2006-08-13 04:55:28 · 31 answers · asked by Ad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Pull down his pants, lay him over your knee, and spank his bare butt.
2006-08-13 04:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, he needs to understand what the rules are. Sit him down and let him know exactly what is expected of him. Tell him what he is allowed to do and what he is not allowed. A lot of parents automatically assume that their children know. They don't always. When he breaks one of the rules, let the punishment fit the "crime." Take away something that he enjoys doing, such as the computer, television, telephone, playing with friends, having friends over, grounding, whatever you choose. You are the parent and should be in control. Any of his privileges taken away for a certain amount of time (you need to stick with what you say) will change his attitude and make him think twice before he breaks the rules again. But whatever you choose as his punishment, stick to your guns and do not change your mind or reduce the time you have imposed for not letting him use or do whatever. If he does break another rule while a privilege has been taken away, add more time or take something else. It won't be easy, but just stay firm. I hope this helps.
2006-08-13 12:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by organic gardener 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on what he has done, what degree of poor behaviour has been shown. Discipline needs to be consistent and you should always follow through on it. Parents need to be in agreement and stick to it together or the child learns to divide and rule, and that it is meaningless because they get let off. Have set forms for different degrees and follow it up. If you send him to his room, he should not have all the toys and entertainment there as it's not going to make any difference if he can amuse himself as normal. Dont allow him to postpone discipline because there's a special event on, only by missing out on something important will the message get home. Once you start this things will become more difficult initially but if you stand firm he will realise you mean what you say.
2006-08-16 15:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only real way of punishing them at this age is to take away something that they love - whether that's the playstation, a toy etc. Tell them how long it's going for - and stick to it, no matter what. Also, if there's a tv show he absolutely loves, ban him from watching it. Always give a warning first - which will work if he knows you're serious.
Consistency is the most important thing. Don't give in to whines and grumbles no matter how tempting.
2006-08-13 12:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon what you are trying to punish him for, and what he values the most in his life. If you've tried all the usual things, like grounding and taking away privileges, and he still misbehaves, maybe he could benefit from counseling. Maybe the problem is that he somehow enjoys the attention he gets from misbehaving. Have you tried rewarding his good behavior, rather than punish what you consider the bad?
2006-08-13 12:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by sherrie_66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away what he loves the most,(games, video's, etc.), and be sure to tell him "why".Be very firm, but gentle, children need discipline,and since we(as parents) can no longer spank them like the mothers of yesteryear without being accused of Child Abuse,I myself found this method extremely beneficial, BUT, sticking to that punishment-you MUST make that a priority otherwise it's all in vain.
2006-08-13 12:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by marie p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The punnishment must fit the crime. For mild things like making a small mess etc, harsh words should suffice and making him clean up etc. For cheekyness, severe lieing, or more severe acts, a good hiding(spanking)is the only thing.
This positive reinforcement crap does not work. A child has to learn that there are consequences to his actions!!!
2006-08-13 12:02:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what he has done. i give my girlfriends little boy a 3 strikes policy. if he does 3 things that i rate naughty ( kick the cat etc!) he gets a strike. 3 strikes means no tv or cartoons, sweets straight too bed! but if he manages to stay within boundrys he gets treated with more respect and treated. he is slowly understanding that crying and being naughty does not get him nowhere and being polite and good gets him respect. REMEMBER all children will be naughty :) even adults ;) hope this helps
2006-08-13 12:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by eazitiger80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here with my 9 year old When you find something that works will you share!!!??!!! He wont listen he don't do his chores and he hits his 2 year old brother! And I have taking Every thing from him and he has been grounded For like a 6 months and he just seems not to care!
2006-08-13 12:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by lori b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why... what's he done?
My brother punishes his 10 year old daughter by taking away (temporarily) the things that matter most to her... iPod, internet access etc... generally works.... but his children are fairly well disciplined and not little sh1ts like a lot of kids today.
2006-08-13 12:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by dirtyminx82 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take away every thing he likes even the tv if you have to let him sit in a quite room if need be , i would nail up the windows and lock the door if i had to, good luck, get the upper hand now or you will loose him in a year or two,
2006-08-13 12:19:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋