how do I get over him?

Question

I just broke up with my boyfriend last night, and we had gone out for about six months. It seems like I cannot go ten minutes without him crossing my mind. He was my first love, and I just want to get him off of my mind. It is hard because heis friends with so many of my friends, so it is hard to avoid him. He says the whole talking as friends is stupid, so I'm never going to get to talk to him ever again in my life, which is sort of depressing. But I just would like to know some ways to get my mind off of him, and if any of you have had to go through this and how you coped?

Answer 1

When you can't get your ex out of your head it’s all too easy to remain possessed by past passions. The only way to lay old ghosts to rest is to exorcise your ex!

Release the demons
Before you can move on, you need to let all those pent-up feelings out. It’s totally normal to feel sad, upset, disappointed, lonely and even downright furious!

Talk to someone you trust and bawl your eyes out. Punch your pillow and deface his photo if it makes you feel better: whatever it takes to squeeze out all that hurt you’ve been holding on to. If you keep your feelings inside, they’ll haunt you forever.

Leave the past behind
Now you need to close an imaginary door to stop those feelings creeping back in. Start by removing everything that reminds you of him. Change your room around so it looks different than it was when you were together.

List the reasons you’re better off without him and remember to include all his ugly points. Now make a list of the things you want from a boyfriend in the future. You’ll soon see that the past is best left behind you, while the future has much better things in store.

Day by Day
The ghost of your relationship will lurk for a while, so it’s important to stay strong everyday. Stop asking if he called when you were out. No more checking your emails obsessively and whatever you do, don’t be tempted to call or text him.

You also need to banish him from your thoughts, so no more dreaming about getting back together when you go to bed at night! This is the hardest part, but hang in there and you’ll get through it.

Life after your ex
An experience like this will change you, and that’s good because you’ve learnt from it and you’re ready to move on as a new, improved person.

This is an excellent time to reorganise your life and set some new goals. Stop looking back and start looking forward. Your past passion is dead, let it rest in peace!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Hey hon

I understand what you are going through. Just remember time will heal all wounds. Just think of a week down the road, a month , a year. You will be alive and happy just without him. "This too shall pass".

I hope you have true girlfriends who know that you need them more than ever at this time.
Go out as much as possible to places where you did not go with you ex. Get a massage, do your hair, change the colour, get a hair cut. Change all your underwear, get a few new pieces of clothes (if you can afford it). Think positive and read your Bible.

This will help hon.

All the best. My prayers are with you.

Answer 4

Recently, I had to get over someone (who was also friends with some of my other friends). Here are some suggestions:

-You've just broken up, so it's normal for him to be on your mind a lot. Doubts, second thoughts, what-ifs, etc. are to be expected. Try to distract yourself with other things and not give in to them.

-It's best if you avoid interacting for a while. If you can both agree to not cross each other's paths for the time being, it helps. Of course, since you share friends, you'll probably see each other, but try to limit it to large group activities where you have an excuse not to talk to each other too much.

-Don't say or do anything to hurt him. If it's hard for him to see you, that's normal for a guy. Maybe you can't be friends RIGHT NOW, but time usually heals and there's no reason you can't be friends later.

Answer 5

Oh, I'm sorry to hear about that sweetie! Break-ups are tough!

I know how you feel, trust me! I was in your position once! The pain will go away though and sooner than you think! Just have a girly night out! A sleepover maybe?! Don't lock yourself up in your room whatever you do! Keep in touch with your friends! Never forget about them! They are more important than any guy!

You mentioned how your Ex is friends with a lot of your friends. Just meet them at different times! In time, he'll realise he's being silly and will want to talk to you again! He's just being stubborn at the moment!

I hope my advice has helped!

Hang with the girls! Xx

Answer 6

i'm not telling you to get any false hope, but why don't you give it a couple of weeks before you worry about getting over him. you never know what's going to happen. he may decide in a few days that he made a mistake. all i am saying is to give it time before you decide it's time to move on with your life. after you're sure that it's not going ot happen, the best thing i would suggest doing is keeping yourself busy. hang out with friends, or try to get back in the saddle, and date again. even if you don't find someone else you can have a relationship with, at least you're occupied and you canhave some fun.

Answer 7

dear friend,

what is the wrong of us ( girls ) if u break up with some one
it is like that we lose our life, it is the end of the world.
u imagine that u can't get him off of ur mind.
actually this foolish behavior from us,u know why??
because we keep thinking about them while they are sleeping
with another girl with out caring to our feeling.

I'll give u some solution i hope that they will help u:

1_ try to find another boyfriend
2_ try not to be alone bcoz lonely make us remember.
3_ if u start to think about him try to think about something else.
4_ don't ever hear soft music.
5_ try to think about his bad habits.
6_ think again about his look and try to make him sooooooooo
ugly.
7_ make him just a friend ( nothing more, nothing less) if u can,
and if not leave him.
8_ don't bay to him lot of attention cause this make boys feel
that we need them so they start to act in very prideful way.

and up to having the same friends, u can deal with this easily
u haven't to change ur friend because of him, if u meet some
of ur friends and he was with them, go and say hi and set with them if he didn't like the idea of having the same friends let him
change his friends, don't compromise.

sorry for my long answer, hope that i help u

Answer 8

i think the best thing to do is just to get out and hangout with your girlfriends to get your mind off of him or maybe u can just find something to do that u have never done before and have always wanted to do...wait have u gotten rid of all the things that remind u of him?..if not do that...well thats i have to say about that but i wish u the best and keep your head up cause you'll find another guy that will love you more then your ex

Answer 9

Well, I think that you need to decide whether or not you are still in love with him. If you are, get back together. How did you guys break up? If you don't, then just go out to parties and clubs annd stuff, find another guy to keep your mind off of it.

Answer 10

Yes i went through this with one guy who was my neighbour and he didnt want to b frenz either. it was hard 4 me i didnt want to go outside anymore but it didnt make sense cuz he was my first also. i said it must take a while but after that u mightn't even remember his last name. Some people come into ur life 4 only a season 2 teach u things u didnt know and 4 a lifetime. Ugotta know whose ur seson and ur lifetime babes. u'll know trust me. Good Luck!!!