Do u think it's wrong for a 12,13 or 14 years old boys to have sex?

Question

if u have three son all under age having sex and u r the only parent in the house.u feel like your not doing a good job.

Answer 1

Yes, it's wrong for kids that young to be having sex. They are KIDS. They are not ready to deal with the emotional side of sexual relationships, not ready to deal with an STD and not able to handle becoming a parent when they are only a child themselves!

Answer 2

At this point, if they are sexually active, right or wrong doesn't make all that much difference and it is extremely unlikely you will get them to stop.
As mentioned by others get them the proper info about STD, HIV, birth control, and talk with them about how their life will be effected by the birth of a child, such as child support.
No sense trying to "scare" them in to not having sex, all that will do stop any communication you already have and they will not likely talk to you or trust you about this topic again.

Other questions you may need to address is who are they having sex with and what type of sex, is it with others there own age? Someone older and how much older (as in 18+)? Girls or other boys?
You might also ask them how it came about to happen, a dare for example? Were they were kissing, exploring and neither of them said no?
Try not to judge, it's called puberty, and boys and girls become very curious/interested about sex and with our TV and advertising culture being so sexually oriented it's little wonder to me they explored their sexually. Add to that, the need to "score" pressure most boy's feel from friends/peers (like it or not their social status just went up).
I will add this, if you know your kids are sexually active, you are doing better than most parents.
Remember they made a choice now it's your opportunity to help them pause and hopefully make a more informed choice in the future.
Good luck, I do not envy your task.

Answer 3

There are two questions here. It is wrong for boys under age to have sex. A STD or a non-wanted pregnancy are not desireable for children. They are not mature enough to cope with consecuences. The best is talk with them openly. I assume your children are having sex right now.
Now, about your second question: It is dificult for a single parent (male or female) to help kids to stay off of their natural impulses and instincts. The parent is not doing a bad job. I guess He/she is too busy to seat with the kids to explain basic things. Boys are so vulnerable as girls in these matters. It is never too late or too early for a serious talk with your kids about safe sex.

Answer 4

Yes, it is wrong. God has put the bible here for us to use with our children like a personal letter written to us as individuals. Use what he gave you to help your family. 2 Timothy 3:16 "All Scripture is inspired of God and beneficial for teaching, for reproving, for setting things straight, for disciplining in righteousness." If your boys know that their creator cares for them and loves them and wants them to have a good life then maybe that will help. It is difficult to be a single parent, sometimes you need help. Show them what is expected of them. Try looking up some of these and use them to teach your children. 1Corinthians 6:13, 1 Corinthians 6:18, 1 Corinthians 10:8, Colossians 3:5. I hope this will help you.

Answer 5

Yes admittedly it is wrong for them to be having intercourse at there age's, it is very very wrong, but then i am also afraid that, well that is how the world is today, it isn't going to make you feel any better about your children i know that but it is not only your children that are out there having intercourse at such a young and tender age.Just try to get them to talk about it,and also try to express how important it is that they do not get anyone pregnant, especially at there age's, so you need to express the urgent need for contraception as much as you possibly can.

Answer 6

I would feel like I failed as a parent. These are little boys we are talking about who can't yet take care of themselves, let alone a baby if one should come about. They should not be having sex at their ages. Stop them before it's too late. They need to act like the boys they are, not trying to act like they are grown men. Find someone to watch them when you can't be there. Get them involved in other activities, such as sports. Get other people involved who can serve as role models. Whatever you have to do, but you need to stop this behavior.

Answer 7

you should talk to you sons espacally the youngest as the legal age is 16
if they girlfriends get pregnat then they are in truble big
also if the girls are younger then you boys could be done for rape even tho the girl is cosenting
you need the assert some authoraty
it is wroung but not nessasary your fault
you cant force them to stop with out hating you but
wat if they go std or a kid it would mess up their lifes and the girls
does the gf parents know abou this mabey you need to tell the
im not saying lock the kids up
but talk some sence in to them because they are not even emotonal ready for this
if the girls were to dump them or cheat or get pregnat then this could effect them mentally
tell them to STOP and think

Answer 8

I am a single parent, have been for 10 years. None of my boys had sex early in life, in fact, as far as I know, my 24 year old just had his first girl friend and my 22 year old has yet to find a lady he wishes to have sex with. I talked to them about sex, about the consequences about having sex, about unwanted babies and STD's and the risk of AIDS and Death. They listened, and I'm proud of them.

Answer 9

Wrong?

At the age these boys are, mentally they are not ready for the consequences of sex. This is why I think it is inappropriate for them to have sexual intercourse at such a young age.

Have you sat down and spoke with them? Are they aware of the severity of their actions? If not, I'd sit down and talk to them and see what they have to say.

I don't know if that would help, in this case I'm not sure if you can help.

Answer 10

Oh my gosh, Ur kidding right ??? that is wrong. But did u teach them to wait? at least till they're over 17 or 18 ?? tell them the consequences if they don't use protection. Sometimes even though we teach them they don't listen. We have to be constant and strict about many things but sometimes things don't go as planned. Kids these days need stronger values or to be genetically sterilized