I'm 18 years old and have very big problem that constantly upsets me... I have absolutly no luck with girls at all. i try talking to them and all but noone seems even interested in talking to me. i'm always told im a good looking kid by my entire family im not fat or nothing but i am a little shy. people always tell me to just wait and it will happen but im 18 and never had a girl as a friend before its really not normal. i always think about this and it interfers with my whole life, im not really functional anymore and despartly need help. i've lost all my intrests and fell into deep depression a while ago. how can i get girls to like me what should i do and it seems being myself doesnt work?? how do you confront a girl????
2006-08-13 08:30:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask questions. Talk to them as if you where talking to one of you best friends. Nothing is going to happen to you. Women are not going to bite off your head just for saying Hi!. Just build up your courage and talk to them about something that thay like. ( if you dont know what they like just bring up something that you think is interesting) If they are rude to you then they are not your type and are probably stuck up. Just relax man and get out of you depression because if women see that you are not confident about your self then they wont give you the time of day. Good Luck Man.
2006-08-13 08:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by BigDaddy82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all just because you're 18 & haven't had a girlfriend doesn't make you a freak. I know people older than you who haven't. There is no reason to be depressed over this. If you were 70, then I might think you have a problem.
And you don't "confront" a girl, unless you're solving an issue.
First of all, stop being so desperate. (Drooling doesn't help either).
Girls/women can smell that for miles around & will avoid you like the plague.
What you need to concentrate on is being interesting, with GOOD converation; be well-mannered, kind, educated, well-read, well-groomed. Learn how to conduct yourself in "social" situations so you have the confidence you need. The shyness will wane.
2006-08-13 15:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever actually ASKED one out for a date?
Try it. I think you may be misinterpreting the signals from the girls. But maybe you are interested in the wrong girls--ones that really wouldn't date you. Are you a nerdy type trying for Miss Popularity or maybe a jock going for a brainiac? They propbably wont be interested.
Could one of your friends get you started by fixing you up with a friend and double dating?
I can tell you this: whatever happened in highschool--- FORGET ABOUT IT! Those silly highschool cliques don't mean a thing in the real world. Keep trying, but don't act desperate. That is a turnoff.
Also, spend some time at Amazon.com or Border.com and find a book or two on social skills for dating. For some of us, it doesn't come natural.
Good luck
2006-08-13 15:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you would start by not confronting a girl, but by just being yourself. Maybe you are trying a little too hard. GIrls like boys that are self confidant, polite, respectful, intelligent and funny. Humor always seems to work to lighten a tense or uncomfortable situation. If you see someone that you may be interested in, just go up introduce yourself and initiate some type of conversation, keep it light and if possible use a little humor. You would be fine.
2006-08-13 15:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by spoiltrini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not trying to be mean but maybe its your look how do you dress how do you were your hair can I see a pic of you cuz then I could tell you what the problem is or it might be the way you act oh and being shy is not good for hooking up w/ girls
2006-08-13 15:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by angelface9011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 17 and I've never had a girlfriend before... so what's the big deal? We're young, we've got the looks, hell I'm a little shy at times too. Just accept yourself, don't let it drag you down. I sometimes get down about many different things (that included), but you just have to pick yourself back up when nobody else it there to do it for you. Just don't worry about it.
2006-08-13 15:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel i have the same problem as you do girls never liked me sometimes i feel that they never will. I'm 27 years old and i've been having this problem with girls since junior high school it's very depressing i hope i die young.
2006-08-13 15:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anibal G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Gramps here.. I sure wished you wouldn't be in a hurry, Love will come to you one day, if you wait the best is yet to come.. as far as approaching a young lady, choose one with the same interests, perhaps a certain athletic, history, or whatever your interests are,
2006-08-13 15:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by Terry S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do something that will 'wo' them. find a girl you like. learn what her intrests are. then take part in that intrest. then when you are ready, go up and talk to her about whatever it is she likes. then ask her out. if she says no, ask to be friends, then when you two know each other more, ask her again.
ohh...
girls love guys who are in sports. join a sports team, get active. impress that special someone!
good luck dude!!!!!!!
2006-08-13 15:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by aniiee. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see your really confused. do you know if girls flirting or not, do you know if a girl likes you or not?start talking to a girl you like, after a while ask her for her phone number, dont be clingy! thats a really big NOOO! once youve exchanged phone numbers text her and start another conversation.
now you have a friend that is a girl.
2006-08-13 15:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by Flafibopsicles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋