My kid whines all the the time?

Question

I have 2 kids, a 4 years old and a nearly 3 year old (she'll be 3 next month. My nearly 3 year old whines all the time!!!! She doesn't talk whiney, it's more of cry/moan without tears. She's not hurt, or ill or anything else like that. What can I do to get her to stop it is so annoying!!!! Other than this, she is a plesant kid.

I htink i need to clarify. She does not TALK in a whiney voice. Actually she won't talk at all. She just sits and whines, and won't say anything, even when I ask her a question.

Answer 1

I have been working with kids for awhile and have had quite a bit of experience with whining! :)

-What has worked for me is responding to whining by having her say it again with her big-girl voice. Don't get upset or give in to whining, wait for her to say it in the right voice. If she refuses, tell her you will listen when she uses her big girl voice and simply walk away and ignore her until she uses it.

-Compliment her when she does use her big-girl voice, particularly when she does it without you asking for it. Reward that.

-Also, just because she uses the right voice doesn't mean you have to give in to whatever she wants - thank her for using it and give her your direct answer - "Thanks for using your big girl voice, but we are not having ice cream for dinner." (Of course, she will probably start whining, so before she does offer to play a game with her or do something else that will distract her from whatever she is whining about, or walk away again.)

-Lastly, I've found that a lot of whining comes from a lack of independance or direction. If she is whining that she wants you to do something for her, teach her how to do it and then next time let her know that she knows how to do it. I think giving her that initiative and being proud of her accomplishments could help a lot!

Good Luck!

Oh - if you don't already use it, your older child will love helping you repeat this when she's whining:

You get what you get, and you don't have a fit! :)

Answer 2

Sounds like she is spoiled and she is the baby my kids are close in age like that my daughter did and still sometimes do the same thing (she is 6 now will be 7 next month). What I start doing if there was no reason she was not hurt are anything I spank her butt she will stop even at the age your child is it broke her up from up a lot not all the way but a lot.I tell her you wanna cry I give you something to cry about she will stop after you do it a couple of times and then saying it will stop it.

Answer 3

Take her in for a speech & hearing check to see what is going on. Any habit that your child has been doing for a long time is likely going to take an equal long time to resolve. The most common causes of whining are to get attention 'behavioral' and speech delay ' cognitive or developmental'.

My 12 yr old used to do that when he was 3 and he has CAPD, he did not start to talk untill he was 5. Call your local school district to connect with someone irl to help you now, it is way easier to resolve this issue then if you wait.

Answer 4

because once you're little, you do not have finished administration of your self. imagine about it, slightly one crys anytime they want something, its all they could do, and slightly one does no longer recognize all their words yet, or per chance does no longer lead them to clean adequate, so that they annoyed, and what comes next is what we call whining (or crying, or a mood-tantrum). also, at the same time as little ones get over drained, they dont administration them selfs as well as an adult may, and what they say comes out as whining. in case your childs previous adequate to appreciate, dont get mad at the same time as they whine, merely element it out, and say "you're whining in the present day, and that i do no longer communicate in whining. once you're waiting to communicate like a huge youngster, then we are able to communicate". yet consider such issues as, being ill and drained, an extra effective ingredient, in case you provide a baby what they prefer at the same time as they commence whining, you re-implement it, and then it is going to change right into a realized habit that receives them their way, and that is a reason too.

Answer 5

This may sound a bit harsh, but my son recently just turned three in July and he use to whine all the time. Well when he would do it I would put him in his room until he came out and he would be fine. He would come out with a happy face and ready to play. Good Luck! I know how annoying it can be!

Answer 6

oh hon,I am in the same boat my daughter shipped the terrible twos and is making the horrible threes...time out and I have been sending my three year old to her room until she can stop whining or crying..especially if there isn't anything wrong with her..I do tell her she is making mommy's head hurt..and sometimes that works...yell at me if you find something else that might work...

Answer 7

We tell our daughter that we do not understand or talk to whinning little girls. If she talks with her big girl words we listen. I agree it is SO Annoying. If that is going to be your focus make it so, do not try to discipline her on everything every day. Take a couple things and work with them all the time, we have found this to be a good tool when fixing bad problems.

Answer 8

Only talk with her when she is not whining.. ignore the whining. dont make a big deal about it. she prob loves the attention.

Answer 9

make sure she is not using as an attention tactic, if she i would ignore the behavior (IE don't give attention for it), or punish for it by sending to room until she can stop whining

Answer 10

Ignore it. She's still trying to be the baby. Maybe get her excited about being a big girl now!