I have a 5 year old step-daughter and I love her very much. I think of her as my child since I don't have any children of my own and she is getting where she calls me mommy sometimes. This past week-end I found out that she feel and cut her eye. I was a really bad cut. Her grandmother told me that when it happened that they thought about taking her to the ER but didn't because my child didn't want to go to the ER. ANd her grandmother also told me that she thought about calling me and my husband but is was late and she new that we had to work to next day. So i asked what time did all of this happen? Her grandmother told me it was after midnight when the accident happen. I asked her why wasn't she in bed and why would they let a 5 year stay up past midnight? Needless to say, that my husband is very upset with the whole thing and with her mom's family. So I guess what I am asking is should I let my husband only deal with her mom's family or should I get involve
2006-08-13 04:17:22 · 12 answers · asked by Smiley Freckles 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh i forgot to add she needed stiches. I just want to know why wasn't she taking to the ER and got medicial attention when she obvisiously needed it.
2006-08-13 04:19:02 · update #1
i think its so sweet that you love your stepdaughter and care for her so much. you have every right to be upset and get angry at her other family because they didn't do the right thing. they didn't calm the child down and take her to the hospital, and they should have called you or the father or the other mother to help. you can get involved, but i don't think the other mother will listen to you. it depends on your relationship with her. your husband should deal with it first, and if it doesn't get to them, then you can get involved. that way, you allowed your husband to deal with it, and if they didn't listen, then you definitely have the right to get involved. i think its so nice that you're so concerned for your stepdaughter. =)
2006-08-13 04:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by blue_bee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that you should let your husband deal with his ex-wife's family. It could get nasty for you and you don't have any custodial interest with the child. You could report the incident to Social Services if the child's father doesn't want to do anything about the situation but I'd not get in the middle of things as a step parent especially if the child doesn't live with you full time.
2006-08-13 12:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by Melius 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ought to likely purely go away, tell your husband that till they are gone you aren't any further coming back. it is purely too a lot for a lady your age to might want to positioned up with. (or any age). If he would not lead them to go away then you actually rather a lot comprehend the position you stand with him. And if he does, then you actually go female. yet you particularly shouldn't might want to positioned up with that on your own residence and he might want to appreciate your emotions. yet stand your floor, in case you do not your existence will rather a lot be an same with him. continually some problem jointly with his daughter.
2016-11-30 00:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have You should step up to the plate however the grandmother knew she should have went but didn't call you .....because you had to work?an emergency is an emergency let her know that it doesn't even matter if you are at work if you are the last or only 9ne to get her the care she needs what difference does it make?remember to keep your cool she may have been just going to the restroom. don't jump to high till you find out everything. hope you get things straight .take care
2006-08-13 04:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by wewamom2503 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell them that she needed stitches, (someone took her to the doctor and she had stitches put in?), and if that ever happens again that no matter what time of the day or night it is they should call you if they don't want to take her. A 5 year old is not able to make a decision on what requires medical attention.
2006-08-13 04:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage your husband to ask questions, but no, I don't think that you, personally, should instigate anything. It isn't your place to do so. I don't know what your relationship is like with the child's mother, but I doubt she would appreciate being questioned and will immediately become defensive. Let your husband deal with that.
2006-08-13 04:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by Taffi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should stand up to your stepdaughter's mother and family. you love her like she is your own so you have the right to do so. something could be going on and they didn't want to take her to the er for treatment and they are in fear that she will get taken away.
2006-08-13 05:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do something. She needed medical attention and she didn't get it you care for her you have a right to stand up for that poor little girl.
2006-08-13 06:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get ur daughter feel safe and calm first, that's ur top priority!!!
then, ask her why/how did she got out of the house at that time of the night? if it's their fault, u should get involved. but please don't do "it's ur fault!" attitude. just talk it with them and get over it. remember: forgive_and-forget principle.
but if she's actually sneaking out, make her understand that what she's done is a really, i mean REALLY, dangerous thing to do. but don't get angry with her. she's a child affter all.
2006-08-13 04:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by apc_nuke 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are responsible for her too as a step mom. You have every right to interfere with your little girl's well being. Good luck & Kudos to you for loving that little girl as your own.
2006-08-13 04:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by Tortured Soul 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋