What do I tell them?

Question

My friend is considering suicide, what do I say?

Answer 1

sound like your friend has a bad case of depression and needs help.
remember no matter how bad thing look they can always get worse. but they usually get better, suicide is a long term solution to a short term problem.

Answer 2

There're two approaches that you can use according to your friend's personality:

1- God will not be satisfied with this suicide as He (Glory Be to Him) created us just to live this life and take it as it is.
Imagine if a professor hold an exam to his students and one of them stood up suddenly during the exam time and cut the exam paper into pieces just because the questions didn't appeal to him, this exactly what happens when one suicide, this life is like an exam and the bad events in it are like "Hard Questions" you have to solve out.

2- Whatever happens in this world and whatever happens to your friend, it doesn't deserve to think about suicide as every problem in this world has some solution, I believe.

Answer 3

First tell them not to do it and then reaffirm it with how much pain they will be causing their family and friends. There is nothing in this world that is that bad to want to commit suicide. Tell him to seek out help, whether it be from a minister, family, psychologist, just get your friend to understand that they need help. Suicide is not the answer.

Answer 4

I just posted a question regarding the statistics of suicide in the U.S. and they are very disturbing. I suggest you take your friend seriously and suggest they tell the people closest to them (parents, friends, relatives) and get help.

Talk to them, let them know it is just a phase and it will pass and they need to do things that will lighten their mood. But most importantly, they need to get some help soon. If this is situational depression (the event will pass), if it is clinical depression (they need professional counseling and possibly medication). Either way, they need to get help. They should not be left alone, take away anything they can hurt themselves with.

Answer 5

wow, this is very serious and I only hope I can answer this wisely, I would suggest be that special friend to your friend, try to get your friend to open up on what is bothering them. Explain that suicide is not the right way to escape from the problem as if your friend takes their life, their soul will be suffering much more then they could ever imagine possible. God is the answer when we are in such deep pain, Try and pray first, Ask God to give strength and lift the heavy burden. God Loves your friend very much and I would assume is sending you to help. it is a burden upon your shoulders because God trusts you to help your friend and you both will be blessed

Answer 6

Say that they should think of everyone they're leaving behind. How they'd be devastated, even if it doesn't seem like it. Tell them they'd miss out on their future. Falling in love, having a family, all that. Unless that already happened.. then say that what is the point of having kids if you're not going to be around to watch them. Tell them alot more people love them than they know. It might seem that this is the only way, but its not. Good things come to you if you wait.

Answer 7

I suggest you immediately call the nearest hospital emergency room. If your friend is in a bad way, the nurse may be able to help talk him into going to the hospital immediately.
If it looks like your friend has lost it, is out of control, please call the police at 911. This is an emergency. If the police get even the slightest hint of your friend being a danger to himself, they will take him to a mental hospital emergency ward, even if he is not willing.
Don't delay. Don't take a chance.

Answer 8

Isaiah 38:18 For it is not Sheol that can laud you, death itself cannot praise you. Those going down into the pit cannot look hopefully to your trueness.

1 Corinthians 2:9 'Eye has not seen, and ear has not heard, neither has there been conceived in the heart of man the things God has prepared for those who love him.'

Answer 9

Nothing can say as much as a long hug. Other than that, just talk. It doesn't matter what you say. Just sit down, and talk to them for a couple of hours. Nothing helps depression more than talking to a friend, especially if that friend has dealt with depression themselves.

You could also suggest that they just sit down and write. Write about everything that is bothering them. That helps to. Of course, it also has the potential to make everything worse, so be careful with that one.

Answer 10

Everyone in this world has a purpose, has something to contribute. Even if your friend feels completely useless to society, they are wrong.

The fact that you are referring to this person as your friend says that he/she has at least one person that deeply cares about him/her. I would suggest telling this person that it would cause you and other people in their life a lot of unnecessary grief if they were to take their life. Show them that they are important. It's easy to see that people care about this person-even complete strangers on this website do.

Tell them that you will do whatever it takes to show him/her that he/she is worth something to you. But most importantly, make them seek help.

Tell this person to pray. Pray with him/her. Ask God to show his love to this person, so that they can start on their road to healing.