Question for those who have had/considered having an abortion?

Question

If you have had an abortion for financial reasons, would you have changed your mind if you were able to make the money to raise the baby?

If you have had an abortion despite being financially ready to raise the baby, why? Did you feel you weren't ready emotionally or in your life, or for a career, etc?

If you have considered having an abortion and changed your mind, what changed your mind?

And at what point do people believe life begins, at birth, at conception, or somewhere in between? When?

Answer 1

I haven't aborted a child, but these women have:

http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html

For more information, see:

Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org

Answer 2

I believe that life begins somewhere inbetween. I think that once you reach a certain point in the pregnancy there should be no abortions. If you are only a couple weeks pregnant it's more acceptable than if you are 8 months pregnant. I think no one can argue for abortions at 8 months. After about 3 months it gets more horrific.

I have not had this happen to me but I have had a friend who had a child at age 14 and she has always said that while she regrets having sex at that age she does not ever ever regret her daughter who is now 6 years old.

This is a very personal decision and I worry for you posting this on here. I am sure many people are going to attack your question.

The number one thing you need to ask yourself is this - which will I regret more? If you abort your child you will think about them every day for the rest of your life. When you have other children you will feel even more guilty. You will never forget that child and you will no doubt shed many many tears. If you don't abort your child will just fill your heart with so much love that I seriously doubt anyone regrets having a child. I don't think it's possible in nature to feel pain because you have a child the way it would be to lose one.

If this is just purely for financial reasons - try to find a way to raise him/her. Try to find an aunt or a cousin who can help you raise them but you are still that childs mother. Have your mother help you while you finish school. It is possible.

Also, please consider adoption if you can but know that it is also very painful but not as much guilt as with an abortion.

You just have to ask yourself would I rather live with pain and guilt but not have to struggle financialy, or would I rather live with a beautiful child that I have to struggle every day to raise but I love them.

How old are you? Where is the child's father? How far along is the pregnancy? Do you have a good family support system?

Answer 3

I had an abortion at 4 weeks. Yes my fiance and I were financially able to have a child. It was a decision that we thought long and hard about and made together. If I became pregnant again than I would choose to keep the child, we both would. What bothers me is that everyone thinks that women who get abortions weren't on the pill, using a condom. etc. which is not always true. I was on the pil and had been for 12 years and had no problem, but because of stress and a huge lifestyle change it happened. I just wish people would look at every situation differently, because they are.

Answer 4

I've had two abortions in the past.

Yes, I was financially ready despite my young age, but I did not want a child. It's as simple as that, I just did not want children. Why should I bring unwanted MISTAKES into MY life?

Life begins when the child is viable. Before that, It is not a real life because it can't even life on its own. It is dependable. It is still the mother's business, and only her business until the fetus turns into a baby and the decision for life or not is out of the mother's hands. Before viability, The fetus is just a piece of insignificant flesh inside the mother. I don't care if it has a heart beat, It's not a child.

Answer 5

I considered having an abortion when I was a young girl (15 years old). I never became pregnant at such a young age, so I suppose I was lucky.

I think if I had been pregnant, my parents might have changed my mined...because although I feel strongly about a woman's right to choose WHAT she wants to do with her body, I would have felt guilty about aborting an unborn child. My mother is opposed to abortion, and although I would have been quite young to have a baby, she would not have supported that, and would still be reminding me of the mistake I made.

Life begins at the point of conception.

Answer 6

I don't think it matters so much when life begins so much as this: Will the life be hurt? Can the life feel pain? Can the life comprehend what is happening?

It is ALIVE from the moment of conception. When it is still a single cell, it is alive. But is it a person? I don't think so. Will it suffer at all if you abort it when it's microscopic? Will it suffer when it is an inch long, three inches, full grown?

That's the biggest question for me. I think it's perfectly okay to have an abortion provided it is early enough that the fetus can't yet experience suffering.

Answer 7

No reasons can be explained by another person you have to look inside yourself and ask if your ready for the commitment of another human , if your not then abortion is an option to you , Its what we feel as women not what is expected of us , its completely up to you as a person if you want to keep and care for another human , age , money and circumstance have alot to do with what your going thru , but you have to ask yourself are you ready and willing to give all you can to another life , are you willing to give up .and give all you can, to make another life happy . I think its completely up to you as a woman to decide what is best for a new life and for yourself ,If your considering an abortion its really up to the people that do preform things that can tell you when its to late ,,, And as far as a when life begins its really hard for most to say we all have different ideas about that .

Answer 8

I would never in my life have an abortion. If we cannot afford another child then we would do what we need to do to make sure that I do not become pregnant.

Life begins at the time of conception.

Answer 9

Life begins at the time of conception.

Answer 10

No abotion here!