do you get into fights about it and insult eachothers beliefs? if so, how do you work through these fights?
2006-08-13 08:22:31 · 6 answers · asked by ppunk71 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am about to marry my Christian girlfriend. But we actually never fought about it. She is very open-minded, as am i. It isn't a problem for neither of us. She openly doubts her christianity from time to time, i openly doubt my atheism from time to time. We both know that nobody on this planets knows the full truth anyway.
2006-08-13 08:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Thinx 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No, but I'm a Christian with an atheist boyfriend. He likes to challenge my beliefs from time to time, but I figure that's good for me; if I can't come up with answers, then I should probably re-examine my beliefs anyway. Occasionally he strays too far into the sacreligious for me to be comfortable, but then I tell him that (calmly, maybe hurt, but not angrily) and he apologizes. Overall, I guess it's most important to be respectful of each other and to listen to each other. It's fine to discuss and to debate, but if things start getting heated, then take a break. Work to explain your beliefs (or lack thereof) to your spouse, so that at least they know where you're coming from. Don't make it a challenge, but simply an explanation. And when you do fight, try not to belittle your spouse or their beliefs; that serves no purpose and will only make it worse. It's hard (trust me, I know), but if even one of you can manage to stay calm and not make biting remarks, it will be much easier to stop fighting and to patch things up again.
2006-08-13 18:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by Caritas 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am and we don't fight over that (finances yes religious beliefs no). We respect each others right to believe as we will and my husband is not an American he is British so he is more of a laid back christian and very open-minded.
2006-08-13 15:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by genaddt 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
We don't really get into fights. We have discussions sometimes about exactly what the other one believes in. I don't understand entirely her reasons for belief and she doesn't entirely understand my reasons for unbelief, but we co-exist nevertheless. These discussions are few and far-between because we both believe in tolerance of belief. For myself, if people want to use religion to help them feel better, more power to them. I have ice cream.
2006-08-13 15:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married, but I would think you'd either have to agree not to insult, but learn to share and discuss calmly, or agree to disagree and not discuss it at all.
Not a good thing to fight about, I should think.
2006-08-13 16:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nope
2006-08-13 15:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by WhatNever 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋