my boyfriend split with me today cos my 12yr old son was quite cheeky towards him.just feeleing a wee bit low?

Answer 1

If that was enough to send the guy running, he's not what you need anyway. With a 12 yr old son, you need to find a man with a little more patience than that.

Answer 2

How did your ex react when you first met him and you told him you had a kid? How long were you and your ex a couple? If you were only together for a while, honey it just aint worth it. Been in this predicament a few times before myself and if ANY guy really thinks any thing of you at all, he will FULLY understand that you and your son are one and the same. Know what I mean? Kids will push the boundaries and THEN SOME!!!!!! Half the time its just to see what reaction they will get from the guy and what he will do to resolve the matter. Your son is also at an age where his head doesn't know what his body is doing half the time or vice versa!! I have a son myself similar age and we have some pretty interesting "moments" too. Talk to your boy, ask him straight why he did what he did, then go from there. You might be surprised at his response. My partner of nearly ten years had all this and more with my kids and it nearly came close on several occassions parting ways, but talking and dealing with issues as when they cropped up, really helped. It was so hard and heart breaking both for us as a couple and my kids. But we are now a family and he IS their dad which was a joint decision that they made together. Don't dismiss your son's feelings or his bad behaviour, but don't dismiss your own either! I really hope this helps and you will find the Mr. Right for you AND your son. Good luck!!!!

Answer 3

Firstly, kids at that age ARE going to be rude, insulting, cheeky little brats to anyone and everyone, if your boyfriend loved you enough to know that you both come as a package and that kids are like that then he would stick around. Obviously hes got a problem. You are going to feel low, upset, and more sensitive for the next week or so but think of the positive outlook at this, atleast now you can look for someone whos REAL.... if you did love him then thats his loss... I'm sorry. Cheer up... why don't you and your son have a nice night in. or invite the girls around and have a girly night in while sumone looks after your son. Chocolates will cheer u up, laughter is the best cure ... Jus remember, family is forever x x

Answer 4

Perhaps that wasn't the real excuse, maybe he's been wanting out for a while & just waiting for an excuse. If that really was the reason then he ought to know that a lad of 12 is likely to start feeling that he should be the man of the house ( or at least have a bit of a say in things) and your bf really cant expect much better from him as he gets older

Answer 5

Take away your sons pocket money and tv time for a month, remove his computer, and make him come straight home from school and not see any friends for a month. See how he likes it with no friends. Start it and STICK TO IT for the full month. No football, nothing. Tell him if he does it again, the retribution will be worse, and that you are entitled to your friends, and they are entitled to respect. He's a spoilt snot-nosed kid- dont let the little git dictate how you live and spoil your life. He clearly has no respect for you and is certainly old enough to know better. Teach him a lesson he needs to learn. Not sure what to suggest about the boyfriend, but NO man is going to take cheek from some kid- if you let him behave to your boyfriends in that way, youll be alone a long time.

Answer 6

That's really rotten of him. I dare say there must have been another reason behind the split? I say you are much better off without the idiot by the sounds of it. I know everyone will be saying this and it comes to no reassurance when you feel this low but just remember that you wont always be feeling this way and better days are around the corner. Put your chin up kid - who needs men anyway? If I were you I'd get a bit piece of cake and stuff my face with it - normally helps!

Answer 7

I married my boyfriend even though my kids didn't really like him. It was a big mistake they were right he was a jerk, they saw it when I didn't. Ask your son, exactly what the problem with the boyfriend is? Then if it is just a jealousy thing talk to him let him know that you can love them both. And always make sure that you spend time with your son just the two of you. It makes the adjustment of a new man in mom's life not so rough if he knows his place is secure. Learned this all the hard way.

Answer 8

That will happen in life, but just know that your 12 yr. old son is (and correct me if i'm wrong) the best thing that ever happened to you and to make him happy means the world to you. If you want him to understand, you really have to lay into him that this is really what you want. On the other hand, ALWAYS ask for his opionion in a situation like that, even if you dont take his advise......i know absoloutly nothing about you or your son, but i do know that i'd ALWAYS protect my mother from being hurt, maybe that's his way of showing it! But, if your boyfriend left you because of that, and he dosn't understand that a 12 yr. old son dosn't understand everything about love and life yet, nor should he be epected to, then you need to find your self some one worth the both of your time! Hope i helped,
Holly

Answer 9

Aawwww, I feel for you, but I think that your child should come before any man, and if he is not able to handle a bit of lip from a 12 year old, then maybe things wouldnt have worked out anyway. I was lucky and have the best step-daddy in the world - so they do exist ! Chin up my love...at least you have your boy, and nothing can take that relatioship away from you.

Answer 10

Don't feel low! 12 year olds are cheeky- all the time! I'm sure everything will work out fine when your boyfn realises that. If not then it seems he may be less mature than your son!!!