Why are people so snotty?

Question

My son started kindergarden last year, the first couple of days I had some moms come up and talk to me, but like a week later they would just get in their little groups and ignore me, it's makes me uncomftorable standing outside my kids class or a class party and the other moms wont give me the time of day, it's like highschool all over again, i'm naturally shy and I don't like to go up to people I don't know and start a conversation. Do you think I should be worried about this? I just don't want my son to get made fun of because i'm not in with all the other moms. Any advice?

Answer 1

You are worried about the wrong things. Your son is at school to learn, and your interactions with other parents are not compulsory. You only have to involve yourself with the teacher, and whatever parents of the children that your son befriends. You are right, that does sound like high school. All the more reason you should care less. That is exactly how my open house was with my son for kindergarden this year. I just talked to the teacher, asked the questions I wanted to ask, let my child explore his new classroom and interact with some of the kids...and I left the Sweet Valley High girls to their own devices.

Why would you want to associate with people like that anyway? People are snotty because they have issues, and God only knows what half of them are. It's not your problem. I'm not trying to sound mean, either. I mean, it's REALLY not your problem. It's theirs. Your child, and his education, should be your main concern. All else should fall to the wayside.

Consider whom you wish to fellowship with and call friend. A snake is still a snake, whether it is 'neath a crown or in the grass.

Answer 2

Well, I've have I been & seen that!
On the recieving end myself, 2good 4 one group & 2 BAD 4 another.
Their snotty, coz their snotty, I don't know about U but I wouldn't B worried about their hot/cold behaviour.
U shouldn't B worried about it 4 UR son either, kids have a 2 short memory span, 2 take it 2 heart.
UR not in with the other mums!
So what?
Life's 2 short 4 worry about it, just B polite/nice when/if they do speak 2 U in future & 4get about it.
They'll B times when they'll B on their own & they'll need U, if U C what I mean.
UR shy & they're making U uncomfortable, 4 what exactly?
Collecting the kids from School?
UR there 4 a matter of minutes, time will soon pass.
Hang in there, they'll talk 2 U in time & when U feel brave enough, U'll talk 2 them.
:)

Answer 3

I'm in the UK and had the same problem with both of my kids. I was 16 when I had my girl so when she started nursery the other mums looked down their noses at me and ignored me. I had my son at 25, but moved to a new area hundreds of miles away just after he was due to start nursery. When he enrolled, the mums all knew each other from the maternity hospital, and like you said, were alreay in little gangs which were impossible to infiltrate! I just persevered with saying "hello" and smiling to them ech day, tried to make small talk etc. That worked to a point, as I wasn't being rude (like them) and outwardly I didn't stick out. But, I felt uncomftorable, so I bought myself an mp3 player and stood there listening to music instead. Not an ideal solution, but frankly - I made the effort and if they can't be bothered to respond then I didn't want to know them! Anyway, both my kids started new schools, began inviting friends home for tea, had parties etc and the mums became friendlier as our children bonded. Just make an effort, but don't appear too needy and hopefully, once your child starts making friends you'll become accepted. Good luck!

Answer 4

If people where snotty to you in highschool and people were snotty to you in your kids kindergarten there are tho common denominators, You and People. This could be part of a larger problem. If you find that you can't start a conversation with strangers effectively this could be a dangerous problem and one that you'll want to get a handle on in case your child starting school has it too. I'd suggest you talk to a psychologist and see what they have to tell you.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Get involved in the school. Volunteer in the classroom or with the PTA. This will give you a chance to get to know people. They may seem like a little "clique" because they may have older kids already in the school or live in the same neighborhood.

Answer 7

well give it sometime maybe someone new will come in, and you can get a chance to get to know somebody thats like you, On the other hand if that doesnt work throw a kindergarden get together party, and invite these woman and children to the party it couldnt hurt, and explain to the parents its a get together party, and if that doesnt work, then stick to yourself, I myself personally went through the same promblem, It seemed like i was my sons only friend, or vise versa

Answer 8

I've come to the conclusion that "High School" never ends for anybody. However, perhaps the other Mother's do not realize what they are doing. . .My advice, which might be difficult/uncomfortable for you is, go up and talk to them.

Otherwise, dont' expect them to come to you- it'll never happen.

Don't worry about your son, he's to young to even realize what's going on. . .

Answer 9

Maybe they see your shyness as snobbery. You better get over the shyness, or you'll deal with this same issue forever.

Answer 10

who cares if your not with all the moms... it shows you that they are stupid... do your own thing....