Why is it whenever my boyfriend hangs out with his friends?

Question

he never calls me, then when i text him at 2:00 at night he always has an excuse. Last night his excuse was , my phone died. Then why is it everytime im with him , his phone is perfectly fine , he gets a bunch of phone calls , never dies when im around. He uses the excuse, I didnt feel well i feel asleep, or my phone was turned off, my phone died, i was in a n area with no signal. When ever he hangs out with his cousins this doesnt happen.
So last night i flipped on him , i didnt talk to him only texts.
Why do some guys do this, or at least mine does?
He wants me to treat him better, and not call him names but then he does things like this to piss me off, and i tried talking to him about
im 19 hes 24 ive been with him 9 month , on monday

Answer 1

Don't be so controlling. When he's out with his friends, he wants to spend time with his friends. If he wanted to spend all his time with you, he would. But people need their own personal space. Give him his.

Answer 2

Jen, Jen, Jen....what am I gonna do with young ladies like you. **sigh** Well first of all, you already know the answer to the question. So...I guess the next question is...how do you avoid this problem in the future...well....

You've experienced 19 years of life in a very small part of the world. The things you are saying are expressing your desire to have a husband. If you are to have a great husband and successful partner in life you really need to follow the following instructions carefully.

Never stop giving education your number 1 priority for the time being. Read, read, read, read and read some more. Doesn't matter what you read, just read....the information and experience that you pour into your head today, is what is going to define the way you live tomorrow. Travel, travel, travel, and travel some more. The more you travel, the more you experience about the options in life that you have to choose from. Work, work, work, and work some more. Put everything you have into what ever it is you do in life. Not only does it feel satisfying, but when you do that, people remember that and it creates a great foundation to the way that people perceive and respect you. I promise you that when you are doing all of this....the right person will fall into your life when you are ready.



or.......

keep text messaging kids about how angry you are that you don't get enough attention from them because they are out doing things that they shouldn't be doing.

Answer 3

Listen girl, you know that the answers he's giving you are lies so the question in your mind is why? It's hard to face it but even if he isn't cheating, he doesn't seem in love with you. Walk away before you learn this game. Personallly, when I don't answer calls or return texts it's because I: a) Don't like you (or) b) I'm busy with someone I find more entertaining. Don't you want a real friendship from a lover? Don't you want to be loved back? This guy has you acting like you have no pride! He thinks he can play you b/c you're 19. Ditch the drama and learn something about how strong you really are!

Answer 4

Please take a deep breath, you are not going to want to hear this: your boyfriend's friends may not like you. He is not telling you the truth about his phone and you know that. He is asking you to treat him better and he is treating you like a sure thing. Take a step back. Nine months is not forever. What happens in ten years when you are stuck home with the kids and he is still out with the 'boys' and has 'no service'. You also need to ask questions, not try to get even. You need to talk this thing through or maybe it is through. You can walk away with some of your dignity in tact right now dear and find a man who treats you better. I think he likes the fact that no matter how mad you get, no matter how poorly he treats you, you stay around. You aren't a pet, you are a person. You deserve better in all your relationships!

Answer 5

Because when he's with his friends, he doesn't want to appear to be tied down to a nagging girlfriend.

If you know he's going out with his friends, why are you calling him?

Having to call someone every day, wether you're going to be actually seeing them that day or not, smacks of insecurity. Develop your own life and interests, and when you get together, share your lives, and enjoy each other's company. But calling him all the time, especially when you know he's hanging our with the guys, will only annoy him, and makes you look clingy.

Answer 6

I'm a divorce attorney, and I've seen all of this before.
The answer to you is really extremely obvious. You are far too young for a serious relationship. Just let go, move on, enjoy life, and don't worry about such things. He's a loser. If you stick around him, you are too! You deserve better. You don't need a boyfriend at 19. Why ruin your life for a loser?

Answer 7

You are so extremely immature I can hardly stand it. What is wrong with you??? You need to grow up, sweetie. Stop chasing him, spying on him, questioning him, following him and realize that he is ultimately going to dump you because of all this stuff. He is not the one with the problem.....you are the one with the big problem! Now, shape up and grow up and stop acting like a 12 year old!

Answer 8

yor phone does end up dying at night, excuses can be from hiding things from you, are you too jealous always on top of him, is there distrust, your obsessiveness will drive him away and will make him do things he doesnt really intend to, try to make him happy, not stress him out get him angry, yourself angry, make him feel he doesnt need anoother women in his life not look for someone else

Answer 9

Just wondering, what would happen if you dissapear with your friends for a whole day and your phone died aswell?

Answer 10

your boyfriend sounds like a wanna be player. He want to be cool in front of his friends. And also guys when they are alone with friends they tend see who coluld do better with the chicks.
if i were you i would dump him and get somebody who really appreciates you. good luck