I know for sure she received the invitation, and she did not even bother to rsvp. My husband tried to call, to make sure she was okay, and she did not answer the phone and has not replied to the voice mail message. The party was a month ago, and we have had no contact with her at all. She did attend her grandson's ninth birthday party the evening before, we saw her there and again she did not give any indication that she would not be able to attend my son's grad party. He is hurt and so am I.
2006-08-13 04:45:29 · 13 answers · asked by Michele L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is actually my step-son, and my husband's mother. She did not have a relationship with my husband's ex, so that is not an issue. He is 18, not 9, and I did not make any issue with my son about this at all. He expressed his feelings to me about his grandma not showing up. And my sister-in-law has been in daily contact with mom, so we know she is fine. Furthermore, I am not engaging in any pity party, I just wanted a consensus of opinions. Some of you need to read more and lighten up a bit :)
2006-08-13 05:25:07 · update #1
is it normal not to hear from her for so long....I'm thinking she may be hurt! But if she is alive and well then yes i would confront her, but i would do this by writing her a letter, this way you are getting out everything that you want to say, try not to be mean instead, make her feel like sh*t, you can do this by telling her that it hurt your son and that your son doesn't know why she would see a ninth birthday which birthdays come around yearly and not come see him for all that he had worked for, which you only graduate from high school once. If you are b*tchy in your letter then you won't get any good results, if you make her feel like sh*t then maybe she will at least call your son and apologize for her behavior. No matter what happens she is the one that missed out, not you and not your son. You were there for your boy and your boy smiled at you when he walked off that stage.
2006-08-13 04:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is her job as a grandmother to deal with this situation. Confronting her will only make things worse. If your son is graduating from high school, then he should be the one to confront her. He will get much better results that the wounded mother. Have him write her a card and say how much he wanted her there and how much he misses her. Maybe if it is your husband's mother, he should be dealing with it... I have an aunt named Theresa who got into everyone's faces about everything and everyone ended up hating her. Don't be a Theresa.
2006-08-13 04:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by Starlight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Question" Do you always turn small things into nuclear wars???? because you have known your mother inlaw now for atleast 9 yrs so you can't say this was a surprise. besides he's 9 and the mostimportent thing for him was the party not who came. this is about you dear. you and your mother inlaw have been doing this a while. if your son is up set its because you made this so much more then it should have been and you have upset him,,,, stop being sooo dramtic about everything.... and get over it already.
2006-08-13 05:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what's more important: your hurt pride or your mother-in-law?
Years from now, what do you want to remember and cherish? Your son's high-school graduation party [it's just a party!!!] or your hurt feelings?
2006-08-13 04:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, stir it all up, that is what you are bound to do. After all, you will NEVER measure up to the standards of your mother-in-law. Since you are lacking, why not attack her for what you perceive as a slight.
Quit being petty, you are hurt? Oh, too bad, so sad...
2006-08-13 04:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was not nice of her not to attend. I don't blame you and him for being hurt. Has she done this before? Does she neglect him in other ways?
Before confronting her I would check and make sure she is OK, especially is you haven't heard from her for a month.
Good luck.
2006-08-13 04:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, dont just judge her in a negative way, find out her reasons first. if you'll haven't heard anything from her, you should go over to her place and check on her. let her know how the family felt about her missing it and understand her situation then you can judge her. but family is family no matter what to a certain extent.
2006-08-13 04:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by an oriental guy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My first concern would be, has ANYONE seen or heard from her?
I'd be making a stronger effort to contact her to ensure she's alive.
2006-08-13 04:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So now you'll know to communicate better with her when it comes time for your son to graduate from college.
2006-08-13 04:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by Answers1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't bother. Mother-in-laws are useless anyway.
2006-08-13 04:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by Berdie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋