im soon going to be a mother.please tell me how i can be the best mother and so that my children from when they are born till the end are proud of me.what should i do and what should i not do?
2006-08-13 07:01:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well think of things that are important like heres three
1.always remember they come first no one else
2.never give up on them
3.make sure u tell them that you love them
2006-08-13 07:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use common sense when making decisions, all things in moderation, remember that YOU are the parent and not their best friend and a big part of parenting is discipline, its ok and even good for them for you to say no once in a while, be silly with them sometimes, play with them, read with them, make them feel safe, be prepared to rediscover so many things that you have quit noticining, its ALL new to them and their fascination when they discover everyday things is quite a joy to watch, remember that your primary job is to prepare them to be great adults and to be able to make it in the world on their own. Enjoy them, it truly does go sooooooooo fast! Remember that its ok if you make a mistake or don't know what to do, as long as what you never choose to do nothing because you can't figure out what the right choice is (that doen't happen til they get older) I always told mine the manual that came with them was incomplete and I just might make the wrong choice but that choice will always be on the side of keeping them safe (that one was over hanging out at the mall with friends when I felt they were too young for it). Give them hugs and kisses and say I love you and I think you are the best person I've ever met everyday, once or twice a day. Don't forget to look at things from a kids point of view, remember they aren't just short adults and don't see things the same way. Good luck, I'm sure you'll be great, every child should have a mom that thinks like you are!
2006-08-13 14:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest that you look into attachment parenting and practice at least some of the principals associated with attachment parenting. Breastfeeding, cosleeping, baby wearing, positive and gentle discipline.
Breastfeeding will give your baby a great start in life and help keep both mom and baby healthy. It will also be a wonderful way for the two of you to begin to bond. Every drop of breastmilk is a benefit to you and the longer you can nurse, the more you'll both benefit.
Cosleeping will help both of you get a lot more rest and will make night nursing easier. Baby will feel secure since he will be near you all the time.
Baby wearing is great! You can get so much done with a baby in a sling and the baby feels safe and secure. It also helps when you are out in public because strange people tend not to reach out and touch them as much since they would have to invade your space to do so. You can go anywhere and do anything with a baby in a sling! And baby will often drift off to sleep and nap right there. You can also nurse discretely in public with a sling.
Using gentle, positive methods of discipline will help you to grow a confident and loving child who feels respected and knows how to respect others.
2006-08-13 14:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations. To be the best mom requires a lot of dedication to their kids. Mainly a child wants a lot of love coming from their parents. They also want trust from them and for parents to listen every time they need to. Something you should not do is compare them with other kids. If you say that a kid is better than them they will eventually feel resentment towards you. Just remember the key for success is giving a kid a lot of love
2006-08-13 14:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by The nice girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you are already on your way, just by asking this question. Just remember that being a mom means giving your child unconditonal love. As long as you act with good intentions and always have your child's well being in mind, you will be a great mom. Good luck to you.
2006-08-13 16:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never yell. Yelling only causes grief and for you to feel worse after doing it. And your 2-3 year old will pick up on it and yell back. If you can keep your anger under control but still discpline in a clear and constant manner, your life will be so much easier and your kids much happier.
2006-08-13 14:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by cracker2423 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love your baby, love yourself and be happy and understanding. You will make a fine mom; I can tell already by your question....you care so much! Best Wishes!
2006-08-13 14:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Purchase a self help book in regards to preparing for your pregnancy, and taking care of your newborn, I purchased a Johnson's book for 30 dollars. They are WELL worth it..
2006-08-17 04:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by sweete_017 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if that answer was known- we'd have no problems with our kids- my advice treat them like you would want to be treated- like they are people (because they are) and above all love them and cherish them- avoid Dr Phil if at all possible- good luck mommy cherish every moment- especially as infants- they grow all to fast
2006-08-17 10:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by shannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. The rest comes naturally.
2006-08-13 14:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by echiasso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋