She asked me (in txt) why people always hurt you. We are meeting up tomorow and we will talk bout it. What should I do/say?
2006-08-13 04:40:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you just listen to her
2006-08-13 04:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Draven opinions are like assholes on this one everybody has one hooooh boy!!! But my advice is there are 2 legged human animals in this world who are never truly happy unless someone is in their gunsights making someone else miserable is the advice i would offer your friend then crack a joke to lighten the mood....
I have a joke that never fails:
There is this cruise ship in the middle of the ocean and the only entertainment on this ship is this really lame Chris Angel MindFreak wannabe as the entertainment....
Now the first mate of this cruise ship is almost legally blind and has a parrot on his shoulder captain hook style as a helper animal and this magician hates this bird with a passion for ruining the secrets of his tricks....
The bird would squawk "RAWK IT'S IN HIS SLEEVE" or "RAWK IT IN HIS COAT POCKET!!!" So 1 day the magician has had enough and pulls a gun durring the performance and takes a shot at the bird.....
The shot misses and hits a fuel line blowing the ship all to hell killing everyone on board but the magician and the bird and as they are floating on the wreckage in the ocean waiting to be rescued the bird looks at the magician and says
"Okay I give up where's the damn ship??"
Try that and see if she laughs if she does it
will work to help lighten her mood if it does it's smooth sailing after that.
Hope I could be of some help
2006-08-13 12:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by Pale Rider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Always hurt" !!!!! Something is wrong. Your GF may be ultrasensitive or she may be moving around with nasty people.
Listen to her and let her empty her heart which will reduce the misery of being hurt.
Tell her to increase her self respect and give less importance to others opinions or tantrums. Let her know that the world is not perfect and some people are insensitive to others. Ask her to avoid such people.
If the situation does not improve, she may have a psychotic reason too. Let her visit a psychiatrist before it is too late.
2006-08-13 11:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telll her some people are insensitive and others just don't realize that they are hurting you. There are cruel people out there who like the reaction they get from you. Tell her it's hard but she shouldn't internalize it. When people know they can hurt you some will do it all the time and they have power over you, take the power away and keep her feelings inside until she can be around a good friend who will help her get over things.
2006-08-13 11:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason people hurt is because Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit. what I think you should do is just be there for her. Listen to everything she has to say and if she wants your opinion then give it to her. Your friend needs to realize that there will always be hurt in life. thats just how it is and there is nothing we can do about it. I hope you have goodluck with your friend and I hope she moves on from whatever pain she is feeling.
2006-08-13 13:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of us know why other people hurt us or want to hurt us. Just listen to her and let her know she deserves better than that. Tell her not to put up with it. She will still feel hurt but encourage her not to let it get her down. Tell her what her good qualities are.
Good luck, you sound like a very good friend to have.
2006-08-13 11:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes comforting is not the best thing. If she put herself in a situation that she got her hurt, then you gentily tell her to learn from her mistake. You can tell her it will get better, but if she does not learn she will continue to make the mistakes and then come to you crying again.
2006-08-13 11:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by The Princess of Pleasure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should listen to her and be empathetic. Also you'd better start thinking about whether she is talking about you! In that case bring some knee pads to help you say "I'm sorry" properly and convincingly.
2006-08-13 11:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by Answers1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you feel the same way and let her know she is not a lone because she has you. Tell her you mean a lot to her
2006-08-13 11:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Pre lives on 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen and don't give advice unless asked.
2006-08-13 11:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A shoulder and an ear
2006-08-13 11:45:39 · answer #11 · answered by EL Big Ed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋