Ok so i was dating this guy for 4 yrs, totally in love and then it became a long distance relationship, he cheated and admitted to it(was not caught) he slept with his sisters best friend who knew me , knew we were in love and together and still slept with him, to make a long story short I left him.. He begged me to keep him and even though It hurt I couldnt so he went to the next easy piece of *** and is now i guess in a relationship with her, but we are still in love and he still calls me and sleeps with me and tells me he cant love without me and to take him back.. Im faced with this horrible feeling that I'm doing exactly what I hate this girl for doing but at the same time I want her to feel what I felt..(inside i know i can have him back when i want...but it kinda feels good to make him feel he can almost have me but ****** up and I want her to feel what I felt, and I want her to know what goes around comes around and the ***** karma caught up, is this wrong?
2006-08-13 06:14:30 · 21 answers · asked by haydeej20032000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It´s ok that you feel that way and that you want her to feel upset but remember that you were his gf and now you are the affair and that you are not blaming the one you have to blame...your ex bf. He is guilty! there´s a lot of easy girls in the world and she was one of them...so think if you want to share your life with a guy who is in love and go ******* around....or maybe if it was only this time cause we was feeling lonely..maybe it was just sex and you should stop the game now cause you can lose him forever.
So...you have to know what is going on...if you love him or not and if he loves you...but do not share your guy with an easy girl and please take care of yourself before him or before the revenge
you are the most important person you have to pay attention to...
good luck
2006-08-13 06:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My personal opinion is that you should give him up...especially if he's sleeping with other girls and actually has a relationship with one! Of course he begs you to take him back. That way he can have his cake and eat it too...lol....no matter where he goes he has a girl waiting for him. He's using you and your going right along with it. Since he lives somewhere else you will never know what he's doing. If he's having a relationship with someone else how can he say he loves you? So, he's probably telling at least 2 girls that he loves them. You need to make a new life for yourself without him and let him know that. Find a guy who will appreciate you and only sleep and spend time with you! Your too good to be playing second fiddle...good luck and dump the guy!
2006-08-13 06:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by ctryhnny04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in karma but I will tell you this. What he did to you was wrong but you don't need me to tell you that. He has brought this on himself and no matter which way you look at it, he is getting what he deserves. I hate to be so harsh sweetie but you asked. I think that it is time for you to move on and try to let go . There will be another opportunity in life for you to be loved by someone. He is not the only fish in the sea. You don't need to take this guy back, He is just using you for sex and he knows it. He has sex with you and then goes and has sex with her. he doesn't deserve you. You can't teach an old dog new tricks. He will do it again. Love is not a game. He can't just play you and expect no repercussions. I hope that you will come to your senses. Good Luck
2006-08-13 06:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by Amy A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is bad, the phrase I have always used is two wrongs don't make a right. I know you want to make that girl hurt the way you hurt, but you shouldn't cause pain on other people. What you should do it just leave this guy. Apparently he didn't love you enough not to cheat on you so you should just let him go and not sleep with him anymore because he is not worth it. Go find yourself someone who isn't going to cheat on you. Good luck!
2006-08-13 06:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are missing a huge chunk of this story. Have you forgotten the part of the player boyfriend? The guy who cheated on his girlfriend but still gets to sleep with her AND his new girlfriend? This guy is living in a fantasy! How many guys can say they cheated on their girl and ended up sleeping with the ex AND his current girl. Wake up girl and smell the coffee! This guy is using you and that other girl. He is not really interested in either of you! Of course he will say you are what he wants; he is getting sex from you! I am sure he is telling his girlfriend the same thing he tells you when he has sex with her! Forget him and get yourself into a constructive relationship! What the hell are you thinking????
2006-08-13 06:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're sacrificing your self-esteem for revenge? If you want to dump him, do it and be done with it and move on. Playing with people's feelings (your own included) and using sex as a weapon is the best way to get karma to jump up and bite YOU in the a$$.
2006-08-13 06:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you put stars for ***** but didnt for ****ed?
like you said what goes around comes around. she knew you 2 were a couple and you know they are now a couple. its karma and she'll have to deal just like you did. and i know it feels good to make him relize he messed up, but you gotta either 4give him or move on it wrong to mess with his head like that and eventually he'll get fed up with it and stop his feelings for you are only gonna last so long if you dont stop. take him back he didnt try to cover it up that he slept with another woman he told you. you left him but im sure he was sorry. he needs you and you love him take him back.
2006-08-13 06:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by Flafibopsicles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is not your game but the guy's game. as what i understand with your story, he still sleeps with you, and then sleeps with his other girl? boy he's the man. you might not know it but oh boy does he like this one. sleeping with two women that he likes at the same time without a real commitment at all? this guy must really feel like he's a goddamn stud. and you? wake up girl, and move on. quit being used.
2006-08-13 06:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by zachary_red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its bad but who cares he did screw-up ur only going 2 hurt urself by thinking u can get him back any time u want if u wait 2 long he may not want u back
2006-08-13 06:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by canibus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are on the right path. It is only wrong if it feels wrong to you.
If i were in your shoes i would ring her little neck for her because she isnt anything but a skanky ho.
And if they are together now then i say DO YOUR WORST!! TO THEM BOTH!!!
2006-08-13 06:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by katie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋