HELP!!!!!!wtf is wrong with me ?
ok me and my bf has had some problems in the past with him getting online and talking to other girls but it has been3 months ago since he has done that and has not done anything like that since then...but...i can not get it out of the back of my head what he has done to me in the past it is like every time we get into a fight that is the one thing thing that pops into my head ....some times at night i even cry about what he did i know it has been a long time ago but something inside of me will not let it go even tho i want to so bad i can not help but get totally pissed about it all the time i feel bad when i throw it in his face when we get into a fight bc i know that since then he has not done it ...i want to make things right between him and me once and for all i want to get that **** out of my head but it is like it keeps coming back day after day what should i do ?
2006-08-13 09:23:59 · 5 answers · asked by Kitty-cat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It takes time
2006-08-13 09:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he giving you any indications that he'll do it again? Does he have a history of cheating? If so, that's likely what's bothering you. He simply hasn't re-earned your trust yet. In which case, the problem is him.
But if he has in fact reformed -- and your post seems to indicate that he has -- then the problem is your insecurity. Why do you feel that he would want someone else? What is it that makes you feel as if you're less than he deserves? Address those questions and you can build yourself up enough to grow beyond the insecurity.
In either case, you still need to forgive your bf. He seems to have made a real effort to change his ways, and your current course of action is telling him that he did it for nothing. It's only a matter of time before he begins to resent that. After which, it's only a matter of time befoe he leaves you for someone who treats him better. Give the man credit where credit is due or you'll lose him.
2006-08-13 16:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously really care about him enough to have stayed with him this long and to give him a chance. Try to focuse on his good points and the strong points in your relationship to make it work, but if you still have that niggling feeling at the back of your mind after you've tried then maybe it's time to leave.
2006-08-13 16:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat_55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just get it out of your head. I've been through worse with my gf. You will learn to forgive, but anything that defies the trust you won't forget b/c it hurt. You just have to take his word for it and know that whatever he did to hurt you won't happen again. the more you bring it up, the more he'll think you're a headcase and distance himself more and more. So if you want it to work, you gotta let it go.
2006-08-13 16:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by mike! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being jealous and bitter. until he makes plans to meet up with a woman online u have nothing to worry about. if he does that then you kick him out move on.
2006-08-13 16:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋