My brothernlaw smells so bad. It is hard to sit and have a conversation with him and breathe at the same time. When he comes over to our house he stinks our couch up when he sits on it. At one of our daugthers bday's, everyone went to the other side of our house when he came in. Several people made comments to my husband and I when they left. He doesn't wear underwear or a belt, and shows half of his crack at all times. We have to really spray the disinfectant when he comes over. My husband bought him soap and underwear for his birthday and he thought it was funny. He doesn't take showers and really enjoys the attention he gets from it. We have tried to ignore him, but you cant when you cant breathe. This whole story sounds hysterical but it is really true. Does anyone else have this problem. What would you do?
2006-08-13 05:04:53 · 28 answers · asked by oceanjen2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ohhh I understand. First try giving him a whole hygiene kit for Christmas, or whatever. If that doesn't work, then you should have a talk with him. Tell him that he needs to wash up. If he laughs continue:
Tell him:
1) How seriously bad, not being clean for that long, and not wearing underwear is bad for you.
2) Tell him about all those comments people have made about him, behind his back.
3) Tell him, that it is kind of embarrassing to be near him, at times... especially around friends.
4) What a bad role model he is for your daughter.
5) Tell him, that he needs to shape up, or else.
6) Tell him that you have a social life, and he's ruining it.
7) Tell him to think about you guys, for once.
8) Tell him, if he doesn't shape up, you are going to have to sever ties with him.
LASTLY, TELL HIM TO GET A LIFE FROM ME!
2006-08-13 05:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
he sounds like a good ole country boy but he probably doesn't know it's that bad.. you or you're husband should sit down and have a hearth to hearth with him .. hold you're breath if you have to j/k.. let him know you're not telling him this because you hate him .. it's a fact of life some people just have body's that sweat more and can make a odor that others can't stand.. let him know things that will help him and that you are there for support.. if all else fails take the garden hose to him.. Just kidding LOL
2006-08-13 12:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by ambereyes13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have that problem but you could talk to him and inform him about how it makes you feel. Secondly encourage him to soak in a warm bath of (aveno) oatmeal soap and baking soda it will eliminate the order and try to switch to a stronger , more manly deodorant to help absorb the moisture/ Some individuals body chemistry's are very different don't criticize- improvise
2006-08-13 12:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by Tired of lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if it was me i would give my sister some pointers... like telling her to have a romantic candle light bath and tell her to ask him to join or the shower
tell her to sex him 6 days a week in the shower so at least he is hitting the water and may be go hubby underwear shopping wiht her and pretend you want to see ur husband in some nice briefs so she will pick him up some along with a belt
girls help each other i wouldnt want everyone talking about my sisters husband
2006-08-13 12:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by carla28al 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like it really stinks id do one thing the next time he comes over take it to the next level get a few husky men or women and give him a bath . it mite embrace him but if hes that bad then your doing him a favor,as well as not smelling up the house good luck
2006-08-13 12:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by ihclyde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worked at a Tobacco Outlet part time for a while and I had a regular customer that smelled like that it was horrible. Tell your sister that he can not come over until he washes himself. Not only is that gross it's not very healthy and I think he would feel much better if he washed.
2006-08-13 12:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never had a problem as bad as yours, but be firm and let him know that it is not acceptable for him to smell so foul, people sometimes don't let smokers smoke in their house why should it be any different? stop inviting him to your activities and when you are around him avoid him...Talk to your sister? about the problem and let her know that it's not about him personally it's about his odor. If he is willing to clean himself up a bit and be some what presentable then he can be allowed back into your home.
2006-08-13 12:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he is not welcome in the house unless he showers and cleans up. Be honest with him. Tell him he stinks and it is hard to sit down and talk to him. He must have a depression issue if he does not want to clean up or he could be on drugs who knows only you do.
2006-08-13 12:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the answers that you have received are good. Purchase him a bar of soap and tell him to bath and wash his clothes even if he should have to do them by hand in the bath tub or not visit with you.
2006-08-13 12:24:25 · answer #9 · answered by popeye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't mean to hurt his feelings, but his odor is very offensive and he isn't welcome to your house unless he cleans up. He obviously knows he is bothering others. He HAS to be able to smell himself! I shower daily, but I still know when I stink (like after being active outside). You have a right to not have to smell his nasty butt in your own home. Or talk to your sister (or husbands sister?)(this man's wife) talk to him. How can SHE stand him??!!
2006-08-13 12:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋