If you don't have a good, supportive, nurturing mother,?

Question

How did you learn the lessons that a mother is supposed to teach?

Answer 1

My mother has always never been supportive or a nurturing mother. She seems to always find something wrong with everything I do or say and is so selfish. She has hurt me more than I think I could ever hurt mentally. But, going through what I went through with her, made me a much better person to my own children. I give them hugs all of the time, tell them I love them all of the time, and I am there for them if they need to talk about any subject and they know I am here for them. We don't argue hardly ever. What I went through made me want to be a better person and parent. I just do the things that I needed so desperately from my own Mother with my kids. Just think about it. It really makes sense. Your mother didn't treat you right. Let it come natural to treat your children the ways you wished your mother would have treated you. I will be thinking about you and hope it all works out for you.

Answer 2

There are fathers out there who can teach the same lessons.. Just as many mothers have to step into the shoes of the absent fathers. Less not forget that nurturing is done by both genders, and, if you don't have one or the other, then, with the grace of God, the other fills that void.
And, let us not forget, most families are not isolated from sisters, mothers, (ie, grandmothers,) older daughters who can fill in that role when something happens to the direct mother.

Answer 3

Even though my mom was none of those things, she did teach me a lesson. By not being there as a mom and doing what loving mothers are supposed to do, I learned how not to be like her. That was the best lesson she ever taught me.

Answer 4

my father was mom and dad most of our lives, though mom was there she wasn't any good at being a mom. I learned to be a loving mother by doing the opposite as my own mother did. My son will always come first in my life.

Answer 5

Believe it or not I have found that by not having a mother like this, has made me and my sisters much better mothers! We knew what we were missing and didn't want our children to feel the same way. If you want to be a good mother........there is half the battle.......you want to be, so you will do what it takes to be.

Answer 6

Oh I hear ya! I actually like to say I had the best mother, because whenever I question my abilities I think, "What would my mother do in this situation?" and then I usually do the exact opposite. Works every time.