
If your son has a problem in that area, he could get extra h elp a tutor, special instruction etc,

If it is not a problem with what he is learning, it could be as a result of his diabetes, and blood sugar, making him hot physically and mentally strong,

Counseling can help,if you already know what the problem is, he might not even know, himself,

If your son is lying,and doing other than what he is supposed to,, something is bothering him, maybe you could focus on something that he dearly loves, an interest or hobby, (whatever is his talent, or overwhellming interest) AND get involved with him in that area, and encourage him to talk more to you,if he has "trouble" UNDERSTANDING SOME SCHOOL SUBJECTS, then that would be the good news, because you identified the problem, and you can get help, and then it could turn him around, but back to the idea of getting involved with him on a more supportive level, about something he really likes, this may bring the two of lyou closer, and that will be better communication, plus, it might give him the c onfidence he is lacking, and he will be able to take a different approach,, to things, and you might be able to,

So in other words, although you love your son very much and want the best for him......
i am not suggesting you are doing anything wrong, or to say "give h im love and understanding etc," because i know you do, but you could llentertain the idea, that some need he has in not being met, and decide to change your lusual "mother style " RELATIONSHIP , TO A MORE INTENSE ..being extra interested in what is going on inside him, and show him that he matters, and that you are willing to learn more about him, and his interests and needs,

i sincerely,wish you well,

Answer 2

You might wanna get into family counseling. Another thing that might work, even though it is extreme, is boot camp. Send him to a boot camp or even consider a military type boarding school. A boarding school will whip him into shape and teach him respect. He will learn just how good he had it and wish he hadn't acted like such a little jerk when he was with you. A year or 2 in a boarding school might do some good.
You can also go the route of just trying to fight it out with him. Maybe consider moving to another area if his friends are the problem. But the real issue is him listening to and respecting you. He needs to know you have his best interests at heart and only want him to succeed in life.

Answer 3

~~~It is good that you took your son to counseling,,,you said it was family counseling,,,Does you son have the oppertunity to talk with the counselor alone or are there family memeber in the room with him? Teenagers go through such a self identity period,,even the littlest things can make there thoughts and actions go awray,,,Let him have quality personal counseling without family memeber in the room,,,mabey your son has issues that he feels he cant talk to his parents about,,,And I wouldnt take that personally,,,its just teens need and out and even though you have shown him great support,,,let him counsel alone. You sound like a very careing parent,,,other wise you woulnd be asking for help,,,dont give up,,,keep showing your son that no matter what,,,you are there for him,,,,Let him go to personal counseling,,,and also keep up the family counseling,,,,
I had two teens,,,,believe me,,,,its a struggle for your teen and the parents,,,,you both will get threw this time ,,,,,,~~~

Answer 4

Let his friends to take care of him, his good friends that he only listen to. Cuz i'm a teen i don't really listen to my parents neither.. but once my friends told me something and i realize it's suppose to stop i'd stop. Do not do family counseling or social workers i've did that cuz my dad force me to, it pisses me off i'd start cussing at them badly and think about suicideing and run away from home, but it's all gone now cuz i hang out with my friends everyday and they make me realize things. I'm in CA too. If u need any help u can count on me even tho im just a teen

Answer 5

to be honset I think he should be sent to boot camp to let him know you are not playing send him there let them know about his heath siuations and leave dont cradel him dont show any affection till you are away becasue if he sees you cry or hug him he will make away to stay there with you and keep doing what he does just opt for boot camp and it will help him ...

Remember : Spare the Rod Spoil the Child...

handle your business as a parnet take control youare the parnet remember,.

Answer 6

I understand you as a mother, but sometime tough love just might work , pray and keep on praying ,the system only help's when they are criminals and sometime not even then.Let go and Let God