i like this girl but the thing is she is preginat but i really like her but i don't want a kid well her kid but i really like her
2006-08-13 07:54:51 · 34 answers · asked by playafromtha361 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait and see -- maybe you're wrong about her being pregnant.
Besides, how can you know that you REALLY like her if you don't know who she is as a person. You need to get to know someone as a friend before you can really like them -- right now it sounds like you are just really attracted to her. BIG difference.
2006-08-13 07:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u really like her then her child shouldn't be an issue because u should love that to. After all it is her child - a product of her and therefore should not be treated any less than a human after it's born just because u don't want a child right now. If you want to be in a relationship with this girl, your'e just going to have to accept the fact that she's gonna be a mother. If she was pregnant with ur child then this wouldn't be an issue but because it's someone elses child, u consider it a burden. But she made a mistake so don't blame it on her unborn child but rather give her a chance and try to be more tolerant and accepting. Asking her to get a abortion is just wrong and may destroy any chances u have of being with her especially if she plans to have the baby so think about this b4 u get involved with her and ask urself wat is the real issue here, is it the fact that she's pregnant or that u don't wanna shoulder the responsibility of fathering another man's child. And if it's one of those reasons then u'll obviously need to move on because when the baby does come, it's gonna need a lot of love, care and attention and if u can't handle that, then u have no right being with this girl because it's not only her who needs the attention, it's also her baby.
2006-08-13 08:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take some time to think about what you want in life. You may not want the kid, but it is not the kids fault and they need to be loved to, If you feel like you can't be good to the kid then I say stay away and let them have there life with someone who is searching for that. Good luck.
2006-08-13 09:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's your kid, you gotta own up to responsibility. Sucks, but it's what you have to do. No kid should have to grow up without their father. And to run would be a lifetime long punishment to a kid for a mistake YOU made. Doesn't seem fair from that point of view, huh? On the other hand, if it's someone else's....RUN!!! Nothing but problems you don't need. Kids are complicated. Everything in your life will change.
2006-08-13 08:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by Vespr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay away from her, she is obviously going to have a kid, they are a package deal and if you don't want a kid then you don't want her...THE END. The last thing this girl needs is more complications and thats all you would be with your attitude about the kid.
2006-08-13 07:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on her age and your age as well. If the baby's father is out of the picture completely that too tells you if you have a chance at a relationship with her. Quite frankly, you can be friends with her but that doesn't mean you have to take it any further. It all depends on what you feel you can handle right now, emotionally.
2006-08-13 08:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A new mother needs to focus on her new child, I think you should take it really slow and be friends first. It isn't your responsibility to raise a child that isn't yours, and dating a women with one is OK to do but it does bring some important responsibilities to a person involved in the mothers life. You would have to prepare yourself for that.
2006-08-13 08:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by Eve 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The baby comes with the package. It is a gift wrapped on the inside. What a blessn you would be to the both of them. Take your manly responsibile duties. Stand up.
2006-08-13 07:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by Ucan2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really like her, you'll get over it. She is soon to be a mother. That is WHO SHE IS! Can't wish it away, and you shouldn't try. If you can't square with that, then you don't really like her, and you've saved you and her from extra trouble. Sometimes you have to give up things you want for love. (Read as responsibility.) However, if you can pull it off, props to you man.
2006-08-13 07:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by Vern 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a package deal. You need to decide what you want more. I would not get serious with anyone who has a kid, but to each his/her own.
2006-08-13 08:01:06 · answer #10 · answered by The Princess of Pleasure 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋