2006-08-13 04:44:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was messing with my married ex-boyfriend and I felt very guilty all the time. So yes I think it's bad. I use think about his wife how she felt. I never wanted that to happen to me so why was I doing it to her.
2006-08-13 04:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by valentyn_girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think its right........you say that's all it is is sexual...that might be the case for now. Things like this can usually turn into something more on either part. When someone is married and having a sexual relationship with someone else, there is always hurt involved. If he is having outside relations then there is obviously something wrong in his marriage, but that doesn't make it right for him to seek sexual offerings elsewhere.
He should try and fix whats wrong with his marriage. If he can't then he should seek a divorce. If he says he is happily married, I would think that he is not telling the truth. He is looking for something on the outside to compensate for what is lacking in his marriage.
I would strongly recommend you that you look for someone to have a meaningful relationship with. Often these relationships don't last or end up in disaster.
2006-08-13 11:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by allyp51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morally, yes it is wrong. My advice to you would be to end it as soon as possible. Do you ever think about what is going to happen if you start getting feelings for this man. Where is that going to leave you? I was in the same situation and i tried ending it several times because i knew it was wrong and i didn't want to hurt anyone, but i couldn't. There was too many feelings involved on both sides, so he left his wife and we now live together. He wasnt happy in his marriage and he says he would've left regardless if he had met me or not. Your guy obviously isn't happy as welll otherwise he wouldn't be cheating. I'm not saying he will leave his wife, but you have to think about it from all aspects. Try to find someone who will be available to you when you want, not when they want or can. Don't you think you deserve better than that?
2006-08-13 11:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yep, he's married he belongs to someone else and not you. Just because you're happy doesn't mean anything what if in the future you want that commitment and he can't give you what you want?
Women who know a man is married are considered skanky to me. Seriously have more respect for yourself and stop poaching on someone else's territory.
As for him he's just as bad for even seeking outside the marriage, if he's having issues with his wife than he should get a divorce and be with you instead. Or work his issues out with the wife instead of running from it.
2006-08-13 11:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the guy is willing to cheat and you are not thinking he will leave his wife for you and that you will live happily ever after, than it is okay. When I usually hook-up with a married man, I use an alias with complete back story and fake business cards. Just hope the wife never finds out.
2006-08-13 11:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by The Princess of Pleasure 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont know if its wrong,hes obviously not happy,but make sure your not a fling,after having been down the long road of being the 3rd person in a relationship its not recommended,even though it worked out ok for me,your not doing anything wrong! he is the one who is married
2006-08-13 11:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by mark y0869 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some marriages are made in hell should be broken up! The fact that you know he is married and you are old enough to make your on decisions why are you asking this question? He is only hurting his wife. Since I don't know her situation , I can't give you a honest answer.
2006-08-13 11:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by Retarded Dave 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your not married it wont hurt you at all unless you fall for him and he can't leave his family. It will cause alot more pain for him then you. But you might think about finding someone that is more available. Because you know that your just some outside satisfaction for him. If you weren't then he would be with you instead of being married.
2006-08-13 11:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do u feel happy, when he deceives his wife and possibly kids.
This is risky monkey business, not quite what u should be involved with unless u have some insecurities about yourself in finding a guy your type and available for more than sex, Life should be about more than sex or lust. what happens when that's done. are u done also.?
ask yourself how u feel if it was reversed situations on u.
2006-08-13 11:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wrong...depends on morals...
Sometimes what starts out as a sex only relationship...can turn into a relationship with feelings...The more time you spend with one person, the more you know them, the more feelings develop.
2006-08-13 12:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋