my parents are divorced and my sister got married last year my mother gave them 5,000 for a wedding present but she wont do the same for me because she doesnt like the guy im marring
2006-08-13 09:12:00 · 11 answers · asked by j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
should i tell her what i think about this or tell my sister
2006-08-13 09:21:05 · update #1
It's not okay, but it is her money and she can do what she wants with it. It really stinks for you, but you will have to accept it. Maybe you should talk to her and see why she doesn't like him (they say love is blind for a reason, your mom might be seeing something in your fiance that you can't). If you don't like what she says, then find a way to pay for your wedding without her help. It stinks, but that's life. Complaining to your sister is fine, but it most likely won't help you get what you want (you may feel better though).
Good Luck!
2006-08-13 09:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in almost an identical situation, but it is the other way around (his mom doesn't care for me). I would suggest talking to your mom about it, it's not very useful to drag your sister into a mess, unless you think she may understand your point of view and be a good person to help your mom understand the situation. In the end the wedding is about you and your soon to be husband, don't let anything or anyone stand in the way of your happiness. She will come around...especially when or if grandchildren come into the picture. You may want to take the time now to discuss with her why she doesn't care for your husband to be, try to get her to see your love for him and explain to her why you know he is the one you should marry. Good luck and congratulations on everything!!
2006-08-13 16:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom did the same thing for my sisters wedding. im not married yet, and she loves my boyfriend, but i think its our taste that will make my wedding more expensive than my sisters, so i dont think im gonna let my mom pay for some of my wedding. let me ask you this, since your mom gave your sister the 5000, did she demand to have a say in her wedding, like what decorations to use, flowers, place to get married? a lot of parents think that if they give all of this money to there children, that they will have a say of what to do with it. it a way of having some control of the planing of the wedding. if anything, be happy that shes not gonna give it to you, that way, she cant tell you what to do with your own money.
2006-08-13 19:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by married1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not very mature of your mother to show favoritism like that. However, it is her money, so I guess she can do what she wants with it. If she doesn't approve of who you are marrying, maybe you should take a look at it from her point of view...funny how outside people see things we don't.
2006-08-13 10:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love the guy you are marrying then money does not matter...So what it's your mothers loss not yours. Money can't buy you happiness. Don't invite her to the wedding.
2006-08-13 13:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by faith m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is unfair but it is your mother's money it's up to her how to spend it. It's not up to her who you marry so don't let the manipulation of money affect your relationship w/ your mate.
2006-08-13 09:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by That's my final answer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that it is perfectly OK. Your mother can do as she pleases. You don't have to like it. I strongly suggest you offer forgiveness and love. Also, you don't have to do as she wishes. Through it all, it helps to be forgiving and honest.
2006-08-13 09:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by Jack 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your mom needs to respect you now because you are not just mommy's little princess she does not make the decisions for you anymore you need to tell her that she needs to get a grip and trust you that this guy is the one!!
2006-08-13 13:27:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, very petty of your mother, but it is her $5,000. She can do as she pleases with it.
2006-08-13 09:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it to yourself. It isn't really your business what your parents do for other siblings. Live your own life.
2006-08-13 14:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋