okay, i am olny 23,i've always wanted to get married and have kids. i want to do this before i am too old to have kids. my boyfriend of 2 years can't have kids and doesn't belive in marrage, but i love him with all my heart and can't really see myself with anyone else. what do i do??
2006-08-13 05:36:53 · 17 answers · asked by michelle w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it Depends if You Really Love Him and He is Someone Very Important to You and You Cant Live Without Him ..and If He is Sooo Nice and Kind and Truly Love YOU !! Then Its Your Choice to Stay With him ...
But If Hes Normal and He is Like Anyone ..You Could Move on Because You Want Kids ...
Look Theres Only One Life ,Live it the Way YOU Want it !!!!..
So its Your Choice if You Truly love Him ....
Good Luck With Your Life ...
Thanks For Asking very Honest Question
2006-08-13 05:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by Unique !! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he can't have kids. Believe nothing that you hear and only half of what you see. That is until you can prove or disprove it. My wife was seventeen years my jr. She died in a car crash. We had three great kids. The youngest is now 13. I can't understand why anyone would not want kids. Love is a state of mind.
You can bring the grocerys home in a cadalac or shoping cart. Don't trust anyone but me and your mother and I not completely sure about your mother. I'm betting this person can have kids. Go shopping for a real man. One with a cadalac.
2006-08-13 13:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by popeye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to talk to him and see if he wont compromise. If he still insists on not having children or getting married then you should think about leaving. But keep in mind that love conquers everything. You may find him more open if you just show a little patience with him. And just because he cant have kids doesnt mean that you cant find another way to have the family that you want.
2006-08-13 12:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by katie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just read your question and to me you basically answered your own question you said you want KIDS he can't give you kids and then you said you want to get MARRIED and he does'nt believe in marriage and you must also consider the fact that he's been around hes got a few years on you,I will never tell a woman that she should leave her man but maybe you should think about exploring other options due to the fact that you seem to want things that he shows no interest in giving you which means that he's either depriving you or trying to control you,hey it's happened to me before older men tend to be much wiser and they know mind games that you wont recognize until you are ready to leave them for good and then they want to change all of a sudden.
2006-08-13 12:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are far from too old to have children. I know you probably love your boyfriend, but giving up the chance to have and raise a child is too big a sacrifice to make. I believe that most women dream of the day we have a child - and I can tell you the greatest, and most memorable days of my life were the days I gave birth to my two children. They are truly God's blessings - don't give up that dream!
2006-08-13 12:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by jasmine828_34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what you're telling me is that you wanna keep someone who does not want to keep If you want to spend the rest of your life trying to change someone who's set in his ways, and does not want what you want, Stay with him for the next 60 years. If you're willing to stand for your dream until you get what you want, get rid of him and start putting yourself in a position to meet new guys. Go to speed dating event, its a great way to meet lots of guys in a short period of time and pick out the best one to date until the best one stands out. Take dance classes there are lots of singles there and they are of all ages. Don't be afraid to date more than one guy until you're ready to go stedy with just one. When you are make sure you have a conversation where it's clear you're now exclusive. One last thing, you're only 23, you have plenty of time to get pregnant and raise a family. Good luck!
2006-08-13 12:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Don Ricardo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your in a tough position - but you have to think do you love the idea of getting married and having kids more than you love your boyfriend.
And to be honest he's too old for you anyway
2006-08-13 13:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you will just have to live with him and hope one day he doesn't find an even younger woman to shack up with because it sounds to me like he's git-ting the milk and never has to worry about buying the cow if you know what I mean
2006-08-13 12:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by freeatlastboone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on!! You are 2 young for him, He has lived his life..He is already settled in his life. You are just beginning yours..You cannot force him to change his mind. It will only cause you more pain.
2006-08-13 12:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl it is time to move on.....you have said so yourself.....you two are incompatible. You want marraige and kids, he doesnt. You want commitment and stability, he wants freedom to come and go as he pleases. Give him what he wants and leave his ***.....fnd someone who wants what you want in life.....I promise you he is out there somewhere.
2006-08-13 12:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by pseansum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋