The guy has a missing hand which has been replaced with a hook. He's able to get all of his groceries out of his cart and onto the conveyor belt just fine with his one good hand, but he's a bit slow due his handicap and you're in a hurry to get home. You think that he might get done twice as fast if you offer to help him out.
What would you do? Do you help him out so the both of you can be on your way more quickly, or do you let him be and let him persevere on his own?
2006-08-13 08:12:43 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Leave him alone unless he asks for help. It's rude to intervene simply because you want him to hurry it up.
2006-08-13 08:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by chamely_3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wait patiently while he finishes it by himself (unless he asks for help of course). I think that if I'd offer my help to get it done faster it would be a bit insulting and would hurt him and make him feel like he's just getting in the way because of his handicap. So I think it's better to just wait. Coming home a bit late is not the end of the world and this guy probably has it hard enough as it is, so no need to trouble him more.
2006-08-13 23:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let him do it himself. If he needs help, he'll ask for it. My theory on rushing around constantly: Unless you're in labor or bleeding to death, where's the fire, you know? If either of these hold true, you shouldn't be out shopping anyway.
Chances are helping him get his last few items on the conveyor belt won't save you THAT much time. Maybe a minute, tops? He'll probably have problems counting his money, too. Are you also going to offer to take his wallet from him?
2006-08-14 07:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 01:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may actually insult him if you offer to assistant unless he is struggling with something. It's frustrating because you're in a hurry but imagine how frustrating it is to deal with that type of handicapped every second of your life. I would and do stay out of people's business unless it looks like they are struggling and then I ask "would you like help" or "may I help you"
2006-08-13 08:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just be patient. Count how many minutes it will take him to get thro the checkout, probally about 2 mins, and thats how much longer its gonna take you, and 2 mins is stuff all, just be patient, and think, this guy probally lost his arm fighting for our country so that I can stand quite freely in this line at this grocery store instead of ducking bullets on my way home.Maybe if you said to him "can I help you at all" but I would think he would want to do it on his own. but just be patient and you will be less stressed out.
2006-08-13 08:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that you should wait your turn in line, give the poor guy a break he is doing the best he can. Besides he might get a fended by you wanting to help. Like he isn't capable to handle it.
2006-08-13 08:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try asking, "May I help you?".
Quit being obsessed by "handicaps". If you are embarrassed to help that person then you are likely to embarrass him by trying to help.
If you really care:
Dealing with Different
When I was about 16, my mother and I walked out of a supermarket. I noticed a person with [appeared to be] cerebral palsy in a wheelchair, a guy about my own age, but he looked pretty goofy and uncoordinated and I didn't want to look at him. I got to the car, but my mother wasn't with him.
I looked back and my mom was talking with the guy in the wheelchair. The kid was more like grunting and drooling instead of what I considered talking. She was touching him several times while talking with him. She started laughing and he started laughing, although it seemed to be more of a snorting. I really thought this was ludicrous and felt embarrassed of my mom.
When she got to the car, I asked her "what was that all about?". My mom looked at me; and I can tell when she gets angry and she was angry, if not dissappoinited. She asked, "What did you see?" I said, "You were talking to a freaky kid in a wheelchair." She said, "That's funny, I saw a person, a young man about your age. I thought I would say hi, but then we started talking." I said, "Yeah, like you could really understand what he was saying." We got in the car.
She turned and stared at me for a moment, then said, "Honey, everyone is different, everyone. How would you feel if simply because you who and what you are, most people tend to avoid you or become very awkward around you making you feel just that much more different. I said hi, he said hi and he heard my voice and I heard his. I touched him and he touched me. We acknowledged each other as human beings. For God's sake, doesn't he have the right to be acknowledged, to know and feel he is part of the human race; or should we isolate him because his differences are more obvious than most? You tell me, you went out of your way to avoid him and it was as obvious as everyone else who did the same. It shows you don't care about him or pay him the same respect you showed others. So it doesn't bother you to hurt his feelings, or maybe you were afraid of your own feelings."
I didn't say anything, but I did think about it. I have not forgotten that little incident. As the years passed, I began to see how she could interact effectively with people of different cultures, different social status and with various "handicaps". She didn't focus on any of that, she focused on the person.
Differences don't have to be barriers. I learned Spanish and married a woman who spoke only Spanish. I was amazed when my mother [who doesn't speak Spanish] met my wife [then girlfriend]. My mom asked me to get something from the store for her. When I came back, my mom left shortly thereafter. I was then amazed as my girlfriend began telling me about the "conversation" she and my mother had. They had used a lot of pantomine in their "conversation" to communicate. I guess it might take just a little extra effort sometimes, but again, differences don't have to be barriers.
Back to your question agian...do what you would have done if the person had trouble but no obvious differences.
2006-08-13 09:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by hydrasire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not help him out ?>
U do that with a smile on ur face . Just go pick up something and put it on the conveyer belt
He will aprreciate it
2006-08-13 08:21:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say leave him alone. He has a handicap, he isn't helpless. If you are in that big a hurry, you need to get in another line.
2006-08-13 08:44:30 · answer #10 · answered by candace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋