Need help....I've turned to God,,,but...?

Question

Ok...I'm Catholic, raised to believe that God doesn't put anything in front of you that you can't handle....I believe that if you pray for help, He will help. I just simply believe that Jesus and God and our Mother Mary were all there to help us when we need it. So..I need the help, I've fallen to my knees and begged for help. For a couple of days I felt like they were helping me,,,but now I'm feeling worse then when I asked for help. I've lost someone I loved dearly, and the pain is more than I can handle, I don't mean a death, because I know my loved ones go to heaven and are happy. I had to let the love of my life go, and it destroying me. I begged God, and Jesus to help me, to null the pain just a bit so I can function....and for a few days it seemed better, and I thanked God everyday for helping....I just don't know where to turn,,,,I pray, and I pray, and I beg, ... I've had to deal with alot in my life, an abusive husband, depression, what else can i do?

I did get rid of the abusive husband, and I am in councelling

Answer 1

I was raised Catholic as well, but early on in my life, I had the most earth-shaking lessons to learn. I prayed and did as I was taught to- and there was no allieviation of my suffering. This led to atheism and low self worth... But the suffering was proved to be lessons, no more no less; ten years later I am now secure in my religious beliefs, and the reasons behind the lessons...and the thing that religiousity doesn't teach or validate is that humans can thrive with or without God, and furthermore, with faith making you blind to the reality of situations, a person is inclined to pray away the suffering and not seek why the suffering is imposed in the first place. (To learn and grow from; most people see suffering as punishment, but it is not so. A mistake is only a mistake if it is not learned from.) What you can actively do now to make things come into perspective and begin the healing, is to evaluate just how happy the situations that are no more actually made you. If you realize that the husband is an abuser, and that you were depressed even though you had the love of your life right there beside you, then in reality the abuser always did abuse, and that the depression would not be taken away by that man, only exacerbated by his presence; God helps those who help themselves, and if you have spent years helping those around you, and paying little attention to what you could do for yourself, now God is forcing you to help yourself. And really, it is a blessing, because if the depression was as mine was, there would be no escape except death in your old life. Now you have been gifted with your own second chance. It does not take death to kill your old ways of being. Love yourself first, then you will be in a better position to get the love you need.
Brightest Blessings.

Answer 2

Patience, prayer and time are the only true answers. There have been many times in my life that I have felt as you do and I have always found the following very helpful.

And a woman spoke, saying Tell us of Pain

And He said :

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding; Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain. And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wonderous than your joy; And you would accept the seasons of your heart, even as you have always accepted the seasons that pass over your fields. And you would watch with serenity through the winters of your grief. Much of your pain is self-chosen. It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self. Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquility: For his hand, though heavy and hard , is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen, And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips, has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has moistened with His own sacred tears.

THE PROPHET
Kahlil Gibran

Answer 3

If you're going through more than you can deal with emotionally, spiritually, or whatever you can always seek professional help. Sometimes it can help just to have someone to talk to. Find a mental health professional through your insurance to help get you through tough times or maybe seek out some type of support group where you can talk to other people who are experiencing the same type of loss. There are prescription drugs you can take for depression that might help, and if you are in an abusive relationship, definitely get some support/counseling from some type of domestic violence assistance center that can help you either get out of the relationship or work on resolving the problems within it. Religion can help, but it can't solve everything. It never hurts to seek out professional help, which is what I would suggest you do. Try this website for help in an abusive relationship:

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
National Domestic Violence Hotline
www.ndvh.org

Answer 4

The Bible says that if we ask without doubt, then we have what we asked for. Ask Jesus for faith and then ask for what you need and want, don't forget that God knows what you have need of before you ask. Also, the Bible says (I'm not sure where the verse is) that He is like a husband to widows. In a way you are like a widow, ask Him to be like your husband. He will help you, encourage you, build you up and catch you if you stumble. Don't forget that God the Father and God the Son and God the Holy Spirit are one in the same and are both eager to help you! You just need to ask and believe THEN hold on and keep believing.
love much!

Answer 5

Oh honey, I am so sorry for you. Breakups are some of the worst pain besides death one can experience.

It will take lots of time for the pain to subside. In the meantime you must involve yourself with others, family and friends and other activities to occupy your mind.

Praying is good. My advice to you is that when you pray instead of asking God for relief, instead Thank God for relieving you of your pain, with the absolute belief that your prayer has already been granted. I assure you, it will be!

Sending love, light and blessings to you with this message!

Answer 6

assalam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatahu
(may the peace and blessings of Allah be with u)

perseverence, endurance and patience . thats the key for sucess in ur life.

dont mind wat the world says. if a person loves u then they will love u for who u are not for wat u will be for them.

and physical beauty is not everything in this world, beauty lies skin deep. its your heart that should be beautiful.

try speaking to a best freind or anyone close to u. it will help. do not bottle up feelings. it will harm u.

and dont worry about the world, u do wat u have to. when someone is inciting anger or leaving u hurt just leave the place, take a walk or get a nap. it will help. cry if u have to, if it helps.

but dont be a pessimist. get up and walk, show people that u r a step ahead. and enjoy life aournd u, enjoy positive people and their company. it will help u boost ur confidence.

ill pray to God that u may well soon get over this and be happy as u wish to be. all the best for ur bright and beautiful future. hope 2 see u someday on TV.

and when u do, plz drop me a message

may the peace and blessings of Allah be with u

Answer 7

Well, in addition to prayer I'd suggest you go and find some real-world help too. There are counselors available and support groups for people who have suffered like you have. Get out of the house. Take a walk. Meet other people. Someone once said that even miracles need a hand.

Answer 8

Keep on keeping on. I went through a divorce and depression. God comforted me through it all. Meds didn't help my depression so I gave it to God and He delivered me. Now I have a more loving wife and great children. God always takes the bad and turns it for good to all that believe.

Answer 9

I think you have had some strange answers so far.....prayer will help.... but you must learn patience....you have gone through a terrible time and a loss.....it is understandable that you feel pain right now....you can really get through this.... there are many of us who have gone through something like this, and things even worse.

The pain will be there as long as you are grieving . This is normal....begin to turn to others that you love as well, and find comfort in their company. Do small things for others.

In time you will heal......

Answer 10

Stay busy and keep your loved ones around you . The only thing that is going to help you is time. It takes a great deal of time to get over these things. Hang in there and like I said, stay busy.