What age do you think is a good age for your first child to be when you have your second?

Question

And why? I know that there is no "right or wrong" to the question, just asking for opinions.

Answer 1

Hi,,, i would say 4 so you will not have two in college at the same time.... unless you can afford it....

good luck

Answer 2

4

Answer 3

Most people say when your first child is 4-5 is the best time to have a second child. Your first one will be in School so it's not too much stress on you during the day.

My son was 5 when I had my second child. Now he is 6 and my second is 1. I love the two ages because my oldest can help me with the little one.

Answer 4

ok I will take a Jab at this...Well let me see..I have a 27 year old...and I was 22 when i had her and then I turned around and had my little one 13 years later...and I was 34 and was going to be 35 in 5 days..she was born on the first and my birthday was on the 6th..ok..well the only thing about..having them spread out is that..the little one wished she was born earlier or closer to the other one to share big people stuff, she is now 14 and thinks she is 40..but I think it was the best thing..for me..because I had a built in babysitter..and because i always depended on my older one to help me carry everything and the kitchen sink..she learned responsiblitly of little children at a very early age ..because the older one was going through the teen age...being a little lady..but all of this fell into place..because of the scenerio she was going through ..it discouraged the older one of children of such a young age because of taking care of her sister..because IT IS WORK to take care of a baby...so that took care of the curiosity of wondering of having babies..at the age of 13 14 15 16 17 because by then at age 5 the older one was pretty much woreout as was her mother hehehheheee...
So to say the least the older one was ready to go to college and do her thing...and she graduated with full honors from High school and College with a Masters...but I was taking the little one to kindergarten and the older one was attending freshman year at college..So..it was a great experience and on hands help for a teenager..hehhe So that is why i think its great to spread them out..But I loved it...and i would do again that way...hope i can help and God Bless....

Answer 5

Hmm, I've read studies that suggest that bringing a baby home when the child is in between 2 and 3 is really rough. My son was 16 months old when his little sister was born, yes they are close together and I really am glad they are. Everyone said I was crazy and it would be hard but it's really not.
I guess it's all going to depend on that persons financial situation, how easy going is their first child and how was their first pregnancy. Know its not a lot of help but the only one who knows would be that individual

Answer 6

I'd say 2-3. Having them closer together, I think should help them grow a strong bond. Also, they will be more likely to be playmates. I'd suggest younger, but that means two toddlers at the same time, and only someone with ALOT of patience and help would be insane enough to try ;)

Too much older, and the first child will be so used to being a single child that I think the adjustment period would be very difficult for them after baby is born. Also, it would be difficult on the family. One child in school and sports, one at home in diapers.. to me, makes family cohesion more difficult.

Answer 7

I spaced my sons almost five years apart. The plan was to only have one in high school and one in college at a time. Good plan. Now that the two are older, I wish there ages had been closer. They were always at different stages growing up and may have been closer if their ages were closer.I would suggest at least two years but not more than five.

Answer 8

My first son turned 6 about a month after I had my second. The space in age is great, the 6 year old is self-sufficient(to a point) and enjoys helping. But he also doesn't mind doing his own thing, which is good when the baby is fussy.

Answer 9

I think that the wisest decision is to have a 2-3 year age gape, and yes I do understand it may be difficult when they are younger, but they will be so much closer when they are older and you won't have to send one off to college and then wait another 8 or so years for the other to graduate so you can move somewhere you've always wanted to or retire with your husband.

Answer 10

My daughter was 8 when I had her brother. I didn't really plan the age gap but it worked well. She was old enough to help sort herself out, with dressing, making snacks etc and help me out with the baby - changing nappies etc. She was dead proud of him and they bonded brilliantly as she mothered him like mad! I had mum and baby time with my son whilst she was at school too. Now, she is 18 and he is 10 and they are still close. He thinks it's cool to have a grown up sis and she thinks it cute to have a baby bro to care for.

I think the best thing about having a larger age gap is the fact that you can give individual care and attention to each child in their younger years - which I believe is absolutely vital - but they also have the comfort of having a sibling to love them too.

Answer 11

my second child came 21 months after my first child. They seem to get along fine. In fact I had 3 in 5 years. My youngest one came 2 year after the 2nd one. They are great friends now as they have grown up. 28, 26, 23. I wouldn't have wanted to wait to long because they will then feel they are of different generations. My girlfriend had hers 8 year apart. It was like having two different families. one in school one in diapers.