Out of stubborness my toddler out of the blue has stopped using his manners. Im not strict about other words such as please and your welcome, I mean he's only 2(that can be taught in time) but I have been strict with thank you. Should I impose it on him and not give him what he wants or should I let it be? Im not quite sure he understands when I tell him "say thank you." And I feel really guilty hearing him cry. HELP!
2006-08-13 05:03:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Oh and btw he hears thank you from his parents all the time. Either directly to him or him hearing it in conversation btwn. adults. Thats how he learned it in the first place.
2006-08-13 05:17:31 · update #1
Keep telling him thank you, and insist that he say it back. sometimes he will, sometimes he won't but keep it up. It's just a phase. He'll start back when he's out of it.
2006-08-13 05:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by Tara R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would enforce it by not giving him what he wants until he says it. I wouldn't deprive him of food or liquids but if it's something else I would let him know that he's not going to get it until he says thank you. If you let it be then he will think that he doesn't have to say it and then later on when you try to inforce it again you may have a hard time with getting him into the habit again.
Good luck. Two year olds can be really stubborn so consistantcy is the key.
2006-08-13 05:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by net_grl79 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 12:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by shea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to teach, "Action & Consequence". If your toddler refuses to say thank you when he is given something simply take it back. Give it to him again and if he still refuses then take it back again. If he continues with his stubbornness then let him do without he will get the message. You need to be consistent about how and what you are teaching your son. Please and you are welcome are also part of the courtesy of manners that goes along with thank you. It is wise to teach them all together. Imagine when he begins school and has to ask for something without please he will sound demanding, bossy and rude and be considered undisciplined.
Be mindful that he is at an age now where he is going to challenge your authority in little ways. You do not have to discipline harshly in order for your child to understand. You can do it gently and firmly without traumatizing your son. What you allow him to get away with now will set the foundation of what he feels he can do and get away with and his challenges to your authority will become more challenging as he gets older.
Remember: at 2 he has a short attention span.
2006-08-13 05:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by Virtuous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the mom. Put your foot down and tell him that you expect it from him. How about shortening it to "say ta". I hate the word ta, but have found myself asking my daughter to say it simply because it's easier for a little person to say.
Ultimately, what ever answers you get on here, do whatever you and your husband/partner feel comfortable with but make sure you're both consistent and 'singing from the same song sheet'.
Good luck!
2006-08-13 05:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm and stand your ground...children learn in many ways, one of which is repetition. Another is example, make sure that your child sees you being courteous in public and in your home! Those informal interactions are often the most memorable to little-ones! Personally, I think that "Please" is just as easy to enforce, since when asking for something, you can always give the: "what's the magic word?" phrase. I hope it all works out!
2006-08-13 05:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by Penn State Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should not let this slide. He is old enough to understand that when somebody gives your something you say "thank you." You can remind him after you fulfill the request.
Another good tactic is to say "thank you" to him when he does something you want or gives you something. Modeling the behavior and holding yourself to the same standards can be more effective than lecturing him. Good luck!
2006-08-13 05:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by tarheel mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think he is pretty young (2 years old). I don't think he understands what manners are yet. Don't feel guilty, you still have plenty of time to teach him.
2006-08-13 05:11:36 · answer #8 · answered by sarahmoonstone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to agree with your son - constantly repeating "Thank you" becomes very boring and repetitious. Sounds as though you are a bit nit picky. Just hang loose.
He should only say "Thank you" if he really means it - not as a matter of rote.
2006-08-13 05:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by fatsausage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him in order to have something ya have to say thank you. And roll play show him with you and someone else how if they give you something you say thanks. GOOD LUCK and don't feel guilty from him crying if he know you feel guilty he'll cry more and try to get away with more stuff.
2006-08-13 05:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sondra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋