Suggest to your parents that you arrange to spend time together with a group of people, including the person of your choice, preferably an odd number of people so you don't get that Noah's Ark effect (you know, the animals walking into the Ark two by two...)
Or, invite the person over to your place when your parents are home. On the assumption, of course, that you will at no time during the evening find yourselves alone behind closed doors.
They are going to want to know what your purpose is, and about all you can probably say right now is that you want to get to know the person better in conditions that are acceptable to all concerned - and given your age, your parents are right to be concerned.
You should not be thinking of being more than friends until you are ready to think about a permanent relationship, because if you set foot on a path of being more than friends, the logical conclusion is to have sex.
And that creates a bond so close that it cannot be broken without great damage. Millions of people find this out the hard way, when some third party comes into the picture or there's a breakup, that this is just not supposed to happen. There is tremendous emotional pain. Or if there isn't, it is a sure sign that the person's ability to love and give themselves has been destroyed.
On the other hand, relationships do not just last forever by chance. They have to be entered into very intentionally. You need to think about the impact having another person in your life will have on all the areas of your life, even the ones that don't seem directly connected to your relationship: your education, your living situation, your employment situation, etc.
And in order to really fix things so they'll last, you need to really put each other first, above everyone except God. You need to really take complete responsibility for your decisions and actions. All of this implies being independent from your parents. Then you need to make a permanent commitment - in front of others so you are accountable.
By doing this, you will spare yourself a lot of temptation and trouble, because you will be focused on doing what you need to do to make the relationship good and lasting. You will be MUCH less likely, particularly if you consciously renew your decision every day, to be distracted by anything or anyone that could damage your relationship.
So as you can see, there's a lot to think about before you get into a 'more than friendship' situation. May God bless you with the wisdom you need to make appropriate decisions about what you are going to do with your personal life!
2006-08-13 07:44:00
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answered by songkaila 4
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2016-11-04 12:15:13
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answered by Anonymous
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LOL you can date a boy as long as you guys dont get down and dirty that young. Dating never hurt anyone. Dont listen to the old people, their just sad their life is over. Go out and have fun, just dont move to quickly. I remember going out with girls in every grade through public school, it was fun and exciting to be talking to a girl on the phone at that age. Just have fun who cares what you're mom says, as long as you dont put out.
2006-08-14 02:19:03
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answered by Toraptorsfan 2
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Listen to your mom. Don't try going behing her back, it will only create tension between you and her. Maybe you can ask her to take you guys go cart racing, bowling roller skating ...Something where she can be close by, but you guys can still have some fun together without feeling that she's breathing down your neck.
2006-08-13 07:32:09
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answered by Don Ricardo 3
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13 does sound a little young. I'm 15 and i'm not even allowed to date yet. i'm really sorry, but i think u should listen to ur mom and wait!
2006-08-13 07:33:06
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answered by Victoria 3
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listen to your mom like you didn't see that one coming. really listen to her you have plenty of time to date don't rush it. because the guy you date now will not be in your life by next year you have atleast 4 boy friends before you graduate high school so whats the rush to have an ex-boyfreind
2006-08-13 07:30:32
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answered by ? 4
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Listen to your mom, I know how you feel I am 14 years old and my parents won't let me date till I am 16.
2006-08-13 09:02:28
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answered by Alyssa s 2
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it depends on who you want to go out with.
Cause if its a boy then ure too young cause it just is.
But if its a girl who is still a virgin and is not a bad influence then you might still beg.
When my sister was ure age my mom let her go out but only when i was there, but a far distance liming with my friends but with eye sight.
2006-08-13 07:30:10
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answered by Anonymous
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just go out w/some 1 ur mom dosnt need 2 kno, then wen shes not there u can tlk to him or watever
2006-08-13 07:37:46
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answered by Anonymous
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well...iam sure that u r thinking abouta going out with boys and discovering them...u have the right to do that ofcource...but tell u what...u r still 13 and i know that u think it's old...but maybe boys don't think so...don't u think that u must give urself achance by knowing boys better???...i mean boys can be good or dangerous...can be selfish or sweet...u must deal with boys much 1st...give urself achance to know them better by friendly talking and having friends...then when u r ready...u will find urself up to it
2006-08-13 07:27:08
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answered by doctor^love 2
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