Long distance relationships?

Question

I'm currently working in Asia and the person I love is working in Mexico. We're trying so hard to make it work, and our love is holding us together. But it's really so difficult sometimes I just break down in exasperation. We talk almost everyday.. but I have nobody to hug and kiss, nobody to hold hands with in the movies.. you get the idea. Do you think it can last? If you have your own experience with Long distance relationships (good or bad) do tell us your story1

Just a few more details..

we've been together for 7 years already! I've already visited last June and my baby's coming over in September. All this is "temporary" for a couple of YEARS. I hope we survive it!

Answer 1

I have a friend who her bf is in New zealand and she alone in Asia. They falls in love with each other when that guy came to meet her. I understand your feelings that there s no one for u to hug, to kiss , to hold hands when u in the cinema to watch movie. But, trust me ..for long distance relationship you needed to trust each other.Even though, it might be tough for u, every day u r ALONE and feel jelous when u see couples holding hands and kissing each other. They have been together for one year and they plan to get married. So, just be patient and one day your dream will come true. Me myself also have a bf in Sweden , i love him very much and we promised to each other we will be together forever. As we know, " Nothing s impossible", just give both of u some times, may be u can fly there and give her a surprise. If u mean to be, u will be together forever. There are also a lot of successful cases who get married and live happy after. My english lecturer himself get married to a chinese woman who is so far away from him and they got married for ten years and still love each other. Long relationship need a lot of patient and trust..Just be patient and everything will be fine. Good luck!! And remember dont ever give up ..May be she is the ONE you mean to be. Who's know? :)

Answer 2

If you love this person deeply enough, you will put your longing for physical affection on the back burner until you can be together again. Believe me as a single person, I can tell you that you will survive without hugs, kisses and hand-holding. I've had very little of that in 21 years. I also can tell you that I know how STRONG the urge to be physically close with another can be. This is magnified by the fact that you love someone so far away. I encourage you to evaluate exactly what means more to you, the hand-holding and physical stuff, or waiting for this person and making changes to be with them. LD will never last in my opinion, unless it's working towards being together within 1-2 years. Good Luck.

Answer 3

My boyfriend and I are currently 1500 miles apart. It's been 4 months and it's difficult but we keep in touch on the phone everyday. I just went to a concert last night by myself and it was a very lonely feeling. But we can get through this because we both know that eventually we will be together. You must have a great deal of trust and commitment to be in this type of relationship. If you don't have those two components then it probably won't work out.
Is this a long term separation or is one of you going to join the other at some point?

Answer 4

Long Distance relationships can work. It takes effort but if you truly love that person it will work out. Think of the people who have relationships with people in the military and their loved ones is off in Iraq and they cant see them for years.
Keep talking everyday, send letters, if you get a chance to make a trip to visit do so.
Love conquers all :)

Answer 5

well i had long disatnce realtionship 1nce wid gal 4 11 mounths we sore each other 1nce or 2wice but that made matter worse beacue after meetin each other (and of course havin sex) it only meant i missed her more.. i would go days thinkin about hwer and relli missed her... this casued areguments and after 11 mounths we broke up :( but there was few more resons aswell....

but if u can both stay comited then u can work out but only 4 few years so it depends how long u spend apart mayb u should agree 2 a d8 when she moves there or u move 2 her... or u both move somewhere else 2gether this will defintly keep u strong..a sui kno it won't b 4ever like that!

Answer 6

my boyfriend and i have been having LD relationship for the past 4 years. We are still together. My ex and I have had a LD relationship too, but he broke up with me after 3 years. It really depends on how much you value your girlfriend, and how much you think she is worth it. It also involves a lot of trust and honesty on your part. Communication is also key. Be frank to her and make her feel that you really care about her. It really depends on how much you want it to work. I know someone who lives on the upper west side (in new york) who couldn't stand having a boyfriend too far away from her -- and he lives in chelsea

good luck to you!

Answer 7

I moved to Asia when I was 15 , and at 18 I went back to US for a tour and I met my classmate before . We fell in love but after 15 days I went back to Asia. Everyday I chatted with her on phone , but after 1 yr she made a new boyfriend cause we really didn't have anything more to chat with as I was not living with her.

Answer 8

I know it is not what you want to hear but the chances of making a long distance relationship work is really bad. I was involved in one once and even though we tried desperately it did not work. I am glad to say that we are still friends. Good luck.

Answer 9

a story is not what u r looking for u are looking for a good answer and the only thing i can say is the way i see it is u love this man so much stay with it becouse true love is so hard to find an once u lose it its kind of hard to find agane your love u got for him let that be the key hope i was helpful

Answer 10

I have long distance relationship before. I'm in Philippines and his in Italy. Its hard but we survive now we're married and have a very beautiful son..